This passage was summed up as "vulgar or lonely". How many "lonely" people are excited by it, and quote uncle's sentence to defend themselves, and even prove that they are better than others. But how many of them are really "lonely"? I am afraid that the loneliness claimed by many people, even with the attitude that everyone is drunk and I wake up alone, is just an excuse that I can't communicate and am afraid of communication. They were eager to integrate into other people's circles, but actually they couldn't, so they hid in the "lonely" corner like ostriches with their heads buried in the sand and foxes without grapes.
Their loneliness is not a choice, but an escape, a necessity and a helplessness.
Schopenhauer's loneliness should be a kind of enjoyment, a rational choice after weighing the pros and cons. Why do I want to escape from the crowd and choose loneliness? It is because communication can't give me what I want, so I stay away from communication; It is because loneliness can bring me benefits that I choose loneliness. In other words, the purpose of "I" has never been loneliness. I just found a way that suits my life best, and the world just named it "loneliness". If you are suffering from loneliness, you should not preach that you like loneliness! This gesture is so disgusting that it is less cute than the rebellion of teenagers. On the contrary, for a person who is willing to be lonely, he will not always feel the existence of "loneliness". Because, for him, that is the most natural way of life-will you remind yourself that you are breathing all the time?
so what is vulgarity? Vulgarity here refers to the loss of self in the crowd and some meaningless activities. For example, there are many people attending a party: there is nothing more meaningful to do except play cards, compliment each other and make one-liners Schopenhauer said: "Only when a person is alone can he become himself completely, and when he engages in interpersonal communication, he will lose part of himself more or less." When your lost selves are doing meaningless things, then you are vulgar, and you are just like those who only enjoy entertainment to get the desired excitement. You can neither improve yourself nor make any contribution to the world, and even disturb your mood, so you become a puppet of life. For a person who is able and willing to engage in spiritual activities, you "get rid of the boredom of others, but you don't get any benefits."
and interacting with people is not necessarily vulgar. Schopenhauer himself does not reject parties. For example, he is in favor of small gatherings between like-minded friends. He also does not exclude recreational activities, but the recreational activities here are more creative and spiritual, such as writing, reading and philosophical debates with friends.
So, is it really lonely or vulgar? Not necessarily.
I like Schopenhauer's sentence, "Life is a painful desire. If the desire is not satisfied, it will be painful. If it is satisfied, it will be boring. Life is wandering in pain and boredom." This makes me understand Schopenhauer's solitude, because solitude can make me clearly understand what I really want to satisfy. In a word, solitude gives me strength, not "loneliness".
have you noticed that there are lonely and vulgar people everywhere in this world.