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I just celebrated my 30th birthday. There was no candlelight dinner, no flowers and gifts, but a simple and warm family dinner with my family. At the age of thirty, I have a lovely and obedient child, a lover who is as warm as ever, a family member who understands and cherishes each other, and a group of friends I can chat with. In an ideal house, I get up early, exercise, read, write, and meet Be a better version of yourself and live the life you want.

Thirty is a watershed moment for a woman. Your appearance before the age of thirty is given by your parents, and your life after the age of thirty is cultivated by yourself. Before the age of thirty, we may have been timid, weak, hesitant, and wrong, but after the age of thirty, we must strive to be brave, determined, persistent, and tenacious. Before the age of thirty, we tried our best to please the world, just because we were afraid that the world would not see you. After the age of thirty, we just want to please ourselves, make peace with the world, and live our lives according to our own wishes.

Thirty is the best age for a woman. Bid farewell to the innocence and naivety of my twenties, and accumulated thirty years of life tempering. With a confident smile on my face, my eyes shining with determination, I stepped on the soil of dreams and walked singing, the clouds were light and the wind was gentle. Calm and relaxed, not pinched or tense, this is the most beautiful look of a woman in her thirties, and it is also the best youth of a woman.

After thirty years of age, life enters the second half. We should turn the spotlight from the outside world back to ourselves, be our own protagonists, and live for ourselves.

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The road is long and long, and I will search up and down. Throughout our lives, we persevere and tirelessly explore the meaning of life. In fact, life is meaningless. If more people ask, some meaning will be achieved. The meaning of life is given by yourself. From the time we were born, stumbled all the way, experienced the cardamom years, until we were thirty years old, we have been asking ourselves three questions:

"Know thyself!" is engraved on the temple of Delphi, the holy city of Greece. A famous saying of "The World", it warns the world in a straightforward way that recognizing one's own essence is a must-learn life lesson for everyone. In this Internet era that promotes individuality and diverse values, we often claim to "just be yourself". But the prerequisite for being yourself and living for yourself is that we must understand yourself objectively, fairly, and comprehensively.

To be yourself and live for yourself, you must first live very clearly. You can correctly evaluate your abilities, how capable you are, and how much you can do. We must have ambitious goals, and we must have practical actions. I believe that the power of the sun and the water droplets can help us reach all distant places. Those who live a transparent and understanding life have a clear map of life deep in their hearts. They not only have ambitious life goals, but also a road map and timetable to achieve their goals.

The summer Chinese comic movie "Nezha: The Devil Boy Comes into the World" has become a hit in the circle of friends. What touches me the most is Nezha's vivid character. He is just being himself and being naughty. Nezha is the mischievous one, Nezha is the sentimental one, and Nezha is the warm and kind one. He only acts as his own hero and is willing to sacrifice his life for the people he likes. When Ao Bing lost himself, Nezha said, "Everyone else's opinions are bullshit. Only you can decide who you are. This is what my father taught me." In the struggle with fate, Nezha said, "Fuck the bird's life! My destiny is up to me, not God! I decide whether I am a demon or a fairy!"

It is Nezha's fate to refuse to accept fate. , should also be our fate.

-03-

The world is changing rapidly, and the only thing we can control is to become the best version of ourselves. The correct way to live for yourself is to accept life as it is, remain humble towards the world, remain independent of yourself, and fully understand who you are. The most beautiful gesture for a person should be to find his or her passion, which is something that can be highly immersed and selfless, allowing one to enjoy the present while building the future.

Haruki Murakami once said: Do what you like at the time you like, in the way you like. To me, this is the definition of a free man. In life, white horses pass by, like morning dew. We live not to please the world, but to please ourselves in our own way. Don't let others define your life, you can be who you want to be and do what you love. If you don't do some things now, you will never do them in your lifetime. After the age of thirty, living without understanding and struggling to cater to the world would be too bleak a life.

There is no meaning in living someone else's life. If there is only one awesome way to live in the world, it is to live your own life the way you want.

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Be yourself and live for yourself. The most important thing is to love yourself more and pamper yourself. After becoming a mother, my mantra is, I am a mother, and I am myself. Not only do I say this, I also do it. Children are the most important part of my life at this stage, but they are not the whole of my life. I also don’t want to lose myself. While spending quality time with my children, I race against time and do my best to get up early, exercise, read, and write. I gain a fuller life. To love yourself is to live passionately.

After many female friends get married and start having children, they are overwhelmed by the chaos of life, the cumbersome family affairs, the crying and noisy children, and the militancy, completely forgetting that the stars were in the sea before marriage. With such lofty ambitions, I can only recall my past ideals of life and sigh secretly after night falls and the prosperity comes to an end.

But there is always a magic weapon that can break through the siege, capture the city, defend the castle of our dreams, and bloom the most beautiful flowers when we are fighting against this world. This magical weapon is our passion. Standing at thirty is based on ambition, ideals and love. When we find the love of life, we will find ways to carve out a territory for ourselves from the nooks and crannies of life. If you want to do something, the whole world will make way for you. After thirty, when people reach middle age, life begins to subtract, and there are fewer and fewer things that are truly worthy of our time and energy. For me, family and children are one of the most important things, and self-growth is also a very important thing. Love and growth last until death.

Only love can withstand the passage of time.