? In order to distinguish them easily, we call those who pay special attention to others' feelings and always accommodate and consider others' feelings "dog character"; People who pay attention to their inner feelings and transfer them are called "cat personality". Of course, people in life naturally don't have such a distinct personality, either one or the other. We just use a more vivid and unemotional metaphor to summarize them.
? Do you often feel this way? A look from a colleague today, a word, makes you meditate for a long time. Did I say something to make him uncomfortable? Or does he "bear a grudge" for me not agreeing to help him work overtime today? In other words, the boss talked to me today, and I didn't answer well enough. It's all my fault. I hope I can say that next time. What you say and do every day is considering the feelings of others, for fear of making others uncomfortable. In fact, maybe others don't care at all. So, you spend day after day in the cycle of internal friction. This is a typical "dog personality".
? The recent Winter Olympics blew up the Internet, and Ai Ling, the "Frog Princess", won the championship in one fell swoop and became the focus of attention. In response to her joining China citizenship and representing China in the Winter Olympics and winning the world championship, a foreign reporter responded in a tit-for-tat manner: "How do you balance this relationship and target the criticism you have attracted in the media?" The sunny and confident girl answered with sufficient arguments and clear logic, which was admirable. I don't care much about what others think of me, because I can't satisfy everyone. Secondly, Ai Lingwei described her mental journey: I know that I am kind at heart and try my best to explore in my own field; I know that every decision I make is based on common interests and will get better and better. Finally, tell those who question, if you don't understand my approach, it can only show that our values are not harmonious. I don't want to explain more to these people, because they will never understand the gratitude and love I can feel. Some remarks are neither supercilious nor supercilious, but they are enough to make us look at this 18-year-old Olympic champion with new eyes.
? The same words were said by the famous singer Faye Wong many years ago, which is more straightforward. "It doesn't matter to me that I didn't win the prize. I have affirmed myself. What do these things have to do with you? " The domineering answer is indisputable.
? This is the characteristic of "cat character".
? Of course, the "cat personality" is not arrogant, but pays attention to the inner self and the inner needs. Stick to one's own opinions, have firm beliefs, have brains and patterns, do not go with the flow, and do not sell yourself short.
? In China's 5,000-year-old culture, there are countless such people and things.
? Confucius once said, "an upright man is open and poised, little people care for each other." .
? Su Dongpo, who is loved by everyone, is also practicing such a mind and pattern. No rain, no rain, no sunshine. No matter how crowded out by political enemies, they still stick to the bottom line and be honest all their lives. How can such a mind not make us respect?
? So, how can we improve happiness? The following points must be kept in mind.
? First, pay attention to your heart, no one can control us. Learn to say no to things you don't want to do, and learn to say no to unreasonable demands of others, no matter who they are.
? Second, stick to your own path and let others talk.
? Third, we must have unremitting courage in doing anything, and unremitting efforts will certainly pay off.
? Fourth, learn to seek inward, constantly improve yourself, improve yourself, hone yourself, and achieve yourself through hard work.
? The happiness of life lies not in how much money you have, nor in living beyond your means. It's that you keep achieving your goals in your study and work, you keep giving birth to new hopes, and you will always be kind to life, compassionate and bright.
? May everyone live a happy "cat life".