If I tell you now that there is actually a big pendulum in your heart, then you may not believe it.

But it’s true. Everyone has an emotional pendulum in their heart.

Our psychology has very obvious polarities. There is happiness and sadness, love and hate, tension and relaxation, excitement and calm, approval and disapproval, etc.

In daily life, our psychology will swing between these two poles according to the psychological activities of a specific background.

This phenomenon is called the psychological pendulum effect.

Let me give you a classic example. I believe we have all heard the story of Fan Jin passing the national examination.

Fan Jin had never passed the exam for most of his life, so he had no hope at all. But one year, on the day when the exam results came out, Fan Jin was told by his neighbor that he had won the exam.

He didn't believe it until he returned home and saw the poster hanging up with the good news of winning the election, and then he believed it.

But I believed this and read the poster twice. As a result, I fainted due to excitement. In the end, he was slapped awake by his father-in-law, Tufu Hu.

People will produce bipolar swings under certain background psychological activities.

Many people don’t understand why this phenomenon occurs.

First, there is a phenomenon of ups and downs in our psychology. Human psychology is not inherently single and fixed. On the contrary, like the waves of the sea, the ebb and flow will change according to certain rules. And this change often swings back and forth between the two poles.

Second, the occurrence of psychological pendulum effect is closely related to personal personality. Some people have distinct personality traits. Sometimes happy, sometimes sad, sometimes loving, sometimes hating, sometimes passionate, sometimes frustrated. People with these obvious personality traits are prone to psychological effects.

Third, it has a lot to do with environmental contrast. Human emotions and emotions, under the influence of external factors, have obvious bipolar characteristics.

So how should we face the adverse reactions brought to us by the psychological pendulum effect?

Should we just let our emotions control us and let ourselves become an endless pendulum?

Of course not.

First of all, we must know that people cannot always be in a single or fixed psychological state.

We should know how to let nature take its course. Life will not always be a high point, nor will it always be a low point.

In our real life, we often encounter difficulties and setbacks as well as things that we are unwilling to accept.

And these things are often things that we have no choice or avoidance. Therefore, the wisest way to deal with this kind of thing is to accept it silently and avoid falling into the bottom of your mood.

There is another way to lessen the psychological damage. That is, don't keep those difficulties and setbacks in your heart, learn to ignore them, learn to forget them, and adjust your mentality.

Environment does not determine whether you are happy or not; how you view things determines your mood.

I hope you can remember that if you want to get out of the lows, you have to work hard to climb the highs. If you want to get rid of ignorance, you have to fill your mind with wisdom. If you want to stay away from evil, you have to think more about beautiful and lovely things.

Because two completely opposite thoughts cannot occupy a person's mind at the same time. If you can figure it out and do it, you can control your emotions.

You must know how to let nature take its course and eliminate deviations in your own thinking. There are gatherings and separations in life, and there are hardships and joys in life.

You can't live in the sun forever, nor can you live in the darkness forever.

If you are too paranoid, your mood will easily enter the psychological swing effect, and it will easily rise and fall due to changes in the environment.

In fact, everything has its meaning and fun. We should learn to experience the diversity of things. Only through suffering can you know what happiness is. Only when you have hate can you know what love is.

I hope you can see this fact clearly, and then know how to let nature take its course and how to control your emotions.