Article//Nan Qingyan

Before reading this book, I always thought it was a chicken soup-like story book for the soul. However, after opening it, I discovered that this is a story book. Psychic readings that teach people to mature mentally.

Out of personal habit, every time before reading a new book, I read reviews by famous writers, especially what Master Ming Zang said, which made me full of curiosity about this book.

Master Mingzang said that this book reinterprets the Bible. He said that God is the heart of each of us, the devil is the laziness in each of us, and Adam and Eve are For employees who are not good at communication and who are immature, God created some rules and the devil came to seduce employees when he created the tree of wisdom. He said that peace of mind is the opposite of laziness. If you don't do what you should do, you can't have peace of mind. Only successful efforts can achieve peace of mind. Therefore, Buddhism says that it is neither positive nor negative.

In this part, the most touching sentence is: "If you don't solve the problem, you will become the problem.

Life is suffering and must be full of suffering.

However, there are still many people in this world who don’t understand, or are unwilling to understand. Before I read this book, myself included, they mostly shirk responsibility and find fault for themselves. Reason. I am unwilling to face this problem head-on, and I am unwilling to face the suffering of life. I am either blaming others or complaining about the hardship of my life. What I long for deep down in my heart is a comfortable and smooth life, but I forget that life is not always smooth sailing. !

In the process of self-deception again and again, you will encounter various problems, and then you will be exhausted, depressed, sad and painful, and fall into deep self-doubt, confusion, anxiety and despair

It turns out that the tendency to avoid problems and avoid pain is the root cause of human mental illness!

I read in the book that the correct way to solve this root cause is to let us let it go. You must also let your children realize that life's problems and pain have extraordinary value, and only by having the courage to take responsibility and face difficulties can the mind become healthy.

In the mind, life is inherently painful. However, human nature yearns for ease. How many people are willing to bear pain and redeem themselves? The most common thing about human nature is to shirk responsibilities and magnify difficulties.

The so-called self-discipline is to take the initiative to ask yourself. Bear the pain and solve the problem with a positive attitude.

If you want to solve similar problems, you can only delay gratification, be brave enough to take responsibility, and be loyal to the facts.

I still remember when I was a child. When doing homework, I will have stomachache, thirst, and want to run to the toilet. There are various reasons why I will be half-hearted when doing homework. Just like what is said in the book, we fail to accept the suffering first, but give up all the comforts. Overdrawn in advance.

In my impression, receiving a stick education from my parents when I was a child also led to me becoming more rebellious and indulgent in my later studies, becoming more lazy in class, and even resenting going to school and fighting. Fights and skipping classes have become commonplace. Even my favorite interest classes are somewhat lacking in interest, and I never make it to the end.

When encountering problems later, the first thing I think about is never how to solve them, but how to solve them. It's self-doubt and self-denial. Even though many people encourage me and believe that I can do it, I am unwilling to try.

I prefer to let things take their own course and avoid them. Or I might get angry when arguing with others, but the result is that the problem becomes more and more acute, and the relationship with my classmates becomes more and more intense.

In retrospect, I sometimes take the blame that is not my own. All of this feels more and more like a sticking point in my throat, and I believe more and more that Eldridge Cleaver said, “If you don’t solve the problem, you become the problem. ”

Because I am powerless, I let nature take its course. Now that I think about it, it is just a nice excuse to comfort myself and avoid solving the problem. I have never tried or worked hard. I am afraid of failure and ridicule. I was afraid of suffering, so I always told myself to let nature take its course, and everything would be fine. However, later on, when reality slapped me hard, I realized that letting nature take its course would not solve the problem, it would only Let the devil breed and become a weapon to destroy yourself.

Reality is always cruel, and suffering is unbearable. However, we need to be loyal to the facts and ourselves. The more powerless the deception, the more likely it will be to suffer later. We are at a loss what to do, and the more false it is, the more confused we will be.

We need to accept all the good and bad things we encounter, and accept suffering calmly. The reason why people are human. Being human is that we have special frontal lobes of the brain, which enable us to have introspection and thinking abilities that are different from ordinary people.

We must both take responsibility and reject responsibilities that we should not take. Learn to delay gratification, start with bitterness before sweetness, take a long-term view, and at the same time live your current life as well as possible, so that there is more happiness than pain in life. We must not only have the ability to be angry, but also have the ability to control our temper. . Find a balance point to live a self-disciplined and relaxed life.

The highest principle of maintaining balance is to "give up", give up those meaningless worries, give up those non-existent assumptions, and give up those self-deprecating inferiority complexes. .

Only by giving up old outdated concepts and habits can we survive the crisis and successfully enter the next stage of life. It is necessary to affirm oneself to maintain stability, and to give up oneself to make room for new ideas and concepts to achieve self-balance.

Just like Sam Kidd said in "Dance to God", I must transcend everything I have and transcend self-centered ideas. Mature knowledge can only be gained after the elimination of prejudices arising from personal experience.

Therefore, people must be confident and self-disciplined.

A arrogant and funny little girl born in the 1995 generation who likes ancient styles, is a sensitive and glass-hearted Aquarius female lunatic.

May we eventually grow up and become confident and assertive.