Don't panic, take care of the children. In Please Answer the Teacher, I was caught by a child of 10. He fell in love with a female classmate because the girl kicked him the lightest when she was in charge of discipline. Dad thought it was very interesting. My mother was very nervous and resolutely opposed it, thinking it was puppy love. And said: Like adults, this kind of love will directly affect children's learning.

He Zi, caught in the middle, doesn't know what to do. Cai Guoqing's 7-year-old son Phoebe has a similar problem. He received a note from a female classmate. Open it and see, it is eye-catching "love you". Ask mom for help quickly. Mother told him: Don't think too much, this girl just wants to be your good friend. Phoebe told the girl frankly that you wanted to be good friends with me, and I promised you.

It just disappeared. Just like a 5-year-old child, I think love is: my father pours a cup of coffee for my mother, and my mother ties my shoelaces. Before puberty, children's likes are particularly simple, far less complicated than adults think. Children are basically pure friendship, and most of the objects they like are their own learning objects. I agree with Cai Guoqing that this is natural and interesting, and children don't need to exaggerate this kind of thing.

Since it is so normal, let the children generously express their likes and gain friendship. Face up to children's inner needs and respect their privacy. I heard a story: Xiaoming fell in love with his deskmate quietly the next day. The reason is very sad: Xiaoming has never been recognized by his parents at home. But every time I silently encourage and support him, I agree that he will take the same high school and university in the future.

Adolescent children, in the process of finding themselves and exploring the outside world, will have a lot of confusion and need to talk to someone. Professor Li Meijin once said that the most important reason for puppy love is the lack of gender in the family. If girls lack fatherly love and boys lack maternal love, it is easy to fall in love. On the contrary, if a child especially appreciates his parents, it is difficult for him to fall in love early, because his parents set an example and he will have high requirements for the object of love. Puppy love may be a signal that a child needs love.

It is not easy for middle-aged and elderly parents to bear all kinds of pressures. However, if you are busy, please take some time to talk with your child and try to create a family atmosphere where he can speak freely. When my friend Huan Huan was in the second grade, my mother dug out a love letter from her schoolbag. Then without saying anything, she rushed to the school to find the boy, the teacher and the boy's parents. Huan Huan said: At that time, I really wanted to find a place to do needlework. After that, she never trusted her parents again.

Huang Lei said: I will never look at children's mobile phones and computers. Respect is the most important thing for a child. I want her to know what is right and what is wrong. How can you let your children do it if you can't do it yourself? Everyone has his own little secret, so let the children cherish it.