I have a relative who returned to his hometown from abroad and thought that he was well-informed. After returning to his hometown, he started to criticize, either saying that the hygiene at home was not clean, or that the clothes at home were not neatly arranged. Especially when she went to the kitchen, she saw that the cooking pot her mother was cooking in was black from the fire, so she took it and threw it away. As a result, she had a quarrel with her mother, and her mother was so angry that she wanted to drive away. Let her go and tell her not to stay at home.

This is a typical person who does not have a strong sense of boundaries. When he goes out to see the outside world, he feels that nothing is good at home. Even the moon abroad is worse than his hometown.

She was educated at a prestigious domestic university. After completing her studies, she became a nationality of another country. She made money at home, but regularly went abroad to pay taxes. She also said that things in China were not good. That’s not good….

During her return from abroad, her mother cooked and washed clothes for her every day. She usually doesn't go home. Even if her parents are sick and hospitalized, they don't come back to take care of her. There are a lot of things to do when she comes back. She sees that everything at home is not going well all day long, and it makes her family members very annoyed to see her.

Really, for those who lack a sense of boundaries, intervene in other people's lives casually without knowing it, and say in an understatement, "It's okay if I do this, right?" "Is your time okay?" Say this kind of thing This kind of person really makes people feel very hateful. They are purely using the relationship between relatives to waste other people's time and emotions at will.

I remember the last time she called after she came back and wanted to go to dinner together, but I refused directly. The moment I hung up the phone, I felt really good. I felt that I was able to express my truest feelings. A kind of respect for myself

I found that when I express my opinions firmly, do not please others, and clearly say "no", everything remains the same, but I feel more comfortable.

There are all kinds of people around us who lack a sense of boundaries. They often rationalize their remarks: "Relatives are caring about you" and "Parents are doing it for your own good." etc.

However, as long as the starting point is good, can we ignore all the problems of the way we do things? Is it really possible to handle all kinds of relationships just by "taking care of yourself"?

Not necessarily, these people with this kind of concept are actually dictating the lives of others. They are all showing off their own sense of superiority and lacking a sense of boundaries.

Any person can only know how to establish boundaries in life for himself and know how to keep his bottom line in life and work. At the same time, he dares to deal with offending people and those who casually violate his boundaries and hurt himself for no reason. , and carry out appropriate counterattacks, our lives will be quieter and happier.

As an adult, you don’t want to disturb other people’s lives at will. You need to grasp the sense of proportion and abide by boundaries and other self-requirements in daily life. When it is a kind of moral cultivation, you should always remind yourself, so that you can Make yourself more popular! It is true that you respect yourself and respect others.

Any person can only know how to establish boundaries in life for himself and know how to keep his bottom line in life and work. At the same time, he dares to deal with offending people and those who casually violate his boundaries and hurt himself for no reason. , and carry out appropriate counterattacks, our lives will be quieter and happier.

Yang Min, a student of Wujie Academy, is a hard-working practitioner on the road of writing. I hope to warm you and me with my true words!