In the process of starting a business, we often feel anxious, so how should we eliminate it? How to eliminate entrepreneurial anxiety is what I brought to you. I hope it will help you.
Step 1: Understand your relationship with fear.
It is important to say in advance that in order to change your relationship with fear and anxiety, you need to know what you are dealing with. Cordaro said: Fear is a primitive emotion and a stress reaction. In order to ensure our survival and safety, for example, when avoiding a speeding car, we will have fear. And anxiety is because we imagine the future threat based on our own imagination, or try to avoid the painful experience of the past based on fantasy. Fear usually lasts for a few seconds, while anxiety is often chronic and can last for days or even months. ?
In order to explain what anxiety is, Miranno gave a famous saying he liked, from Mark Twain:
"I am an old man and know a lot of troubles, but most of them have never happened. 」
As entrepreneurs, we face uncertainties and risks every day. Once something is unknown, it is natural to feel anxious. Some common anxiety thoughts include: What if the money is gone? If the product launch fails, will I be fired by the board of directors? According to Miranno's experience, even if his clients have been very successful, they will have long-term anxious thoughts, such as? Where will the next big thing come from? , or? How can I continue to prove this huge market value?
The key point here is that when people say they are experiencing fear, 99% of the time they are actually worried about events that may never happen. When this kind of anxiety happens, our subconscious mind plays a bad record all day (singing the same song over and over again), and our limbic system, especially the amygdala, which is responsible for coping with threats, will be highly active. Once we look at the world with a threatening eye, our vision will become narrow and the possibilities will become limited.
Once we only see the limited possibilities, Cordaro said: This will greatly damage our decision-making ability, which is one of our most important leadership assets for entrepreneurs. Whether you admit it or not, every decision we make must first be filtered by emotions, and fear is one of the most powerful emotional filters. Think about it: Is there a difference between the decisions you make when you are happy and those you make when you are sad and desperate? This is the case in most cases, so it is important to realize that EQ is an essential quality for entrepreneurial leaders. ?
Step 2: Find the source of anxiety.
Once you realize that what you are experiencing is probably anxiety, the problem becomes how to release this anxiety and let you do things while stretching your self-awareness and creativity.
Miranno proposed that the 1 step to explore the source of anxiety is to pay attention to the attachment to specific results and identities. ? Anxiety is fear. More fear. This is caused by the attachment. It is rooted in our need to control things around us in order to maintain known security. ? Miranno suggested that the founders of anxiety should consider these questions:
What expectations, ideas or results would you attach? Specific investors? A special client? Or is it a specific type of product being manufactured? Or is the cash flow positive within six months?
What identity is driving this attachment? Have you established an image for yourself among investors, media and teams: I am the next subversive entrepreneur?
Look at this example: a founder told her investors that the company's cash flow would turn positive within six months. Then inevitably encountered some obstacles, obviously, the goal can not be achieved. At this time, it is easy to fall into the swamp of anxiety and speculation: will the board leave me alone? Will the team question my leadership?
On the other hand, if leaders can explore what they are attached to, they can look at things in a more constructive way. Miranno said? It is healthy to admit that you are obsessed with a specific result, ease the tension about it, and then use your creativity to design a new path based on reality. So you can face the reality and tell your team sincerely and clearly? It seems that the time will not be 6 months, but it may be 12 months. We already know the situation, so here's what we have to do. ?
It may be more difficult to cut off the dependence on identity, but it is crucial to consider this. Many founders, whether out of their own strategies or because of the attention of the media, put on themselves? The next big thing? Coat. Suddenly, they not only develop products and run companies, but also live up to public expectations. ? Once your product does not perform well after listing, this identity will be threatened. At that time, it will not only be a problem of poor products, but everyone will accuse you of being a liar, but everyone is afraid of being put on this hat. ?
This is one of the biggest fears of entrepreneurs: I promoted this next big thing to all these friends and investors, but it didn't succeed in the end. I am a liar.
Miranno said? This shows the power of modesty. ? The most inspiring leaders know that this is not their business. They admit that there will be challenges, respect competition and be prepared for ups and downs. The important thing is that they will communicate these with the team and investors. ? They said,? This is not just my business. We need to work together to realize this wonderful mission. We will encounter some bumps along the way. What matters is us. As a team and the board of directors, we must control it together. ?
Cordaro added? It is important to know that it is ok to have a specific identity, which is completely natural and part of human nature. You just need to know that all these identities will hide your expectations, and these will soon accumulate. As a leader, it is much happier to make decisions from the best perspective of the company and society than to maintain personal identity. ?
After helping customers identify their unconscious attachment and identity, Miranno and Cordaro began to study three sources of fear, which are called? Three cultures of fear. ?
Lack of culture: a belief system with insufficient resources (such as time and money).
Culture of disgust: can you say it? My experience is wrong? Or? I shouldn't feel this way? A belief system (such as shame, guilt, etc.) )
Cheap culture: think? I can't. Is this me? Belief system.
In order to achieve the next big thing, most entrepreneurs who often barely have enough or work 16 hours a day are familiar with the lack of culture. Regarding the lack of time, Cordaro said: Interestingly, in terms of financial resources, Silicon Valley is one of the richest places in the world, but in terms of time, it is one of the poorest places in the world. ?
However, Miranno and Cordaro believe that lack of culture is actually a myth, which is rooted in unconscious social beliefs and can be changed through consciousness and new habits. According to Cordaro, this practice is very important because? Once there is no dominance, selfishness, excessive competition and stagnant creativity will also dominate. On the other hand, if abundance dominates, generosity, cooperation and rapid change will also dominate. ?
When cooperating with clients, Miranno and Cordaro asked them to write new and more powerful stories through the course arrangement, so that these clients could dig deep into what they lacked.
Reject a culture of disgust
Cordaro pointed out that fear should never be a goal, but should be recognized and accepted. Among all the entrepreneurs he taught, he found the same pattern: first, he thought of a good idea, and then he tried to turn it into reality. ? This process is both exciting and interesting. Driven by desire and creativity. ? Then they started specific company construction work, and then anxiety appeared. ? Something blocked my view; I hope the world is like this, but something stands in my way. Fear is a natural part of this process. ?
Accept this mentality, and fear will no longer be like a threat; This is just part of the plan.
According to the experience of Miranno and Cordaro, the subsequent changes in mentality will have a far-reaching impact on the founders. When the product fails, when the new app only gets 2 stars in the app store, and when the financing is unsuccessful, the successful founder will not fall into this thinking. It was a terrible experience. It shouldn't be like this. ? Instead, they will accept these obstacles as part of their experience? This is the only attitude they can and should have. They regard this experience as an opportunity for their own development. The more frustrated they are, the braver they are, thus becoming better, stronger and more inspiring leaders.
Miranno said? When the product doesn't work, you need such feedback to create the product that everyone really needs. ?
Every time you experience fear and anxiety, there is actually information and data to be discovered.
Anxiety lets you know when you need to adapt. Miranno pointed out that the problem is that you just worry all day and don't know what to do. These emotions will be bad if they become habits. Habitual anxiety almost always leads to escape or disgust.
App only has 2 stars? Customers don't like it? It needs to be changed. Miranno said? People who have a healthy relationship with fear will say, at this point, I will accept it, embrace it, and I will accept this message. How can I creatively solve it next? On the other hand, leaders who have an unhealthy relationship with fear usually lose the opportunity to correct their course and get into things. There should be? How to develop emotions, thus missing the useful signal of this transformation.
Besides, running away from fear will only delay it. Cordaro said: All emotions are to provide information about the surrounding environment. That's why we have evolved to feel these emotions. Emotion is data, which helps us survive tens of thousands of generations of evolution. If we don't listen to an emotion, we can't fully receive this kind of data, and it will keep coming. ? When you let yourself fully feel and accept an emotion, it will dissipate quickly, often in 30 to 90 seconds at the earliest.
In this way, accepting fear is not only a good idea? It is also an important competitive advantage. Bad products or apps with low ratings will not repair themselves. But listen to your feelings and let go, and your problems can be effectively reduced by half. Cordaro asked? As an entrepreneur, do you want to double your problems, or do you just want to deal with what needs to be done?
Be a role model for the team: starting a business is riding a roller coaster. Accept this and try to make it up to you. There will be no collapse.
Form a firm sense of self-worth
The last culture of fear is a worthless culture. Miranno said? This is not only unique to entrepreneurship, but also an epidemic of human beings. ? What will this belief system think? It is not enough for me to go on like this. I have to do something extraordinary to realize myself. ? Many years ago, this culture hit Milan the hardest.
Whenever Miranno asks his clients if they want to prove something to themselves, their families or society by starting a company, the answer is always very clear. No? . ? Most people don't realize the power of worthless culture until they make a big mistake. Failure? . Of course, I am one of them. ?
How can we determine whether we need to improve our sense of value? Miranno pointed out that one of the quickest ways is to ask yourself a question: If the company fails completely and you stumble, will you still love and accept yourself? Cordaro and Milan often see each other holding their breath in tutorial classes, even across the screen. Miranno said? This is a very shocking and shocking experience. ?
Miranno said? When we face the disillusionment of our ideals and dreams, it is natural to feel that our self-worth is very low. ? For him, this is the best gift left by his failure to solve food waste and start a business.
He said; ? This experience plunged me into a sense of failure and low self-worth, but I also learned another important lesson of life and death. No success or achievement can fill the gap in self-worth. Luxury houses, luxury cars or shiny headlines can't provide real self-realization. Now I feel useful and know what it's like to create pure happiness. It doesn't need my company to prove my self-worth. In my opinion, this is one of the most important skills that entrepreneurs can cultivate. ?
With this experience, Milano now guides customers to find their own unique experience of becoming the source of worthless culture. He said:? Maybe your parents didn't tell you that you have done well enough and you want to prove your worth. ? Sometimes it comes from a bitter professional experience? For example, the position of CEO is one of the main examples, and then you will want to prove that you can be a good CEO.
Judging from Cordaro's experience as a psychologist, it is very revolutionary for the founder to ask such self-questions. He said:? One powerful thing I have seen is that people are curious about who they are and why they do it. This attitude makes everyone become the most influential person in society as much as possible. ?
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