Parents are their children’s most important life mentors! (Thought-provoking, in-depth and good article)

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Once seen on the Internet There is such a sentence: "It's really scary to think that you don't need to pass an exam to be a parent." Compared with children, some parents actually need education more.

1. After giving birth to a child, you cannot "return the product"

No matter what kind of child you are facing, you cannot regret or "return the product". When farmers grow crops, love alone is not enough. Only by knowing how to grow crops can they have a good harvest. When educating children, love alone is not enough. Only by understanding the rules of children's growth can they have a good future.

2. Don’t miss the critical period of children’s development

The critical period of development refers to the mastery of certain behaviors, skills and knowledge of human beings, which develop fastest and most in a certain period. Easily influenced.

If a child is given the right education during the critical period of development, he will learn quickly and well, often getting twice the result with half the effort; once the critical period is missed, it will take several times the effort to learn. To make up for it, it may even never be possible to make up for it.

How much do you know about the critical period of children’s development:

The critical period of learning to chew (6 months)

The critical period of order and regulation (2.5-6 years old) for children It is a critical period for the formation of behavioral habits. The characters, behaviors, and habits formed during this period often do not change when they grow up. "You are older when you are three years old, and you are older when you are seven years old."

Critical period for language development (3-6 years old)

Critical period for imagination development (2-8 years old)

Culturally Sensitive Period (6-10 years old) Many children in this period are very curious, love to use their brains, and have many questions. Children’s desire for knowledge should be satisfied.

If you miss the scientific reading guidance and extensive reading during the golden reading period (8-14 years old), it will cause irreparable shortcomings in the child's growth.

If the critical period of independence (12-15 years old) is not properly grasped, the child will never grow up.

Reunderstand maternal love and paternal love

Children need both maternal love and paternal love, but the division of labor and priorities are different at each stage. Maternal love: virtues, etiquette, character and temperament. Mothers have a huge influence on their children during their infancy and childhood. Fatherly love: directional guidance and rational action. A great father must be the guide and founder of his children's ideas.

The transition stage between primary and secondary schools is the end of the romantic stage and the beginning of the precise stage of children's growth; it is the transition period from mother's love to father's love. During this period, maternal love should be appropriately reduced and paternal love should be appropriately increased.

3. "8 Suggestions" for parents

(To father) The way home after get off work should be the way home

After the child enters junior high school, more Needs father's care. As a father, you must be aware of your educational responsibilities. Children who eat with their parents are better.

A research institution has investigated: Junior high school students who have dinner with their parents can get better nutrition, have higher academic performance, and are less likely to smoke, drink, take drugs, fight, have early sex, etc. Do not educate your children while they are eating and sleeping; do not turn talking to your children into educating your children.

When a child is "sick", parents must "take medicine". If the parents change, the child will change.

Children's problems are mostly caused by improper education by parents. If a child is "sick", parents must "take medicine". Good parents make a good school. Parents are the best "role models" for their children. Teaching by example is more important than teaching by words. As parents, you need to grow up with your children.

The prerequisite for educating children is to understand them

The famous American educator Dewey said: "Children are not adults who have not yet grown up. Childhood has its own intrinsic value."

After children enter junior high school, it is very easy for them to close themselves off. Parents must understand their children and find the language code to communicate with them, but they must also pay attention to cherishing "words" like gold.

Mature parents should study child pedagogy and psychology, read more tutoring books and periodicals, understand the characteristics and patterns of children at different stages of growth, communicate with their children frequently, and understand what their children are thinking and doing. .

Children must be managed, the key is how to manage them

The most basic purpose of education is to cultivate "normal people". "One hand", "one eye" and "one muscle" education are not advisable. Change the way you think about educating your children. Strive to enrich your own education methods.

Be a parent who understands and loves well

Many parents love confusedly, misplacedly, and sometimes too much. Don't raise "super babies." Love is an art. Love requires expression and action. Sometimes a hug is worth a thousand words. Love in moderation, don't let your love overflow. The result of spoiling is harm.

Don’t educate your children in public

Don’t leave your children completely to elders or nannies

Praise teachers more in front of children

Learn to use appreciation Look at the teacher with eyes. Parents and teachers are comrades in the same trench and must form allies with teachers. If parents always nag about the teacher's "mistakes" in front of their children, criticize the teacher, or even quarrel with the teacher, it will only increase the child's rejection of the teacher. Over time, it is the children who suffer and the parents who suffer.

The best education for parents is continuous learning