From my personal experience, in the 1970s, when my parents built it, there was a big family, and my brother and sister-in-law were very good. I learned to make clothes at my husband's house, and several sisters-in-law brought cloth to help them make clothes and take care of their meals. My parents left the family, and my brother and sister-in-law retired to the second line when they were old. Now the youngest are the masters of their own homes, and we are old relatives, so we have less natural contact.

When we were at work, our colleagues all felt older than us. Children have babies, sons get married, and the elderly at home do everything. I go to the same class to attend or give gifts. For example, I live in the same yard as the manager. Before he retired, my grandson came back to pick me up to give gifts. When he stopped being a manager, he pretended not to know when my daughter was in her teens. He took a look at my husband and wife and decided not to invite colleagues.

When my husband reported the manager's corruption under his real name, no one in the factory talked to me much, and some people were embarrassed.

Therefore, from experiencing too many things, I can see clearly that people, feelings and money are all for money. When you are poor, no one asks you. Only in the most difficult times can we see clearly and wake up.

How can we know ourselves clearly?

As the saying goes: the prodigal son will never change his money! Admitting a mistake is half corrected. If you know your karma, you should cheer up as soon as possible. Start all over again and find what you lost.

Learn from mistakes. Fall from somewhere and get up from there. One door closes and the other opens. Thirty years old is a good time, and I have realized that my social experience is mature. I should learn things soon. As long as I have perseverance and confidence, I will do my best in my career. Don't be discouraged. Find a skill and study hard. shine on you is better than Blue. First of all, we should start with learning and make a hard-won boat. We can also go to technical schools to learn more skills and lay a solid foundation for the future. Don't aim too high, but do it in a down-to-earth way. You will get yourself out of the predicament, find more famous sayings and aphorisms from the book to enrich yourself, believe in yourself, and you will certainly overcome yourself and find a bright road. Starting from 2020, we will struggle step by step. The future is bright! thank you

Thanks to Wukong for inviting me!

No one is born with this and that. You said you were incompetent. Have you tried to learn some skills? In your description, you warned others not to repeat your mistakes by learning some skills, so why didn't you take action? Or have you just been thinking about it, complaining and blaming yourself?

I think we should first find our hobbies and know what our strengths are. Use your own advantages to turn your hobbies into your skills. With your own skills, find a job first, have a basic income, handle the credit card first, step by step, don't worry too much. Don't be overdue. If it is overdue, it will affect the credit investigation. If the credit is not good, many things will have an impact on you in the future.

Putting down face, having nothing, and bearing bank debts are all reasons why you must work hard! In addition to going to work normally, do part-time jobs to keep yourself busy and live a full life every day.

Spend more time studying, reading books or asking others for advice. In short, make good use of all available time to study and improve yourself. If you want to make money, you must first make yourself valuable. No boss wants to hire a worthless employee. Your value in the company determines your salary.

You say how to change yourself and get rid of bad habits. I think the best way is to cultivate a new habit and those bad habits will disappear naturally. For example, stick to fitness, read books, and humbly ask people who are better than you. When you have these habits, you won't have time to do something boring and meaningless.

You said in your description, stay away from credit cards and online loans, and never overdraw tomorrow. I quite agree with this. Credit cards can be used properly in an emergency, but they should be consumed rationally, not maliciously overdrawn, and they can't make ends meet. As for online loans, try not to touch them. Once the online loan is as deep as the sea, it is difficult to extricate itself from the quagmire.

After reading your question, it can be said that it is full of negative energy! Thirty is the best golden age in life, but you are still feeling sorry for yourself! Let me give you a suggestion. If we want to know ourselves clearly, we should first read this article carefully.

Mao Zedong, a great man of a generation, famously said: People should have a little spirit. This spirit is a feeling, a realm, a transcendence, a blood and character unwilling to be mediocre, unwilling to yield, unwilling to muddle along. Judging from your statement, I think you should be a boy. According to our traditional view, men should stand tall to be called men! After reading what you said, how can there be a shadow of a man? ! I'm not accusing you. Don't you want to know yourself clearly? ! But do you know who can make you know yourself better? ! Only yourself! Analyzing your words, I think you clearly know yourself from one side, but you are just a "negative" self. We often say that there are two little people in our subconscious. They always direct the right things and the wrong things. They have been quarrelling and want you to listen to his arrangement. If you beat the wrong one correctly, then you are successful, and vice versa.

First look at what you wrote: nothing, no skills, overdraft credit, higher heart than the sky, thinner life than paper, and then look at the key words: failure, neglect, regret, confusion, sin. What are they talking about? It is reasonable to say that this is a sober understanding, but have you ever thought about how all this came about? ! We are not born, let alone inherited by our parents, but our own results! I think since you have such a deep understanding of your thoughts and behaviors, is it still difficult to correct them? ! Work hard, now work hard in the opposite direction, so young, everything is possible, as long as you don't give up your childhood dreams and parents' expectations, everything will be in time, the key is to do it! Start with small things, set a goal at your fingertips and work hard to achieve it! Learn to arrange your own life in your spare time, read more books, cultivate a healthy interest in life, stay away from bad habits, pay attention to persistence, and one day you will find another brand-new self!

Where there is a will, there is a way. You know, you can't look at others. God can't help you. Believe in yourself, only yourself!

How can we know ourselves clearly?

Thanks to the invitation of the platform, I answer this question.

Family, personal ability,

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Some people are born with money, which is the sense of superiority brought by family!

Some people were born in poor families.

Some people are born in ordinary families.

We should have a correct understanding of our family, live a rich life and live a poor life. Families born in rich places should not be too arrogant, and families born in poor places do not need to indulge themselves. They should have a positive attitude to change their family situation.

To sum up, no matter what platform families can build for themselves, they should honor their parents, unite their brothers and sisters, do a good job in family construction and have a sense of family responsibility!

As far as personal ability is concerned, it is difficult to eat wisdom without wisdom, so we should actively study to improve our ability. For example, those with knowledge and culture can improve their knowledge and ability, while those without culture can learn culture, or learn a craft, do business, start a business and so on. Step by step, don't aim too high,

Finally, to sum up, a positive attitude is like the sun, where it shines, and a negative attitude is like the moon, which is different from the fifteenth day of the first month.

How can we know ourselves clearly?

How can we know ourselves clearly?

You said that you are "thirty years old, have accomplished nothing, have no skills, and owe money on your credit card". You said you were a failed self. At the same time, you said that you should recognize yourself, change yourself, and use the next decade to save the lost decade. Therefore, I believe that you have what you want in your heart, unwilling to fail, and strive hard.

Thirty years old, life is not half over. Ten years of waste is nothing, and you can find some savings from it. Although I don't know what they will be, I think there must be something to cherish and feel, maybe some people, some things, or just simple experiences. These experiences are not only the results, but also the real process and the step-by-step efforts you have made for you. Therefore, to know yourself is to look at your past in an all-round way, with the exception of denial and approval.

You said you were reading some books and wanted to make some changes and adjustments, but you didn't know where to go. Indeed, when you are trying to deny the past and look forward to the future by "restoring" the past, all you see is the past, and the future is too vague. Therefore, you might as well base yourself on the present and take a practical step to solve the realistic dilemma you are facing. When you choose to take the first step, the direction is generated.

So, this time, how do you want to move forward? Don't rush to see ten years. Look at these one or two years first. What do you hope to do and achieve? Of course, these questions need to be answered with "how". When you are willing to answer yourself "how", you will find the answer "how to change".

Finally, I wish you peace and good luck and take a new step in the new year.

Brief introduction of the author

Now that you have read Four Disciplines for Fanfan, I will talk about my thoughts according to your situation. Please forgive me if I am immature. If I can help you, it will be my blessing.

The book "Four Seasons from Fan" is the author's "From Fan" which tells the development of fate according to his own life experience. The book is divided into four chapters, namely, establishing life, reforming, accumulating goodness and humility.

In the Four Seasons of Li Fan, Li Fan gave up the exam because of his father's death and became a doctor. Later, due to the appearance of Mr. Kong Lao, he picked up the idea of reading again. You said you were thirty years old and accomplished nothing. I have no skills at all. I still owe1.2000 credit card. But you haven't explained what you've been through before. Is it because of your relatives or other people that your life becomes more and more difficult? This is the first question you need to think clearly.

If it is only because you are ignorant or have done some improper work, at least after you ask this question, I think you are willing to change.

There is a saying in "Four Masters", "I, Mr. Kong, have a destiny, share weal and woe, and share life and death. Even if you want to be paranoid, you can't be paranoid. " It means that my fate has been calculated by Mr. Kong. Whether it's life or death, or glory or embarrassment, everything has been decided, and I can't change it or think about it. I don't know if you have this mentality now. Because everything in front of us, whether it is our own ability or the debt we are burdened with, is like a monkey under Wuzhishan, trying to struggle but unable to move.

Do you feel that your fate is so bitter? But think about it, if you define yourself as nothing, then natural life will bully you, and others will bully you, because you even look down on yourself. Why should others give you respect?

Therefore, my first suggestion is to look at yourself correctly again and understand your strengths and weaknesses. Because only in this way can you understand the truth written in the book, "I make my life, and I seek happiness by myself."

You mentioned in your question that you can't know yourself and your heart clearly. I really want to ask you what is the purpose of living for these 30 years? Is it for pleasure, or to make yourself better, or to complete the so-called mission in life?

I don't know if you agree with this sentence in "Four Disciplines for Fan Fan", "Those who enjoy a hundred gold must be a hundred gold figures; Those who should starve to death must starve to death; The sky is just a little more meaningful because of matter. " It means that people with thousands or hundreds of dollars must be worth it, and those who starve to death must starve to death. God only decides their fate according to how they get it, and does not add it at will. Through this passage, I'm not saying that you deserve what you are now, but you should know that you are taken for granted and don't deserve excessive self-contempt.

And I think you dare to ask this question on this platform, saying that you can't commit suicide and are not afraid to pay back the money. I believe that you are actually a responsible person, at least you will try to make up for your mistakes. So I can think like this: Is this your destiny? Let you suddenly wake up at this moment and find yourself again? This is the second question you need to think clearly.

In Christine's Four Disciplines, he said, "The past died yesterday; After all kinds, such as today's birth; This meaning is reborn. " It means that everything in the past is like yesterday and everything in the future is like today. If you do this, you will be reborn and get a new life.

I always thought that everyone grew up at a different time. Some people know what they want from an early age, so they struggle very early, while others need to go through many hardships to truly understand the meaning of their lives. Everyone has done something wrong, and there are irreversible moments. I think it's better to go back to the road and change my life track than to immerse myself in past mistakes. This is my second advice to you.

In the question, you said it was almost 2020. You want to catch up with the decade I lost in the next decade, and you want to change yourself. I think what you said shows that you have a plan in mind, but you just don't know if you should take the first step. Besides, people live a long life now.

If you only live to 60 years old and spend ten years chasing the lost decade, you will have at least 20 years to live happily, but if you don't do it all the time and just passively fall into self-regret, you will live painfully for 30 years.

Think about it, which lifestyle do you prefer? This is the third question you need to think about.

There is a saying in "Four Seasons from Fan", "Life and death are the most important. If you live too early, you must obey." This means that in life, only life and death are the most important, that is, long life and short life, then all the fortunes of a day are the results they deserve.

In other words, before you go to the place of death, you still have a chance to save your fate, but you should distinguish between those you have to do your best and those you just have to do your best, prioritize and find your own life support. This is my third suggestion to you.

Well, that's what I'm talking about. I hope you and others who have the same doubts can get some inspiration after seeing it.

Note: Part of the article comes from Four Instructions to Fan.

This is a good question worth discussing. Love yourself first. A person who doesn't love himself can't talk about loving others. Only by loving himself can he know.

A person who loves himself is at least a person full of confidence and sunshine, which comes from self-awareness, self-awareness and since the enlightenment.

Self-awareness is inseparable from self-discipline. The human body is the capital of life, the carrier of holidays and vacations, and the most sophisticated autonomous structure, so people should ensure three links: emotional communication, blood communication and defecation communication. People's emotions are closely related to the five internal organs, such as exultation and sadness, anger hurting the liver, anxiety hurting the spleen, great sadness for the lungs, fear of kidney injury, uneven heart, disharmony of qi, blood stasis, intense heart fire, unhappiness, anger leading to stagnation of liver qi, obstruction of qi and blood, and difficulty in defecation. Try reading The Inner Diameter of the Emperor, not only to understand and maintain the body, but more importantly, to know how to be a man. People get sick because all diseases are born of anger, which violates the laws of natural life, overdraws their lives, stays up late and works overtime. Caring for and maintaining your body means loving your family, loving your parents and being responsible for your family.

People should not only pay attention to the maintenance of the body, but also pay attention to the maintenance of the mind. You might as well live in the present, approach your heart every day, open your inner lock, sit still for more than ten minutes, think more and reflect on your right and wrong, good and bad, success and failure, right and wrong, know a little every day, wake up, correct a little, improve a little and learn more, every day. There are 365 points in a year, and there are so many points in your life that you can shine and live as a light source, not only to illuminate. Only by being full of sunshine and vitality can we be full of positive energy. It doesn't matter what others say. Only by being yourself, living the truest, best and kindest self, being grateful and tolerant of parents, is to tolerate the world. It is better to honor your parents than to pray to God and worship Buddha. This is the best self-love.

Life is like a dream, but it is beautiful. Life is like a dream, why not, constantly improve yourself, work hard, realize your ideal dream and live up to this life. If life is an encounter with fate and a release, why not dwell on the past, live in someone else's world and be unhappy for your own troubles? The so-called broad-minded, is broad-minded, knowledgeable, not happy with things, not sad with things, life is like a gift, happiness and pain always buy one get one free. The so-called fraternity is to forgive and accept the good and bad of others. Everyone is not perfect, everyone will make mistakes, and they will make mistakes themselves. Others are not me, but another self, and the world is made up of countless selves. Therefore, to tolerate others is to let go of yourself, and to hurt others is to not love yourself. Only when people are confident and have a strong heart can they enjoy themselves, be contented, be grateful, wake up and feel beautiful, and then they can cope with emergencies in life, face life and death correctly and save themselves.

Digging deep into the end, the process of self-awareness is a life of self-cultivation and self-cultivation.

I know my weight like the back of my hand and see my heart clearly. Ability depends on how many people support you and like you. You live a wonderful life. No one wants to taste the best food, just like abandoned food. No one wants to accompany you through life, and it is lonely and boring.

From the article written by the landlord, we can realize the depressed mood of the landlord. Now that things have come to this, we should learn to face them, rather than selectively shirk our responsibilities. The first thing you have to do is to sort out your debts and plan a direction. In his thirties, when he was in his prime, Mo Yan gave up. The past is the past after all, and we have to face tomorrow, not the future. As long as we make up our minds to do it now, it is not too late. I suggest that the landlord have time to watch Cui's speech and don't complain about relying on himself. Everything is the best arrangement. As long as we are grateful, our world will be full of sunshine, hope and love. 2020 is coming, I hope the landlord will have a successful career in the new year, come on [praise]