People in love are in an extremely excited state because phenylethylamine (PEA) is secreted in the body. The secretion of PEA is related to the experience of childhood, which is unique to everyone. Therefore, the so-called seeds of love, everyone's feelings will be different, and the causes are also various.
Six elements to make others love you:
1, first impression
Pay attention to dress and appearance, and be prepared for love. Men's clothes are more important than women's, because it is instinct for women to pay attention to men's ability to support their families when choosing a spouse, so men's clothes should have taste and high value in order to attract women or impress lovers; There is no price requirement for women's clothing, because men don't pay attention to this, but pay more attention to women's appearance and figure. So women can choose clothes more casually.
Eye contact. To make the other person feel love, eye contact should account for more than 70% of their time together. Staring for a long time will produce the feeling of love. "Gouhun Dianyan" really works. The so-called electric eye is actually an eye with dilated pupils, which is actually a physiological reaction when people see something they are interested in. So if you want to have a pair of electric eyes, you must stimulate your interest in each other. Keeping a gaze and looking at each other intently and interestingly can easily lead to love.
Start a conversation and establish contact. The advice for men is to act when you have a heart. At first, it was a focused gaze. If the other person finds and avoids her eyes, she floats back intentionally or unintentionally within one minute, indicating that she doesn't hate you; A woman's way is simpler. Just smile at him.
At first contact, their body language is regular. After sitting down, the two sides may have different orientations at first. After chatting, they will become head-to-head, sitting knee to knee, accompanied by slight seemingly unintentional physical contact. In the end, there may be a situation in which the gods synchronize and make the same action at the same time. The rule of first contact is soft (soft opening, touching eyes and nodding).
Pay attention to "picking cherries" and use "we" in chat. Pay attention to the topics inadvertently revealed in the other party's speech, answer the words in time, and use "we" to further establish contact in time.
When making a formal invitation, men should wait a day or two longer. Being too anxious will make the woman think that you are in a hurry, and women don't have to wait for an invitation. Just contact directly. Suspension bridge experiment and electric shock experiment show that exciting and easy-to-cause emotional surge, heart disorder and even anxiety events are more likely to make people feel in love. It is more appropriate to sit down and have dinner together afterwards.
About eating, women like to talk and chat, and men like to do one thing together. Therefore, if men invite women to dinner, it is best to go to the restaurant according to women's needs, sit down and chat and enjoy the service. If women invite men to dinner, it is more appropriate to choose the way of cooking together.
In the choice of restaurants, men should give priority to high-end restaurants when they meet women, and women should choose interesting places when they meet men. Men don't care about the price. Women have an instinct to pay attention to men's ability to earn money and support their families, which is not directly related to women's own wealth.
At the dinner table, men should pay more attention to table manners, the needs of female companions, service and courtesy to waiters; Women can relax their manners, and men don't care much about their manners, but when the man has some embarrassment and mistakes (such as sneezing), the woman's response should be to turn a blind eye, don't bother to find a way to resolve it, but ignore it directly, so as to get the highest evaluation from the man.
2. Similar personalities and complementary needs.
There are three levels of similarity: similar interests, similar values and similar understanding of love. Only by finding similarities can we find the right person.
Complementarity means knowing each other's needs, what kind of people they like and what kind of abilities they have, and then inadvertently showing them in front of each other through study and exercise.
3. Make the other person feel self-esteem
The best love is to make the other person feel that he has become a better self in love. So let the other person feel this way through "self-esteem massage".
One is silent praise. Pay attention to the use of eyes and the importance of looking away when expressing reluctance.
The second is * * *. Don't rush to teach each other a lesson, but keep saying "I understand your feelings", "I feel the same way" and "You really suffered for this" in three or five sentences.
The third is the worship of love. Look for the advantages of each other in all aspects, big and small, and sincerely express worship.
The fourth is implicit praise. Excavate the deep internal reasons of each other's strengths, and don't be stingy with plain praise. Also pay attention to the expression "You are the most beautiful person I have ever met".
Fifth, I also appreciate uniqueness. When the other person's strengths and weaknesses in all aspects are recognized and praised by you, his self-esteem will reach the highest level, high self-esteem will also bring high self-discipline, and the possibility of his derailment will be greatly reduced.
4. Principle of reciprocity (applicable)
Love has a time limit. You can love for a month, half a year or a year on impulse, but when you calm down, you find that they are really inappropriate. At this time, the principle of reciprocity appeared.
Different wealth and power are equivalent. Appearance, material, status, knowledge, personality and character can all be evaluated together. Therefore, it is feasible for beautiful women to marry rich people, and the so-called middle-aged crisis is actually that beautiful women are drifting away and the principle of reciprocity is unbalanced. On the other hand, there are also middle-aged people who are not in crisis. These women often make up for the problem of getting older by honing their knowledge and personality.
It should be noted that not wanting to climb high is what most people really think. Then, if you encounter an object that is not equivalent, the best way is not to forcibly cross it, nor to give up, but to strive to improve your value from a feasible aspect and achieve equivalence.
Plastic surgery is an option, but a better way to improve your appearance is self-confidence. Self-confidence can make the same appearance attractive. The more suggested way is of course to increase your knowledge and ability.
5. Initial strategy (first three months)
The psychological needs of men and women in intimate relationships are completely different. Men expect to be trusted, and women expect to be cared for. Therefore, men should not criticize and try to help the woman too much, but should care about her mood and needs; On the other hand, women should not help him often. In his view, helping him is more like accusing him of incompetence, but should trust him and encourage him.
Women like to chat and exchange feelings, and men like to do one thing together. When men participate in chatting, they should pay attention to women's feelings and details in women's discourse; If a woman wants to be recognized by a man, she should talk less, speak directly, and try to get a man to help her. When a woman asks a man for help, she should ask her if she wants to, not if she can, because she can question his ability.
To sum up, if a man wants to gain the recognition of a woman, he must be able to chat; If women want to gain men's approval, they must adapt to men's more direct way of thinking.
6, wish formula (omitted)
Whether the desire can be coordinated or not depends not on the lower body or the respect for the other person's brain.
Generally speaking, true love or false love is not about what tools you use, but about your starting point. If you want to love someone better, you must adopt the right way. There is nothing unnatural or artificial about it. If you love him/her, give him/her the best love.
Famous saying:
Get married if you want. If you want to be single, be single. You'll regret it anyway. -Bernard Shaw