In order to solve the problem of how to relieve anxiety, I read Carnegie's book "Interpersonal Communication", and finally preliminarily summed up the "three-step" strategy of the cafe, hoping to make progress with you! Khadaka said in the book that there is no need to make a fuss about anxiety, which is a problem that everyone will face. Then, it is pointed out that confusion is the main factor causing anxiety.
We need to give the difficulty a big hug and then improve it. For example, you are fired, but you will always find another job. Then try to change it. A man is terminally ill. He chose to accept the bad news, and then made an amazing decision: to travel around the world with a coffin. After that, I was very happy to go home, and of course I had a good time. Mentality is the best treatment.
Of course, it is difficult to embrace difficulties. Great God suggested that projects that spend time hating and resenting people should be stopped. In other words, set yourself a deadline. After that period, you don't have to worry about those things.
The common protagonists in anxiety cases are often on the verge of mental breakdown, immersed in negative emotions, selfish or overly concerned about other people's opinions. Therefore, Dr. Ka suggested that you should always comfort your soul.
First of all, remember that those positive and optimistic things are the focus of your attention. Pay attention to the beauty in life and live a happy life. A girl went to a new place to work and live. At first, she hated this place very much. Her father taught her to focus only on positive things. Slowly, she felt the beautiful sunset and lovely people in this city, so she no longer hated this place. The next time you are angry and depressed, you might as well just focus on some happy things.
Secondly, admit that human beings have selfish nature, but don't expect to be grateful and enjoy the joy of giving. The last time you helped others, did you wait for others to express your gratitude? If not, will you be disappointed? Of course, you must express your gratitude, but don't expect others, just enjoy the process of doing good.
Then, find yourself and don't be someone else. Don't be jealous of imitating others and becoming yourself, then you can develop your potential. Don't get angry next time you are criticized. This only shows that you are an important person. Because others are jealous and envious.
Too much entanglement is harmful. Especially once you have a clear understanding of your reasons and make a decision, you must act, stop being stubborn, stop thinking about your decision and stop doubting. Maybe you've been obsessing about the future and the past all night, but it's meaningless. Will you regret not really living today? So live in the present and throw away all the troubles of yesterday and tomorrow. Leave today's time for today, instead of complaining about the past and looking forward to the future. For a wise man, every day means a new beginning. Repeat this sentence to yourself every morning!
Learn to rest and relax before you get tired. This fried chicken is very important! Psychologists have found that people's emotions lead to physical fatigue, not physical failure. Edison is a prolific man. He has a famous saying: "I have never had a job in my life, because it is not a job, but a pleasure." "So find your own fun and make it your job. If you find a job, enjoy it and work methodically.
To sum up, the three steps are to recognize your anxiety and find a problem to solve. Of course, it is very important to resolutely implement it in the end!