Impressions from Reading "The Analects" (Sixty-seven)

Original text: Confucius said: "A gentleman is magnanimous, but a villain is always concerned."

In the book Translation: Confucius said: "A gentleman is broad-minded, but a villain is always worried."

My insights:

"A gentleman is magnanimous, but a villain is always worried" is a saying that is known to all women and children. His wise sayings have been sung throughout the ages. From Chapter 37 of "Shu Er Pian" of "The Analects of Confucius".

Many people often make banners with this sentence and hang them in their rooms to motivate themselves.

Confucius believed that a gentleman is broad-minded, aboveboard, open-minded, does not remember mistakes, is open to all rivers, and is optimistic and open-minded. For example, the day before yesterday I went back to the countryside to attend a funeral. I met my aunt whom I had not seen for many years and had some time apart. I took the initiative to say hello to her, but she looked at me with a numb expression and said nothing. I thought my aunt might not recognize me, so I walked over, held his hand, and told her my name. My aunt happily chatted with me and was so excited that she burst into tears. This is what I call a "gentleman who is magnanimous".

The villain is narrow-minded, worried about gains and losses, preoccupied, worried, embarrassed, restless, pessimistic and disappointed. For example, yesterday my dad Pao received a call from the aunt's son, asking why dad ignored his two sisters when he returned to his hometown. He was so angry that they couldn't sleep all night. Dad Pao told him, we haven't seen each other for many years, your sisters have grown up, and I don't know them anymore. Since they know me, why don't they take the initiative to talk to me? If I ignore them, I will be considered rude and I apologize. Is this a sign of their brother and sister's "eternal relationship"? (I guess this phone call became even more "angry")

Confucius also said: "A gentleman seeks for himself, and a villain seeks for others."

Reflection on problems Think about yourself, reflect on what you have done wrong, how to apologize, and how to correct it. This is "asking for others instead of yourself." If you find the reasons for everything within yourself, you will be able to behave openly, do things calmly, work comfortably, and live happily. This is "magnanimity".

Conflicts occur with leaders and colleagues at work, or conflicts with family members in life. You complain, blame the boss for being unfair, blame the colleagues for tripping up, blame the parents for being unreasonable, blame the spouse for not understanding, blame the children for not being sensible. , you will be nervous, worried, sad, angry, irritable, etc. At this time, the conflict has not eased, the problem has not been solved, and you are even more worried. This is "Chang Qiqi".

In fact, we have all experienced "magnanimity" and "long-term relationship". In other words, sometimes we are gentlemen and sometimes we are villains. We cannot simply flaunt ourselves as "gentlemen" and label others as "villains". Gentleman and villain are two different states in our body. What we have to do is, in study, work, and life, work hard to cultivate ourselves, reduce the elements of villains in the body, and increase the elements of gentlemen in the body, so that we can be happy, joyful, happy, and safe, and enjoy the "magnanimousness of a gentleman" comfortable.

Today I listened to Teacher Fan Deng’s conversation with Mr. Jin Weichun. There was such a conversation:

Did you see it? There are no complaints, no cares, no inferiority, and no arrogance.

Mr. Jin said that his mother became a widow at a young age, could not read, was in a foreign land, lacked a sense of security, and did not know how to live. The only way to express her naughty son was with feather dusters and broomsticks.

When Mr. Jin grew up, he reflected that his mother had nothing but "beating, scolding and love" for him. Because he had nothing, he had to study hard, be proactive, and rely entirely on himself. Although he has lofty ideals of saving the world, he also has to take action to clean his mother's room and take the trash downstairs. This is cultivation.

Mr. Jin believes that there is only one thing in life, and that is cultivation. Because of cultivation, the mother is happy, the husband and wife are harmonious, the father is kind and the son is filial. Mr. Jin is a transparent person and lives an open and comfortable life. There are no blames and complaints, and there are not so many things to worry about, so he can have a successful career.

Mr. Jin "Don't do evil because it's small, don't do good because it's small." He cultivated himself into a gentleman and stayed away from villains, so he no longer "lived together".

In life, we will encounter various uncontrollable problems such as career setbacks, illness of relatives, misunderstandings from friends, rebellious children, etc. If we remain anxious, painful, and sad, we will never understand our lives. , always uneasy.

Since there are so many things that are uncontrollable, it is better to let go of your attachments and let the winds blow from east to west, north and south. Don’t swell in good times, don’t be decadent in adversity, cultivate yourself by living a down-to-earth life, shoulder your own responsibilities, and do what you should do at the moment, and you will surely be able to have a brighter future.

If we can’t control others, we should control ourselves and do what we should do.