What happened in the past few days would weigh a thousand kilograms if you put it down. If you want to write an article, you can outline it and go online. If not handled properly, it can be catastrophic for the child and his or her family. If the teacher chooses to forgive from the perspective of students' growth, it is really a great love, and it does require a feeling and a tolerant heart.
Yesterday afternoon, I received a call from a parent from afar. I guess the parents knew that the paper could not contain the anger, and expressed their willingness to write a letter of apology and post it on the school gate, and expressed their sincere apology. After hearing this, the teacher kept thinking about this question: Why did this child's mind become like this? What is the problem with family education? With a research mentality, I gained an in-depth understanding of the students' mental journey this time. The specific problems faced by parents are:
First, the child is a middle-aged man and he is a boy, so he is particularly doting on him. This leads to children being extremely selfish and self-centered. They even hope that teachers will always focus on the children and cannot listen to different opinions. The slightest indolence or lack of consideration will immediately result in hatred. This was evident in what the child said when the teacher asked why.
The second is that parents only pay attention to their children’s scores, neglect spiritual nourishment and meet their children’s material needs, and basically ignore their children’s ideological quality, which leads to their children’s thoughts going astray and focusing exclusively on those negative things. The whole body is full of negative energy, so that everything seen in the eyes is dark and gray. No wonder his world is full of bad and defective things.
The third is the lack of ideological guidance and communication with the children, and the inability to feel the beating pulse of the children's thoughts, so that when the children engage in excessive behavior, they become restless and even hysterical and lose their minds. This will make the child confused and fearful, which will greatly destroy the person's spiritual support, leaving the child unable to recover.
"The world kissed me with pain, but I responded with songs." I remembered Rabindranath Tagore's famous saying. As for children, I think they are still children after all, and they are underage children. If they make mistakes on the way to growth, they are allowed to correct them. It is also the responsibility of educators to educate children so that they will no longer go astray. , in a sense, saving a child is like saving a family and saving the fate of a family. As a teacher, tolerating students, understanding them from their perspective, and respecting their original intentions may lead to another outcome. So I took the initiative to send a message to the parents:
"As long as the child truly knows his mistakes, will do good in the future, is not impulsive, and thinks twice before acting, the teacher will be satisfied. There is no need to go overboard (kneeling down, posting apology letters) Outside school, etc.). After all, children are children and they all grow up through trial and error. Parents and teachers must treat their children with an inclusive and accepting attitude. This is our original intention. ”
Father. The reply was: "Hello, Teacher Hua! Thank you for your understanding of the child. Your great love has saved the child and our family. Through this incident, it has given us as parents a deep reflection, and we will educate our children better in the future." To strengthen ideological and moral education, I am coming back from Beijing and will take my children to apologize to you in person in the afternoon. Thank you, Teacher Hua!”
My mother’s reply was: “I thank you, you are my child’s best friend.” Whistleblower, let him remember: people are equal, learn to be grateful, and do whatever you want at any age, and don’t mix in boring things.
You are, to a certain extent, also. It saved a young man's heart and made him know that a gentleman has three fears: fear of destiny, fear of adults, and fear of saints. The villain does not know the destiny and does not know how to choose his own path in life. When you are at the crossroads of his life, let him recognize himself.
Teacher Hua, I will remember your great love and help me remind my children that love exists among millions. It is because of your efforts that only noble people can teach. I deeply appreciate the charm of famous teachers.”
The communication and education effect this afternoon is quite good. One wisdom. I believe that children have truly understood that the fundamental task of education is to "cultivate people with moral integrity" and understand that to do good things, you must first be a good person. I also hope that the children will truly take the long road of life in the future.