"Zhuangzi" said: "The friendship between gentlemen is as light as water, and the friendship between villains is as sweet as sweet wine." This sentence tells us that the friendship between gentlemen comes from broad-minded understanding, while the friendship between villains is full of love. interests.
Life is not an island. Over the course of decades in life, you will always meet all kinds of people. If you can make a gentleman, you will have someone to rely on throughout your life and everything will go well for you.
If you are unfortunate enough to befriend a snob, you will suffer greatly from it. He will support you when you are proud, and he will be the first to add insult to injury when you are frustrated.
Of course, no one is a fool, and no one wants to make friends with villains, so why are there so many people who are harmed by villains? The ancients often said: "Knowing people knows their faces but not their hearts."
Villains will not write the word "villain" on their faces. They will only reveal their true colors when they are down and out. It can be said to be very difficult to prevent. Therefore, whether you can correctly identify who is a villain has become the key to the success of your life.
At this time, you should be glad that you are Chinese. Chinese culture has a long history, and the precepts and famous sayings passed down by our ancestors from generation to generation can often solve most of the problems in a person's life.
Our ancestors also gave us warnings on how to identify villains: snobs often have these three characteristics, and the best policy is to stay away from them.
"In matters of business, you must flatter yourself." This sentence means that when a villain treats his superiors, he always uses villain skills such as flattery and flattery.
This kind of people always try their best to cater to the leader. They always have a groveling posture in front of the leader. They don’t seek to be useful when speaking or doing things, but just want the leader to like and make the leader comfortable. They are trying every day to find ways to please the leader. .
Be careful when you meet such people in life, because their energy is not on work, and cooperating with such people will only increase your work burden.
The ancients said: "When yang advances, a gentleman rises, and when yin recedes, a villain." This sentence tells us that villains like to make trouble behind their backs and use insidious means to harm others. Only everyone is a gentleman. Then they had nowhere to hide.
They will do anything to please their leader, even going so far as to hurt and betray his colleagues and friends. They often wear a hypocritical mask in their lives, without any bottom line, and they have no ill intentions toward themselves.
But if you get close to them, they will try their best to find out their whereabouts and secrets, and report to the leaders behind their backs, so that their every move will be known to the leaders clearly, and there will be no privacy. Word.
Such people often do one thing in front of others and another behind the scenes. When their own interests affect them, they will not compete fairly with themselves. They are happy on the surface, but behind the scenes they always follow the leadership. Fanning the flames, saying all bad things, doing evil in secret, leaving oneself without a foothold.
Therefore, when judging whether a person is a villain, first look at his attitude towards his boss. A gentleman must be loyal and respectful in his affairs, and he must flatter others in his affairs.
When you see a person following behind your leader every day to flatter him, you must understand that this person is probably a villain and you must stay away from him, otherwise you may be hurt by his rumors behind your back. Let yourself be criticized by others and find it difficult to gain a foothold in the company.
"If you wait for a subordinate, you will be arrogant and careless." This sentence means that a villain always treats his subordinates with an arrogant, conceited, and contemptuous attitude.
Just as "The Gentleman's Song" says: "A gentleman brings blessings, while a villain brings authority." A gentleman always benefits others, but a villain only intimidates others. When people get along with subordinates, they have no scruples and will not be too restrictive. In this case, everyone's true nature comes out.
Villains generally believe that their subordinates are on the weak side and it is difficult for them to benefit from it, so at this time they no longer need to hide themselves, but directly reveal their true colors.
They will bully the weak when they are strong. They always act condescending and have a very arrogant attitude. They will not care about the demands of their subordinates because it may harm his interests, so he will Make yourself look condescending and unreasonable.
Such people will not sincerely regard anyone as a friend in their interactions. They will only show a hypocritical smile, make friends with useful people when they see them, and treat them as a small spark on their way forward. chess piece.
Once he gains power, he will treat others with a arrogant air. This is the so-called "people who are in adversity cannot share wealth and honor".
Villains are people who are obsessed with profit. All their interactions are conducted under profitable circumstances. When they are of no use to them, they will kick themselves. Kick him away and cling to people who can bring him benefits.
Therefore, when you want to see clearly a person’s temperament in life, you should pay more attention to his attitude when getting along with his subordinates. If you are arrogant and arrogant, then you are undoubtedly a villain. Getting along with such a villain is a waste of your energy and time. It is best to stay away from them if you encounter them.
Fang Xiaoru, a great scholar in the Ming Dynasty, said: "A gentleman's interests are to benefit others; a villain's interests are to benefit himself." When a gentleman makes a profit, he will also consider the interests of others, while villains are selfish Yes, they don’t think about helping others, they only think about themselves when pursuing benefits.
Whenever they have difficulties, they count on others to help them, and may even take the initiative to ask for help from others. When the difficulties are over, it seems like nothing happened to them, and they will not think about repaying the kindness of others. Even if there is a conflict of interest, they will betray their benefactors without hesitation.
Just like Qingtong, Dong Cheng’s domestic slave during the Three Kingdoms period, he was such an ungrateful villain. He was raised by Dong Cheng, but he was ungrateful and even committed adultery with Dong Cheng’s concubine. This book It was a capital crime, but Dong Cheng couldn't bear to kill him, so he just punished him. Not only did Qingtong not appreciate his kindness, he also eavesdropped on Dong Cheng's conversation and reported it to Cao Cao, causing Dong Cheng to be executed by his entire family.
It can be seen from this case that no matter how much favors you apply to villains, it is useless. Not only will they not reciprocate, they will even burn bridges and harm themselves for their own benefit.
Sima Guang said, "It is better to befriend fools than to win villains." This is the path. If you make friends with stupid people, even if they don't know the rewards, they won't harm you. Doing good deeds can be regarded as increasing your own heart.
Not only will the villain not repay, he will even harm himself and put himself in danger. Therefore, if you encounter an ungrateful person in your life, you must keep a respectful distance from them, otherwise one day you will get burned and you will have no peace.
The ancients often said: "It is difficult to guard against villains." The reason why villains are difficult to guard against is precisely because they can disguise themselves and will not easily reveal their selfish side when they deliberately approach themselves for benefit.
However, no matter how realistic they act, their own personalities will always be exposed unknowingly. For example, they will be sycophantic in front of their bosses; they will be arrogant and arrogant in front of their subordinates; they will ask for help when they are in trouble, which is safe. Cross the river and burn the bridge.
If you see a person with these characteristics, it is best to stay away immediately. Because these behaviors are engraved in the bones of villains, they are only interested in profit and can hide their selfishness when getting along with them.
But this selfishness will be exposed through his attitude towards different people, and it is impossible to hide it. Only if you are a close gentleman and a far away villain can your life be smooth sailing.
Author: Mr. Qian Mian Xiaoqiang
He knows a little about family affairs, state affairs, and world affairs;
People have thousands of faces, and things have everything. The world under the tip of the iceberg is the real world with undercurrents. Life requires a discerning eye to see through illusions.
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