1. Liuchi Lane: During the Kangxi period of the Qing Dynasty, Zhang Ying served as a bachelor of Wenhua Palace and the Minister of Rites. The official residence in his hometown of Tongcheng is adjacent to the Wu family. There is an alley between the two courtyards for both parties to enter and exit.
Later, the Wu family wanted to build a new house and wanted to occupy this road, but the Zhang family did not agree. The two parties could not settle the dispute and took the lawsuit to the local county government. The county magistrate took into account that both families were from well-known families and did not dare to end it easily. At this time, the Zhang family wrote an urgent letter to Zhang Ying in anger, asking him to come forward to solve the problem.
After Zhang Ying read the letter, he thought that he should be humble to his neighbors. He wrote four sentences in his reply to his family: "A letter from a thousand miles is only for a wall, so why not give it three feet? The Great Wall is now I still don’t see Qin Shihuang back then.” After reading it, the family understood the meaning and took the initiative to give up three feet of space. Upon seeing this, the Wu family was deeply moved and took the initiative to give up the Sanchifang base, hence the name "Liuchi Lane".
2. Carrying a thorn to plead guilty: Lin Xiangru was named Shangqing because of his meritorious service in "returning the perfect jade to Zhao" and the alliance with Mianchi, ranking above Lianpo. Lian Po was very unconvinced and threatened to humiliate Lin Xiangru in person. After Lin Xiangru learned about it, he tried his best to avoid and tolerate it, and not to conflict with Lian Po.
Lin Xiangru’s retainers thought he was afraid of Lian Po, but Lin Xiangru said: “The Qin State did not dare to invade our Zhao State because of me and General Lian. I tolerated and gave in to General Lian to protect the country. Put danger first and personal grudges behind!" When Lian Po heard this, the story of Lian Po "bearing the thorns to plead guilty" came into being.
3. Renyi Hutong: During the Kangxi period of the Qing Dynasty, the Cao family was the largest household in Fengrun County. They fought with the Lao Gu family next door to build a wall. The Gu family said that the Cao family occupied an extra foot of the Gu family's homestead, and the Cao family said that it had belonged to the Cao family since ancient times.
The two families refused to give in to each other and quarreled, so they sued the Yamen at the same time. When the county magistrate saw that it was these two families, he knew that it was difficult to shave his prickly hair, because both families had officials in Beijing. I am a seventh-grade sesame official. I can't control it if I want to, but I dare not stop it if I want to. Reluctantly, he used a delaying tactic and said, "I'm too busy with official duties at the moment. I'll cut it off for you in half a month and ten days." The Cao and Gu families had no choice but to go home and listen to the news.
The county magistrate returned to the back hall and hurriedly wrote letters to Mr. Cao and Mr. Gu, who were officials in Beijing, requesting each to mediate.
After receiving the letter, Mr. Cao thought to himself: "Mr. Gu and I were officials once and were fellow villagers. It would be too shameful to ruin the harmony between the two families for the sake of a one-foot wall." So he hurriedly wrote the pen. I wrote a letter to my family, which said: "How can I leave a wall with a foot of paper to others? The Great Wall is still there, but now there is no Qin Shihuang." Mr. Yu Shigu also wrote to his family that he should be "courteous" " Letters.
After receiving the letter, the two families not only stopped fighting, but also stepped back one foot inward, leaving an alley named "Renyi Alley" for everyone to walk.
Fengrun County has gone through several changes, but this "Renyi Hutong", which is less than 1 meter wide and less than a hundred feet long, is still preserved on West Street in the city.
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The key to mutual understanding is tolerance.
Tolerance is the most beautiful flower in human nature, and tolerance is the regulating valve for psychological health. In social interactions, it is inevitable that people will suffer losses, be misunderstood, and be wronged. Faced with these, the wisest choice is to learn to be tolerant. Tolerance is a good psychological quality; tolerance is an extraordinary tolerance and broad mind;
Tolerance is a noble quality and lofty realm; tolerance is the light of benevolence and supreme blessing; tolerance is a kind of wisdom for survival and the art of life. It not only contains understanding and forgiveness, but also shows temperament and mind, strength and strength.
A person who is not tolerant and only knows how to be demanding of others is often in a state of psychological tension, which leads to nerve excitement, vasoconstriction, and elevated blood pressure, making the psychology and physiology enter a vicious cycle.
Hatred is a double-edged sword. When you take revenge on others, you will also be harmed. Therefore, the result of "revenge" is "both sides suffer". The life of a person with hatred in his heart is a painful and unfortunate life. Only by letting go of hatred and choosing tolerance will the knot in the heart be suddenly released, and a peaceful and pure "sky of love" will appear in the heart - hatred can stir up Troubles, love conquers all.