Song Sima Guang's Family Style and Family Instrument.
1. Liu Gongchuo, our envoy to the east of Tang Dynasty, has the best family style among officials and officials.
Liu Gongchuo, our envoy to Hedong in the Tang Dynasty, was famous for his family style among officials and officials.
There is a small study in the east of his house. Every morning, except when he is in court, he goes to the study as soon as he comes. His sons, Zhong and Ying, all stand neatly in the north of the middle gate to say good morning to him.
Liu Gongchu never leaves his den from morning till night, whether he is in charge of business or personal affairs, welcoming guests, or having dinner with his brother-in-law and other cousins.
In the evening, when the lantern is lit, let the children read the history books in front of the lamp in turn, and then explain the methods of being an official and managing the family, and sometimes talk about articles or listen to the piano until the dead of night.
I started to go back to my room to sleep, and my sons stood in the north of the middle gate in the night to greet him.
This habit has been persisted for more than twenty years, and it hasn't changed a day.
in the year of famine, all sons eat coarse food.
Liu Gongzhuo said: Once upon a time, my brother served my late father. As a secretariat of Danzhou, he refused to eat meat on the pretext that he had failed in his studies. I dare not forget it.
If there are widowed people among aunts, sisters and nieces, even if they are estranged, they will choose husbands to marry them. They will use carved wood as dowry and silk with flowers as wedding clothes.
As the saying goes, you must wait for the dowry before you get married. What is better than not missing the opportunity to get married? After Liu Gongchu's death, his sons Liu Zhong and Liu Ying followed his family law.
This is the basic mode of ancient family education. You can roughly regard it as a typical feudal patriarchal clan system, or as a folk picture of family education in ancient China.
If we put aside all political and cultural prejudices and examine the details objectively, it is not difficult to find out what is the difference between China's ancient family education and modern school management and unit administration? It's just that the ancient families in China transferred the management mode they were going to accept in schools and units to their families for training in advance.
in this sense, the ancient family education model plays an important role in educating children and inheriting civilization.
2. All parents must abide by the etiquette and laws to protect their children and their families.
As parents, we must be careful to abide by the etiquette laws, which are used to discipline many children and family members, assign them responsibilities, assign affairs, and urge them to handle things successfully.
formulate a system of saving money and arrange expenditures on the basis of measuring income; Weighing one's own poverty and wealth to determine the expenses of food and clothing, happy events and fierce events for the whole family, everything should show one's own moral integrity, but it must be unfair and unified.
all unnecessary expenses should be stopped and deducted, and luxury habits should be prohibited; Always keep a little savings in case something unexpected happens.
to manage the family, we should emphasize the management of words, that is, we should assign duties to our families and blame them for their success.
Of course, this is out of the need to revitalize the family business, but at the same time, it is also to cultivate qualified citizens for the society with the family as the unit.
This isomorphic civic education model is the original creation of Chinese traditional culture.
Sima Guang's famous sayings
Sima Guang's famous sayings
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2. Everyone is proud of extravagance, and my heart is only beautiful in frugality.
3, small things are not confused, and big things are not confused.
4. If people are not satisfied, they will have dragons and look back at the evil of Shu!
5. Ren Xian must be ruled, and it is inevitable that he will be chaotic if he is disdained.
6. Better be a fool than a villain.
7, the upper system, few to unify the public, and the discipline is fixed.
8. Choose people for the official, and be competent. If you are incompetent or incompetent, you don't have to kiss.
9, pin evil in the bud, and save evil in the shape.
1. Better be a fool than a villain.
11. I have no outstanding person, but I can't talk to people all my life.
12, talent, moral capital also; Virtue, talent is handsome.
13. Virtue is the sage, virtue is the fool, virtue is the gentleman, and virtue is the villain. Anyone who learns from others can't be a saint or a gentleman, and he can't be a fool with a villain.
14. A gentleman who has few desires does not serve things, but can go straight; If a villain wants less, he can use it sparingly, and he is far from guilty.
15. All Pepsi's achievements are respected, and its failure is bound to be slow.
16. If you don't get what you deserve, you will be ashamed.
17. A teacher is easy to meet, but a teacher is hard to meet.
18. The past is not far away, and I am a teacher.
19. The adopted son is not the fault of the godfather, and the discipline is not strict.
2. Those who are clever and clear-headed are forbidden from breaking, those who are quiet and comfortable are forbidden from being late, and those who are broad-minded are forbidden from forgetting.
21. If a villain desires too much, he will be killed in vain.
22. If you are not literate, you want to be virtuous, just like if you don't cut jade, you want to be literary.
23. A wise man is virtuous enough to be honest and upright, wise enough to be upright and disciplined, wise enough to be considerate and far-sighted, and strong enough to be loyal and firm. A big one benefits the world, while a small one benefits a country.
24. A poor family thinks of a good wife, while a chaotic country thinks of a good wife.
25. Be generous and prudent, but don't hesitate to commit crimes.
26, the sage's official, the craftsman's materials, take its strengths, use its shortcomings.
27, money is thick and sweet, and people are afraid of it.
28. Being born is not good for the time, and dying in obscurity is self-abandonment.
29, endure small anger and keep big letters.
3. You can't make peace with a virtuous person, and it's the same with no virtuous person.
31. Use the tactics of fighting, to appease the scholars and be sincere, and to control the enemies and cheat them.
32. The sage of Dayu cherishes every inch of yin. As for everyone, when you cherish the yin, how can you be useless when you are alive? If you die, you will abandon yourself.
33. Those who are good at managing wealth, raise what they have and collect what they have, so they are inexhaustible, and they pay enough from top to bottom.
34. In the friendship between people and officials, it is advisable to speak frankly and honestly, but not to follow the instructions.
35. Arrogance is born of wealth, and disaster is born of negligence.
36. extravagance leads to more desires. If a gentleman desires more, he will read Mu Fugui, and he will waste his way and get into trouble quickly.
37. The eagle strikes the sky and the wind is strong, and the Pengfei waves spring.
38, the book must be recited, or at once, or in the middle of the night, when you don't sleep, you will get more.
39. There is honey in the mouth and a sword in the belly.
4, mortal love, poverty is thinking about change.
41. Speaking from the front is forbidden by the ancients.
42. Heroes are useless.
43. Be frugal, so show its beauty.
44. You should never forget the friendship between the poor and the humble, and the wife of the dross will never leave the court.
45. If you don't believe it, you can't make the people, and if you don't believe it, you can't defend the country.
46, the right heart is the foundation, and self-cultivation is the foundation.
47. The trouble with people is that they don't read history.
48, talent, moral capital also; Virtue, talent is handsome.
49. Choose people for officials, and be competent. If you are incompetent or incompetent, you don't have to kiss.
5. The merits of heaven and earth should not be rushed, and the hard work should be tiring.
51. It is a gentleman to achieve success in talent; Talent is better than virtue, and it is called a villain.
52. Chu cut chaos without Wuqi, and Qin became rich and powerful by Shang Jun's method.
53. When reading important books, you must recite them.
54. Take the right heart as the foundation and cultivate one's morality as the foundation.
55. If you hear about it, you will be happy after a few days; He who hears his reputation will suffer from the loss of the day.
56. If you are not literate, you want to be virtuous, just like if you don't cut jade, you want to be literary.
57. If the superior rules the subordinate, the few will unify the masses, but the discipline will be fixed.
58. A scholar is more important than what he does, not what he knows.
59. Listening to all things is clear, while favoritism is dark.
6. If you don't love in the right way, it will be harmful.
61. The merits of heaven and earth should not be rushed, and the hard work should be tired.
62. The older one is the key link, and the younger one is the discipline, so it's neat and humane to go up and down.
63. If a gentleman desires more, he will be greedy for wealth, and he will waste his way and get into trouble quickly; If a villain desires more, he will seek more vain use, and his family will be ruined.
64. If the owner is arrogant, the people will not make progress.
65. If you don't believe it, you won't believe it. Separated up and down, so that defeat.
66, people can't be prepared, they must give up their shortcomings and take their strengths.
67. It is not easy for a husband to make a promise.
68. If you are responsible for what is difficult, those who are easy will do it without effort; Make up for its shortcomings, and its elders will fail.
69. Use people as tools, and learn from each other's strengths.
7, politics is based on getting virtuous people, and governance is based on getting rid of filth.
71. Those who are good at managing wealth, raise what they have and collect what they have, so they are inexhaustible, and they have enough money.
72. If you learn from others, you can't be a saint or a gentleman, and if you get a villain, you can't be a fool. What is it? A gentleman thinks that he is good, but a villain thinks that he is evil. Those who think that they are good are all good; He who thinks that he is evil is also evil. Although a fool wants to be bad, he can't be wise, and his strength can't win. For example, a suckling dog fights people, and people get it. The villain is smart enough to be a traitor, brave enough to be violent, and he who is a tiger with wings will do more harm! Those who are virtuous are strict, while those who are talented are loved; Love is easy to kiss, and strictness is easy to get rid of, which means that the inspector covers more talents than morality. Since ancient times, the chaotic minister of the country and the defeated son of the family have been left with surplus and lack of virtue, so that there are many subversives, so it is especially Zhi Bo! Therefore, if the country is a home, it can be judged by the distinction between talent and virtue, and it is known successively. () Why not lose the foot of others?
73. The smallest is the biggest, and the cautious is the best.
74. It's not personal to recommend people for the country.
75, flat and then clear, clear and then clear.
76. You can't get out of the clan by raising talents, and you don't use it hard to be powerful. It's because Israel doesn't do anything, and rape is not punished.
77. Benevolence is generous and frugality is sufficient.
78. A believer is a great treasure to a man.
79. A scholar is more important than doing it, not knowing it.
8. People born in heaven have their own strengths. The country's personnel are equipped with many leaders. However, those who do what they want and do nothing are not good at what they use, and what they do is not good at what they use.
Ming Chen Longzheng's Family Style and Family Instruction _ Famous Quotations
Ming Chen Longzheng's Family Style and Family Instruction _ Famous Quotations
Ming Chen Longzheng's Family Moment.
1. Don't delay.
if a person's nature is not stingy, it will be difficult to achieve great wealth.
If you don't leave the great wealth to your children and grandchildren, they won't have the luxury mentality. If you don't have luxury, you won't be reduced to being too poor. Therefore, if you want to leave your children and grandchildren with the ability to keep their family business, it is essential to be stingy.
Grandparents and fathers began to accumulate in details, and their descendants spent money like water.
The root cause of children's stupidity was planted from the stupid nature of their ancestors and parents.
Being stingy and being extravagant seem to be similar in meaning, but they produce two different results.
if you don't want to be too poor, you have to be extravagant; If you don't want to be extravagant, you are only not rich; If you don't want to be rich, you have to be honest.
It can be seen that not being stingy is a prerequisite for not being extravagant. The former is to avoid great wealth, and the latter is to avoid great poverty.
The purpose of emphasizing neither frugality nor extravagance is to cultivate the spirit of starting a business and staying in business for future generations; It is far more important and far-reaching to cultivate the spirit of starting a business and staying in business for future generations than to leave them with huge wealth.
2. If you succeed in your plan, you will be able to maintain honesty.
in ancient times, all property belonged to the dynasty, and there was no livelihood to govern, and scholars did not care about their livelihood.
rice is piled up there casually in the morning and evening, just like being abandoned outside, not to mention storing surplus money for future generations.
Therefore, when Confucius became an official, he had all the clothes he needed. After he left the official position, he had scanty food and even no food.
In future generations, even Zhuge Wuhou can leave mulberry fields for future generations.
In Song Dynasty, officials were paid handsomely, but when Sima Wengong appointed officials, he first asked about their ancestral businesses. He thought that only those who had no worries about food and clothing would be honest officials, so he left the businesses to his descendants.
it is also necessary to form such a situation in future generations; However, leaving property should conform to the principles of morality and interests, and future generations should also distinguish the cause from the end.
My late father was honest and thrifty, leaving a legacy worthy of the same as Zhuge Wuhou's saying that he did not regret his descendants when he died.
My generation met a confidant like Sima Wengong, and praised my late father's strategy for being in line with the golden mean, so we have the family resources to support honesty.
if the descendants are insatiable in business, they will be disgusted by the first court.
If you are diligent and diligent, you can accumulate surplus money every year. After a long time, you will accumulate more and more. When you encounter major events, you will be able to spread your wealth moderately, so that it will not be ordinary descendants who will manage your livelihood in the future.
Zhuge Wuhou can have mulberry fields for his descendants, and officials in the Song Dynasty can also leave their descendants with their jobs, which is the necessary capital provided by the court for officials to work fairly and honestly. Although these capital or jobs are also necessary, they all serve the purpose of maintaining honesty. Only honesty is fundamental.
Some corrupt officials in later generations used their power to collect money crazily, which not only exceeded the limit of keeping honesty, but also ran straight into the edge of crime, and reversed the correct relationship between honesty and capital that was always advocated by ancient officials.
3. The mistake of cherishing is sudden death.
Cherishing and dying are originally two opposite meanings, and stupid people sometimes combine them into one disease.
if you can't finish all the food at once, you should distribute it to the servants while it is delicious.
rags and old shoes should be distributed to servants or poor families before they are useless.
Every time I see that women are too stingy and cherish things, they hoard the surplus food. As a result, they can't stay for one day in summer and ten days in winter, and they are all rotten and bad.
clothes and shoes are worn out, but I still want to hide them in the cupboard, and I can't give them to others, and I can't just leave them in the house, so I have to let them rot.
In this way, people can't enjoy the function of property, and property can't play their role. All this is an act of over-cherishing and destroying property.
You should always explain this truth and remind your family to understand it, so that you will naturally not make this mistake.
To truly cherish a thing, we should give full play to its role in nourishing and nurturing people.
Except for some collectibles, if you just collect things for the sake of cherishing them, the limited functions of the items will disappear in the swirling space-time, and the feelings of cherishing them will become a fleeting thing.
the beauty of flowers and the delicacy of delicacies only occupy a one-time short moment!
only by making the best use of things and pushing others, can we pay the most practical kindness and care for the life world.
4. Learn under the same roof. Gentlemen enjoy it.
reading and studying with excellent friends and important relatives is the happiest thing for a gentleman.
but if you don't talk to each other, there will be no intimate relationship, and dishonest communication will not last long.
When meeting each other during the day, you should keep a moderate level of talking and laughing.
The air is fresh before noon, which is suitable for reading and thinking.
mental fatigue in the afternoon.