(1) Instrument
Instrument refers to a person's appearance, which is the outward manifestation of a person's mental outlook. A person's hygiene habits and clothing are closely related to the formation and maintenance of dignified and generous appearance
1. Hygiene: Cleanliness is the key to the beauty of appearance and is the basic requirement of etiquette. No matter how good you look and how luxurious your clothes are, if you are covered with dirt and smell all over, it will inevitably destroy a person's aesthetic feeling. Therefore, everyone should develop good hygiene habits, wash their faces and feet after going to sleep and getting up, brush their teeth in the morning and evening and after meals, wash their hair and take a bath frequently, and pay attention to grooming and changing clothes frequently. Don't "clean personal hygiene" in front of people. For example, picking teeth, picking nostrils, digging ear wax, manicure, rubbing dirt, etc., these behaviors should be avoided by others, otherwise, it is not only unsightly, but also disrespectful to others. When talking with people, you should keep a certain distance, don't speak too loudly, and don't splash on the population.
2. Clothing: Clothing reflects a person's cultural quality and aesthetic taste. Specifically, it should not only be natural, decent, harmonious and generous, but also abide by some established norms or principles. Clothing should not only adapt to its own specific conditions, but also always pay attention to the dress requirements of the objective environment and occasions, that is, time, place and purpose should be given priority in dressing, and efforts should be made to keep in harmony with time, place and purpose in all aspects of dressing.
(2) Speech
Speech, as an art, is also an important part of personal etiquette.
1. Politeness: Be sincere and kind; The sound size should be appropriate, and the tone should be peaceful and calm; Respect others.
2. Language: honorific words, words expressing respect and courtesy. Such as "please", "thank you" and "sorry" in daily use, and the word "you" in the second person. The first meeting is "long heard"; I haven't seen you for a long time; Please be criticized as "teaching"; Trouble others to call it "disturbing"; Asking for convenience is "borrowing light"; Entrust people to do things as "please" and so on. Efforts should be made to form the habit of using honorifics. At present, the polite expressions advocated in our country are ten words: "hello", "please", "thank you", "sorry" and "goodbye". These ten words embody the basic language form of speaking civilization.
(3) manners
1. Conversation posture: Conversation posture often reflects a person's character, cultivation and civilized quality. Therefore, when talking, first of all, the two sides should look at each other and listen to each other, and they should not look around, read books and newspapers, look tired and yawn. Otherwise, it will give people the impression of being absent-minded, arrogant and unreasonable.
2. Standing posture: Standing is the most basic posture of people and a kind of static beauty. When standing, the body should be perpendicular to the ground, the center of gravity should be placed on the palms of the two front feet, chest out, abdomen in, awards in, head up and shoulders relaxed. Arms droop naturally or cross in front of the body, eyes are straight and smiling. When standing, don't bend your neck, waist and legs. In some formal occasions, it is not advisable to put your hands in your trouser pockets or cross your chest, and don't make some small moves subconsciously. This will not only appear stiff, give people a sense of lack of self-confidence, but also lose the dignity of manners.
3. Sitting posture: Sitting is also a static shape. Dignified and graceful sitting will give people an elegant, steady and natural aesthetic feeling. The correct sitting posture should be: straight back and relaxed shoulders. Women should put their knees together; Male knees can be separated, but not too big, generally not more than shoulder width. Put your hands naturally on your knees or on the armrests of your chair. On formal occasions, you should be gentle and gentle when seated, dignified and steady when you get up, and you should not sit up and down suddenly, which will make the tables and chairs rattle and create an embarrassing atmosphere. No matter what sitting posture, the upper body should be kept straight, as the ancients said, "sitting like a clock." If you insist on this, then no matter how you change your posture, it will be beautiful and natural.
4. Pose: Walking is the main action in people's life, and walking posture is a dynamic beauty. "Walking like the wind" means using popular water to describe a brisk and natural gait. The correct walking posture is: light and steady, chest erect, head lifted, shoulders relaxed, eyes straight, smiling, and natural swing arm.
2. Meeting etiquette
1. Handshake: Handshake is an important way to communicate ideas, exchange feelings and enhance friendship. When shaking hands with others, look at each other with a smile, don't be absent-minded, look around, and don't wear a hat and gloves to shake hands with others. Under normal circumstances, the time for shaking hands should not exceed 3 seconds. You must stand and shake hands to show respect and courtesy to others.
Shake hands also pays attention to a certain order: generally, it pays attention to the "honour person's decision", that is, after the lady, elder, married person and person with high position reach out their hands, the man, junior, unmarried person and person with low position can reach out their hands to respond. If a person wants to shake hands with many people, then it is polite to follow the elders first, then the guests first, and the order is: superiors first, then lower, lower, elder first, and master J first.
2. Bowing: Bowing, which means bending over to salute, is a courtesy way to admire others. When bowing, you must stand at attention, take off your hat, look west, or say something unrelated to the salute while bowing. Look at each other before bowing to show sincerity of respect. Seriously; , the mouth is not 6. After that, you should double 6 ladies before men to show respect and be able to eat anything and look at it politely.
3. Greeting: Greeting is a kind of silent greeting etiquette, which is often used to greet people who know each other. In social occasions, people often wave and greet. Bow down and take off your hat to express your kindness.
3. Etiquette of public places
(1) Etiquette of specific public places
1. Theater: Audiences should take their seats as early as possible. If their seats are in the middle, they should politely signal to those who have already taken them and let them pass. When you give up your seat, you should think positively about it, and don't let your hips face others' faces. This is very rude. You should pay attention to dressing neatly, even if the weather is hot and bare-chested, it is unsightly. Don't make a hullabaloo about in the theater, laugh and make noise, and treat the theater as a snack bar. After the performance, the audience should leave in an orderly way, and don't push and shove.
2. Library and reading room: The library and reading room are public study places.
① pay attention to neatness and obey the rules. You can't wear sweatshirts and drag shoes in. When sitting, don't reserve a seat for others. When consulting the catalogue card, don't turn it upside down or tear it, or scribble on it with a pen.
② Keep quiet and sanitary. It is impolite to walk lightly, not to talk loudly and not to eat food with sound or shells.
③ Books, chairs and benches in libraries and reading rooms are public property, so we should also take good care of them.