The concept of love, "truth first", "morality first" and "justice first" should all be regarded as the principles for establishing one's life. Love, no matter how passionate its climax, cannot violate these principles.

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1. Career comes first, love comes second. Fu Lei asked his son to do this when dealing with the relationship between love and career. Even when you are in the most intense relationship, you cannot waver in your career. Regardless of whether you are a man or a woman, only by focusing your interests on career, learning, and art, and trying to put aside your small self, can you have the possibility of being happy and living a meaningful life. . On the contrary, a person who only knows love and knows nothing else cannot live. That kind of love won't last long.

2. Emotions must be controlled by reason. Fu Lei emphasized that a real artist, an artist worthy of the name, mostly lives his emotional life in his memories and imagination. The past romance made him a beautiful memory and a lifelong dream. This is Fu Lei's incisive summary of the romance of many real artists at home and abroad.

3. Observe carefully and be honest. Fu Lei taught his son that lovers must observe each other carefully for a long time to truly understand each other. Only with true understanding can love have a foundation. Lovers should be honest with each other, be natural, and don't hide their shortcomings. Lovers are the easiest to cover up their own shortcomings and the hardest to see clearly the other person's shortcomings.

Love education is an important part of emotional education in Fu Lei’s tutoring. Fu Lei expressed great concern for his son's love and marriage, and used his life experience and insights to teach his son that he should have a correct view of love. In August 1960, Fu Cong got engaged to Mila (a British girl) and expressed his dissatisfaction with Mila in his letter. Fu Lei wrote a reply letter about love on August 29, 1960, and another letter about love on March 8, 1962. Fu Lei believes: "Poets often say that love is blind, but love that is not blind is healthier and more reliable after all." Below, we will sort out and interpret Fu Lei’s views on marriage and love.

(1) Standards for choosing a spouse

The requirements for a lifelong partner, just like the requirements for everything in life, should not be too harsh. Ask yourself, how perfect are you? You must have considered this type of question more than once. I think the most important thing is your intrinsic kindness, gentle nature, and open mind. With these three things, everything else can be gradually cultivated; and with these three things, even big or small storms will not turn into tragedies in the future.

(2) How to understand love

1. "Truth first", "morality first" and "justice first" should be the principles for establishing one's life. Love, no matter how passionate its climax, cannot violate these principles.

2. Regardless of men or women, only by focusing their interests on career, learning, and art, and putting aside their small ego as much as possible, can they be happy. Do you think life is meaningful? Young girls who have never experienced the world often have an absurd dream, thinking that the emotional climax during love can be maintained after marriage. Is this a delusion that violates the laws of nature? Only calm, reserved, and gentle feelings can last.

(3) How to fall in love

1. First of all, your attitude and mood should be as calm as possible. Otherwise, the observation will not be accurate? Another advantage of staying calm is that you will not waste your real work just to fall in love, or affect your homework, waste time, harm your health, or disturb your mood when encountering setbacks, big or small.

2. Recognize whether the other party’s advantages are real and reliable, whether they are imagined by you, or whether they are exaggerated. To determine whether the shortcomings of the other party are related to the essence? The problem is not to find an object with no shortcomings. Rather, we need to find a situation where both parties can recognize their shortcomings. Each admits it and is willing to change gradually. Couples who can tolerate each other at the same time? It is best for both parties to be as natural as possible, not to be pretentious, and to show their true colors. Let the other person see all the advantages and disadvantages together? People who try their best to hide their shortcomings in order to succeed in love are actually stupid.

3. In addition to the advantages and disadvantages, whether the two people have similar personalities and temperaments is also an important factor. There are also many indescribable and countless little habits that are manifested in actions, attitudes, speech, laughter, and voices. There is also a big role between men and women.

4. Although appearance and figure are not the main consideration, a person who loves beauty cannot ignore it too much. 5. When making friends, try to give as few gifts as possible and spend as little money as possible; on the one hand, it shows that your concept of love is rarely involved in material relationships, and on the other hand, it also tests the other person.