An old saying goes very well: people want face, trees want skin, and steel bars are mixed with cement.

This sentence seems to be derogatory and abusive, but in fact, on the other hand, we think that sometimes people really need a little shameless spirit.

The so-called shameless means not to make a person lose his conscience and morally do things that harm the heavens and the earth, but:

Follow one's heart, not be bothered by outside eyes, and live comfortably;

Strong in heart, firm in goal, bravely marching all the way to the dream place;

keep a clear head, have your own rational judgment, and just do what you think is right.

when it's time to "be shameless", you should have the cheek to live a prosperous and comfortable life. Shameless people grow the fastest

Once upon a time, there was a scholar who was helpless. At that time, he lived in a temple and lived on the charity of a monk, and some monks were bad. In order to get rid of this guy who ate for nothing. Deliberately don't ring the bell when eating. At that time, monks ate with the bell as the number, just like when they were at school.

once, when everyone had finished eating, he rang the bell. The scholar ran to see that there was nothing left. At this time, most of you will suffer indignities and leave, but this scholar still has the cheek, and instead of leaving angrily, he continues to "eat rice" there, and finally gets an official position.

Like this, people who aim high have the confidence to win. In the final analysis, they have good psychological quality, which is necessary for successful people.

but when dealing with people, learn to be patient, wait for opportunities, and learn to take the initiative to seize opportunities. If you are always shy and put on airs, you just don't want to let go of your thin face, and you will be in a passive position both at work and in life.

only by letting go of your face can you earn it back with your strength in the future.

Ren Zhengfei once said in the company: "Only shameless people will become successful people."

In his view, "Only those who are shameless can make progress", and he even laughed and said,

"In Huawei, I am the most shameless, so I make the fastest progress."

the more shameless a person is, the faster he grows. The more "shameless", the more comfortable life

Netizen Xiaolin told a story about "borrowing money":

In recent years, with the continuous improvement of my brother's career, there are always some relatives and friends who come to borrow money for help.

at first, my brother felt that it was a matter of great honor for someone to ask for help, so he refused.

if you borrow money, transfer it immediately; Those who ask for work ask people to find relationships everywhere.

As time goes on, not only more and more people come to the door, but also the attitude of asking for help becomes more and more natural.

my brother couldn't stand it, but he couldn't hold back his face and refused.

at this moment, my sister-in-law came forward.

When relatives and friends visit again, my sister-in-law pushes my brother away, smiling and taking out a prepared iou.

The amount borrowed, the interest, and the date of return are clearly written on it, and signature and handprint are required.

completely ignoring the other person's face, he said frankly, "Set up a written evidence so as not to forget."

When there is something to do, my sister-in-law sends the address and telephone number of the relevant unit and the handling process to the other party, saying,

"Now the government agencies are transparent, just follow this process."

My relatives and friends turned their eyes to the sky and said that my sister-in-law was too stingy and heartless. Mock my brother for being afraid of his wife and losing face.

but from then on, my brother's bad worries have disappeared.

occasionally, there is a real need for emergency. The other party signed a pledge with great interest, and returned it with interest on the day. Thank you very much. Everyone is in harmony.

Indeed, face is useless in many cases. If you live on it, it will inevitably drag down your life.

In many unfortunate lives, the root of the problem lies in being too proud, caring too much about other people's eyes and evaluations, and ignoring the real needs, thus affecting him to make the most rational decision.

For example, some people have been floating in big cities despite their unsatisfactory life. In fact, it's not entirely that small cities in the third and fourth tiers can't hold their souls. The real reason is probably that they can't save face.

In order to keep up a bright face, I would rather hold back my discomfort, that is, compete with myself and have a hard time with myself.

Only by "losing face" and following your inner thoughts can you live comfortably. Thick skin is also an ability

On face and money, Li Ka-shing has a very incisive comment:

"When you put down your face to make money, it means that you are sensible; When you earn back face with money, it means that you have succeeded; When you can make money with face, it means that you are already a character;

When you still stay there drinking and bragging, you don't know how to pretend to understand and only care about face, it means that this is your life. "

if you want to achieve something in this life, you really have to be "thick-skinned".

But some people want to express themselves and strive for opportunities, but they are thin-skinned. What should they do at this time?

It's very simple:

Know how to show yourself

When others talk about something, if we don't understand it or don't understand it, we have no confidence and are afraid to say something wrong.

Self-confidence comes from sufficient confidence, and confidence comes from usual accumulation and study.

So, whether it's professional skills or entertainment gossip, take a long view and keep learning and accumulating. With confidence, you can talk with people in Kan Kan.

listen first, then talk

many times, we dare not express ourselves because we can't predict each other's reaction.

Therefore, we should learn to listen first, and observe each other's personality and interests from their words and deeds.

Correctly treat other people's comments

The root of our thin skin is that we care too much about other people's opinions, so we should treat them as calmly as possible: some people who criticize us have limited abilities, and their comments may not be completely correct, let alone determine our own lives.

Besides, some criticisms come with benefits. If you don't take them to heart, you will get unexpected results.

focus on how to make yourself stronger by thinking about how others think about your time.

Only in our life can we live more freely, and we can run farther and fly higher. Writing

"shameless" at the end doesn't mean that you don't love yourself, nor does it mean that you should abandon your dignity.

instead, I don't care about the eyes of outsiders, dare to express my true self, dare to put down my face and pursue my dreams, and break through self-limitation to pursue higher and further goals.

Only by putting down your face can you master your life and achieve great success.