To tell the truth, for ordinary people, life is made up of countless little things, even those big people. In everyone's life, little things are everywhere, all the time. If you are too rigid and care too much about small things, then life is not fun at all, and you only see contradictions and conflicts.
Think about it, when you crowded the bus, someone accidentally stepped on your foot, or when you were shopping, someone accidentally stained your skirt; Sometimes when walking on the road, a paper ball may fall from the roadside upstairs and hit your head ... At this moment, if you don't accept it, it may lead to great disaster.
In the late 1980s, something happened somewhere in Liaoning: a young woman was accidentally touched by a male audience behind her while watching a movie. Although the male audience apologized in person, the woman persisted. She insisted that the other person was a rogue, so she went home and asked her husband to cut the man with a knife to relieve her anger. As a result, both husband and wife were jailed for violating the criminal law. There is also a story in which the hero is the famous British writer Dede Kipling. Kipling married a girl named Caroline Ba Rusty in Vermont. After their marriage, Kipling built a very beautiful house in Boluo, Bratteli, and then moved there to spend his old age. His brother-in-law, Peter Ba Rusty, is his best friend. They often spend time together at work and at rest. Later, Kipling bought a piece of land in Balusti and agreed with each other that Balusti had the right to harvest the grass on this land, but one day Balusti saw Kipling transform this grass into a garden, and he was very angry. He immediately made rude remarks and cursed, and Kipling did not show weakness. So the prairie dispute in Vermont formed a feud between two friends. A few days later, Kipling met his brother-in-law Ba Rusty on the road by bike. The latter sat in a double-horse carriage and blocked the way, forcing Kip to let him pass by the bicycle under the forest. Because of such a trivial matter, Kipling lost his mind and vowed to sue his brother-in-law in court. This is how a sensational case happened. Journalists flocked to Boluo and Bratteli from major cities. The news spread all over the world. What did Kipling get from this lawsuit? It's nothing. On the contrary, according to the court decision, he had to leave his house in America with his wife forever! Because of such a trivial matter, because of some grass in the garden, it brings so much resentment and pain. Why bother? "As long as you can keep a peaceful mind, no matter how others let you down!"
Why get angry? Anger is the kind of thing that others spit out but you receive in your mouth. If you swallow it, you will feel sick. When you don't look at him, it will dissipate. Anger is to punish your own stupidity with other people's faults.
The sunset is like gold, the moon is like silver, and the happiness and joy of life are still endless. Where did you get the time to get angry?
In ancient Tibet, there was a man named Aidiba. Every time he gets angry and has an argument with someone, he runs home as fast as he can, runs around his house and land three times, and then sits by the field panting. Aidiba works hard. His house is getting bigger and bigger and the land is getting wider and wider. But no matter how big the house and the ground are, as long as he is angry with others, he will still go around the house and the ground three times. Why does Aidiba go around the house and the ground three times every time he gets angry? Everyone who knows him is puzzled, but no matter how he asks, Aidiba won't explain.
Until one day, Aidiba was very old, with a big house and land, and he was angry again. So he walked around the land and the house three times with a cane. When he finally finished walking, the sun went down. Aidiba was sitting on the edge of the field, panting. His grandson begged him, "Grandpa, you are old. No one in this area has more land than you. Can't. "
Aidiba couldn't stand the entreaty of his grandson, and finally made the secret hidden in his heart for many years public. He said: "When I was young, I quarreled, argued and got angry with people, so I ran around the house and the land three times and thought,' My house is so small and the land is so small, how can I have the time and qualification to get angry with others?' Thought of here, my anger subsided. So I spent all my time working hard. "
Grandson asked again, "Grandpa, you are so old, and you are still the richest man. Why are you still running around in the real estate? " Aidiba smiled and said, "I will still be angry. When I am angry, I will walk around the house and the land three times. Walking and thinking:' My house is so big and there is so much land, why should I care about others?' Thinking of this, my anger subsided. "
There are many dreams to realize and many things to do in life. If you waste good time on anger, you will not only waste time, but also hurt yourself and others.
Another practical example is Li He, a famous poet in Tang Dynasty. He was called a "wizard" because of his quick thinking and outstanding talent. Even Han Yu, a great writer at that time, was full of praise for his poems. It's a pity that he is narrow-minded, and he is often unhappy and worried about trivial matters. In the end, he only lived for 27 years, which became a great regret in the history of literature.
As the old saying goes, "Make way, three-foot driveway." As long as it's not a major principle issue, what's wrong with muddling along? People living in the world should be cheerful and open-minded and live beyond some; Everything is haggle over every ounce, which will only increase your troubles.
Open-minded and optimistic people never offend people because of small things. Because they know that offending people because of small things is tantamount to asking for trouble, binding their hands and feet and setting themselves up. How can they succeed?
However, many people, especially some young people, have offended others and troubled themselves because of trivial matters in life. If some young people ask too much for personal fame and fortune, they will be upset if they can't get it; Some people are suspicious, always feel that others speak ill of him behind his back for no reason, and often feel inexplicable troubles; Some people will be jealous, and it will be hard to see others' achievements and careers surpass their own. The most typical self-pity is to blame yourself for other people's problems, which is tantamount to getting burned.
Smart people are often in some troublesome environments, but they can also find happiness themselves. Because worry itself is a kind of blind and useless resentment and regret that has become a reality, and it has no positive significance except torturing one's own mind. In order not to be troubled, the most effective way is to face up to reality and abandon the fantasy that bothers you. There is no job, spouse or entertainment place that you are completely satisfied with. Don't dwell on finding the perfect way. In fact, not all people who suffer in life will have mental troubles. I believe that many people often laugh at the hardships and misfortunes of life and look down; On the contrary, those who usually lead a quiet and relaxed life will make a fuss and get into deep trouble when they encounter unpleasant things. This shows that emotional troubles are not necessarily related to life misfortunes. Some unpleasant things that are often encountered in life are just one of the external reasons that may cause trouble. The real source of trouble should be found from the heart of the troubled person. Most people who are worried all the time have not suffered too much personal misfortune, but there are some defects in their internal quality and understanding of life. Therefore, when a person is troubled by troubles, you should ask yourself why you are troubled, find the reasons from the internal quality, and learn to adapt to your surrounding environment psychologically.
Disraeli said, "Life is too short to care about trifles."
"These words," Andre Morris said in this week's magazine, "helped me through many painful experiences. We often get upset because of some small things that should be ignored and forgotten ... We only live in this world for decades, wasting a lot of irreparable time and worrying about small things that will be forgotten by everyone within a year. Don't do this. Let's use our life only for actions and feelings that are worth doing, to use great thinking, to experience real feelings and to do things that must be done. Because life is too short to care about those little things. "
Thackeray, an English writer, famously said, "Life is a mirror. You smile at it, and it smiles back at you. " You cry to it, and it cries to you. "Indeed, no matter what misfortunes and setbacks you encounter in life, you should treat life with a cheerful attitude and a smile. Here are a few principles, which may alleviate or eliminate your troubles as long as you implement them carefully and repeatedly.
Finally, there is another sentence you must remember: "Being angry is to punish yourself with other people's mistakes!" " "