There are no absolute good people and no absolute bad people in this world. People are cunning and selfish, but they are also kind and enthusiastic. Human nature is complex and changeable.

The Human Nature You Must Know is another work by the writer Liu Yongji, I'm not teaching you to cheat. He used "stories around him" and ancient and modern examples to analyze real life layer by layer.

The author's incisive and explicit analysis of human nature not only makes people hold their breath, but also makes readers "understand" human nature and feel the truth, goodness and beauty of human nature.

What you need to know, what we should know.

0 1 Take care of other people's faces, but don't say anything proud before being frustrated.

As the old saying goes, "Man struggles for a breath, while Buddha struggles for a wick."

In China, many people regard face as more important than anything else, and spend a lot of time on saving face.

For example, some people, no matter what the deity looks like, have to be beautified by a beauty camera or Meitu Xiu Xiu before they are exposed;

Some people, no matter how flat their wallets are or how much they are in debt, always struggle to pay the bill when eating;

Some people are worried about three meals a day one minute and can afford brand-name bags the next. ...

When you take care of others' faces, they may remember your advantages; When you don't care about other people's faces, they may be desperate to find you, hurting others and hurting themselves.

Liu Yong told such a story in Humanity You Must Know.

Manager Wang of the company is called "Wang Tiezui". In the past two weeks, as long as the stock he recommended will go up, everyone will make money. In order to thank him, a celebration banquet was held.

But it didn't last long. In the next two weeks, "Wang Tiezui" failed.

He said that which stock goes up will go down; He said that any stock that fell would go up.

Gradually, colleagues lost trust in Manager Wang, so they formed a self-help meeting to study the stock together.

Except Xiao Qiu sitting in the corner, he bought it from Manager Wang.

Seeing manager Wang every day, Xiaoqiu catches up and asks. Then, like digging for treasure, come back and announce it to everyone.

All the people who set up the self-help meeting made money and prepared to hold a celebration banquet. When manager Wang was invited, he said with a straight face, "I have something to do."

When Xiaoqiu was invited, Xiaoqiu refused and sat in the office for lunch with Manager Wang.

When everyone made money in succession, but Manager Wang lost a lot of money, Xiao Zhang, a college classmate who was Manager Wang, asked Manager Wang to buy it together, but all of them were coldly rejected by Manager Wang.

Colleagues also privately advised Xiaoqiu not to buy with Manager Wang, but Xiaoqiu wouldn't listen. At the closing, everyone cheered, and Xiaoqiu sat in the corner with his head down.

Later, manager Wang went bankrupt, and it is said that he owed more than 20 million. Creditor debt collection company, he had to submit his resignation.

What is puzzling is that Xiaoqiu not only has a successful career, but also has been promoted from a junior clerk to a manager, which is said to be highly recommended by Manager Wang.

When Xiaoqiu held a promotion banquet at home, his colleagues were surprised to see Xiaoqiu's home look brand-new.

It turned out that Xiaoqiu also secretly followed everyone to buy recommended stocks and made a fortune, but he didn't say it.

Xiaoqiu knows that people are the most important, so don't say anything in front of frustrated people. So, he tried to maintain manager Wang's face:

Nobody believed him, so he asked Manager Wang which stock to buy every day. When everyone went to celebrate, he silently accompanied manager Wang to have a light meal; When he got rich with everyone, he kept silent. ...

It was Xiaoqiu who tried his best to safeguard the dignity of Manager Wang in front of others. Manager Wang felt that Xiaoqiu understood him and stood by him, so he strongly recommended Xiaoqiu before leaving his job.

It is easy to add icing on the cake, but it is rare to send charcoal in the snow.

Maybe we can't provide any effective help when others are unhappy, but empathy and not showing off our achievements may be the greatest comfort.

When a friend complains to you that his child is disobedient, it is better to speak ill of his child than to give him advice;

When people complain to you about the contradiction between husband and wife, instead of teaching them how to get along, it is better to say, "We often quarrel and even divorce."

Li Ka-shing has a wise saying:

"When you put down your face to make money, you are sensible. When you earn back your face with money, it means you have succeeded. When you can make money with your face, it means that you are already a character. "

People depend on their faces, while trees depend on their skins. When we learn to give people "face" and safeguard others' self-esteem, we may not be far from success.

Don't overestimate your feelings and underestimate your interests.

Churchill once said, "There are no eternal friends and enemies, only eternal interests."

The world is bustling for profit, and the world is bustling for profit.

Don't ask the poor in downtown, the rich have distant relatives in the mountains.

In real life, if you overestimate your feelings, you will often get black and blue all over yourself; If you underestimate the benefits, you will eventually lose the game.

There is a story in the book:

Old Mo, a retired petty officer, happened to meet the policy because of the sympathy of the leaders, and was originally assigned a good house.

The house is designed by architectural professionals, and the material is red granite with first-class stone. It is located opposite the Silver Palace building where Marshal Franco lives, with a wide field of vision and charming scenery.

But such a good house disappeared because of the "early visit" of the old leading general Sang, and became a "mediocre qualification".

Who can blame this? A man is innocent, but he is guilty.

Such a good house, good location, good building materials, good vision, and the design of first-class architects have never been seen by a general. How can a retired non-commissioned officer have it?

I only blame Lao Mo for overestimating the kindness of the old leader to him, forgetting that General Sang is also a human being and wants to take good things for himself.

Similar things, from ancient times to the present, abound.

Father in Historical Records and Biography of Wu Zixu

Knowing that his son, the King of Chu, had made a woman obsessed with the State of Qin, the King of Chu sent someone to the State of Qin to help his son find an object.

The woman was found, but King Chu Ping didn't give her to the prince, but took her as his concubine, because the woman was so beautiful.

Nowadays, beautiful women, like father and son, can turn against each other, let alone two people who are not related by blood.

So, the next time you are ready for a promotion and salary increase, don't tell your colleagues before you formally accept your fate;

When you have a crush on a boy or a girl, don't tell your friends in a hurry.

There is no need to harm people, and there is no need to prevent people.

When you can't keep what you have, you'd better not tell others easily, and don't show it off to others easily, no matter how deep your feelings for each other are.

This may be cruel, but it is human nature.

Just like the motto of the circus animal trainer:

"Before you put your head into the lion's mouth, don't forget to hold the whip in your hand and feed your lion."

03 not suffering from widowhood but suffering from inequality

Jiang Ziya once said:

"The world is not a person's world, but a person's world."

There is no absolute fairness in the world, and everyone is eager to be treated fairly. Once fairness is lost, many problems will arise.

The famous "killing three scholars in two ways" in history is such an example.

During the Spring and Autumn Period, Gong, Tian Kaijiang and Gu Yezi were skilled in martial arts, which laid a good foundation.

But with their brilliant military exploits, no one paid attention to them and became brothers, working in collusion with each other and bullying the people.

Yan Ying wanted to get rid of these three people, so he asked Gong Jing to give them two peaches and let them choose according to their merits.

Sun quickly replied, "I saved Wang Li by fighting tigers" and got a peach.

Then Gu Yezi said, "I killed the giant salamander in the water and saved your life" and got a peach.

At that time, Tian Kaijiang was anxious and said, "I have made meritorious service to my country. Why are there no peaches? "

Qi Jinggong had to stand at the booth: "Unfortunately, there are no peaches."

Tian Kaijiang loves face the most and is very angry when he hears this. When he was drunk, he even drew his sword and committed suicide.

Yoko Miyagawa committed suicide only because they didn't get peaches, so they all drew their swords and committed suicide.

"Not suffering from widowhood but suffering from inequality", society needs fairness, and the pursuit of fairness is human nature.

Martin Luther King pursued equality all his life. In his famous speech "I Have a Dream", he shouted:

"I have a dream that one day on the red hill in Georgia, the sons of former slaves and the sons of former slave owners can sit down together and talk about brotherhood."

Jane Eyre did not give up the pursuit of fairness because of her poor family and ordinary appearance, but announced loudly:

"I am poor, humble and unattractive, but when our souls come to God through the grave, we are all equal."

Rich people with great wealth, because of their preference for children, led to family division and brothers turned against each other. ...

Therefore, in daily life, we should be fair and impartial.

In the company, the appearance is consistent, the leaders and colleagues are treated equally, and they are neither humble nor supercilious;

Ask for a bowl of water at home, don't be partial to a child, otherwise it will only harm others and yourself, and the loss will outweigh the gain.

In life, we should treat everyone with respect and equality, and be neither supercilious nor supercilious. ...

Shakespeare once said: "The same sun shines on his palace, and it has never evaded our thatched cottage: the sunshine is the same."

Society is harmonious because of equality, and individuals are satisfied because of fairness.

04

Read such a sentence:

"A person's best state is that his eyes are full of stories, but his face is not weathered."

Liu Yong's Humanity You Must Know reveals humanity in a pungent and straightforward way. It may be bloody, but there is no lack of temperature and true feelings. This is a very extensive and in-depth book and is worth reading.

I hope that each of us is ignorant of the world, smooth and sincere, good at self-deprecating and not mocking others, and stay in the rivers and lakes.