Confucius said, "The winner has three friends, but the loser has three friends. Friends are frank, friends forgive and friends listen more, which is beneficial. Friends will be open, friendly, soft, friends will be destroyed and damaged. " Confucius said, "There are three kinds of beneficial friends and three kinds of harmful friends. It is beneficial to make honest friends, honest friends and knowledgeable friends. It is harmful to make friends with flatterers, people who flatter others on the surface, and people who are good at rhetoric. "

Confucius said, "A gentleman has three fears: fear of destiny, fear of adults and fear of the words of saints. I don't know my fate, but I'm not afraid of it. I am insulting adults and saints. "

Confucius said: "A gentleman has three fears: fear of destiny, fear of nobles, fear of saints, and a villain does not know destiny, so he is not afraid, does not honor others, and despises the words of saints."