Writer Yi Shu said:
Face is the most difficult and useless thing for a person to let go.
The more you care about it, the heavier it is, and the harder it is for you to move.
The stupidest thing in the world is to be wronged rather than pretend to be decent. Afraid of being looked down upon, whitewash yourself, exaggerate yourself and satisfy vanity. If you don't restrain yourself, you can only drag yourself into the abyss.
Face, if you can afford it, you won't get stuck in it. How much can you eat? Knowing contentment is the way to health.
All kinds of obesity, early enjoyment and early consumption are all at the expense of overdrawing the future. If you can't control your desires, you can only keep sinking, and finally get lost in and swallowed up by them.
People who care too much about face often live the most tired. There is a question on the Zhihu: "What makes most people physically and mentally exhausted, and they are willing to rush forward and collide for it?"
Unexpectedly, the highly praised answer is not "money" but "face".
Some people say, "The face is like a mask and shackles that people design for themselves when they grow up."
People who can't let go of their face are often held back by the illusory face, which not only imprisons our thoughts and fetters our body and mind, but also makes us hold back and lead a hard life.
In Mo Bosang's short story The Necklace, Mathilde, the heroine, is an extraordinary beautiful girl. She is obsessed with glitz and pays too much attention to ostentation and extravagance.
The vanity and love of comparison in her bones make her very dissatisfied with everything around her. She feels that such a life is not worthy of her natural beauty, so she dreams of entering the upper class every day, living a luxurious life and enjoying the envy and pursuit of others.
Until one day, the husband brought an invitation to a high-class banquet, and it took the couple ten years to pay off their debts, which also made them understand their desires and reality.
"Desperate to save face and suffer", this "sin" is not worth it. Mathilde spent 400 francs on clothes and borrowed a diamond necklace from a friend to attend the party.
At the banquet, she stood out and shone brightly, attracting a lot of attention from the opposite sex and praise from the same sex, and her heart was greatly satisfied.
However, the borrowed necklace was accidentally lost by her. In order to make up for her mistake, she resolutely decided to buy a similar necklace and repay it to Mrs. Frais.
However, this made the poor couple bankrupt, borrowed usury and got into huge debts.
Writer Zweig said: "All the gifts given by fate have already been priced in the dark."
Everything has a cause and effect. All unreasonable desires and excessive overdrafts are marked in the dark, and sooner or later they will pay the corresponding price.
In life, many of us, like Mathilde, have a certain degree of vanity. However, when you can't even guarantee your daily consumption, you continue to pretend to be fat and indulge in all kinds of substances that you can't afford, which will only make you fall into a quagmire and full of anxiety.
Only when we are adults do we realize that life is not what we think. In the end, we realize that this dignity is false and the most worthless.
A person's greatest stupidity is to save face, and his heart is not rich enough, so it is easy to fall into the misunderstanding of filling poverty with materials. By bragging and showing off your dignity, you will only overdraw yourself and fall into a bottomless abyss.
If you put down your face, you can live a good life. There is a saying that:
Pride is a natural quality in people's bones, and everyone has it. There is nothing different or inappropriate. There is a difference because some people put down their faces in order to have more face, while others lose face in order to save face.
The more useless people are, the more they pursue superficial things, and those smart people understand that face is not given by others, but earned by themselves.
Many times, we all have the illusion that what we can't get is the best, and what we can't get is the most needed.
As everyone knows, desire and vanity are like a beast, devouring people a little.
Only by putting aside superficial falsehood and living for yourself can one be more confident on the road of life.
As Mr. Jiang Yang said:
We were so eager for the waves of fate that we finally found that the most beautiful scenery in life is actually inner peace and calmness.
A person really becomes strong, not to protect self-esteem, but when he puts aside self-esteem, because face is always given by himself.
Only by putting down the useless face can we not live in the eyes of others and struggle painfully. Only by becoming excellent enough can live high be achieved.
Life is really bitter, but please believe that the night is still dark, and it will be bright whether there is sun or not tomorrow. It is foolish to earn money on your knees, not shameful, but shameful to live.