If you refuse something reasonably, you can get something more precious.

Rejection is a test of one's courage and mind. If you don't refuse, you can't successfully cross life. Don't be afraid of rejection, we just need more careful decisions and smarter strategies. Say "no" bravely, this is the white sail of our will boat.

Rejection is a right, just as survival is a right. The ancients said, you can't do anything unless you do something. This kind of "inaction" is rejection. People often think that rejection is a forced defense, but they don't know that it is an active choice.

Throughout our lives, the probability of choosing to refuse is much greater than that of choosing to agree. Because life only belongs to us once. If you want to achieve something with your only life, you must find the only flower path among thousands of roads. We decided to "one" and rejected 999. Although we walk together, we are friends for life.

Rejection is so important to us that we grow and move forward in rejection. If you don't refuse, you can't successfully cross life. The essence of rejection is a negative choice.

In the days when we can easily refuse, we wasted time timidly and hesitantly. We put off refusing, and we are afraid of refusing. We compare rejection to the last stop in a dilemma. Whenever possible, we hide in the sand like ostriches. I don't know when we choose to refuse, we should be calm and comprehensive, and have enough time to analyze the pros and cons and consequences. Rejection should be a mature berry after careful consideration, not a forced sour grape.

The essence of rejection is a kind of loss. Compared with gentle and enthusiastic praise, it reflects the cold effort and the crispness of hitting the floor, which requires decisive judgment and courage to walk the line.

If you refuse money, you will stick to poverty all your life.

You refused to have fun, so you went on a vegetarian trip to the end of the world.

If you refuse your parents, you may become a drifting boat, hanging alone overseas.

If you refuse the teacher, you may be expelled from your old school and die.

If you refuse the help of a powerful person, he may oppose you and put obstacles in your journey.

You turned down the favor of a well-connected woman. She may hide a knife in her smile and stab you all over in an unexpected moment.

Your rejection of the boss may symbolize parting ways with a bright future.

You turned down an opportunity, and it will never come back to visit you, leaving you with lifelong regret.

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Rejection is not as pleasant as choice, and its rigorous coat wraps our unexpected wind knife and frost sword. Just like a kind of strong liquor with full stamina, it makes us dizzy in the long night.

So we instinctively fear rejection. Countless times when we should say "no", we were silent. We delayed when we should have refused. At the moment when we postpone the rejection, the cold volume of dream rejection will gradually shrink or even disappear with the passage of time.

Unfortunately, this is just our kindness, and the real situation is often counterproductive. We refused because we had to.

Do not exclude the cancer that should be excluded, just like cauliflower, which is booming and infiltrating into our lives, and it is more difficult to treat every day.

Rejection is bitter, but it is temporary pain, and after the pain, it is calm.

Not refusing is forbearance, and there is a knife in your heart. There is a limit to patience. At that moment, time was delayed and more pain and trouble were gained.

Rejection is a test of one's courage and mind.

Our refusal will hurt some people. Just like the spring breeze will blow away the red, sometimes it is a constant need. If we never refuse, we won't hurt others, but we hurt someone closer to ourselves, and that is ourselves.

There is nothing wrong with refusing. What is responsible is the judgment we make before refusing.

Don't be afraid to refuse, we just need to make a more careful decision.

When interests dazzle you like a kaleidoscope, you will blur your vision in the chaos. Try to refuse.

When you refuse the people and things you least like, your true love is like a rock exposed at low tide, waiting for you to climb.

When you complain that time is like a cake divided by countless knives, you can't find your own cream flower anymore, try to refuse.

Rejection is like sturm und drang, which breeds free walking.

Rejection is sometimes an elegy, echoing with lingering sadness.

Rejection is a kind of courage to burn one's bridges, a kind of spirit to face dripping blood and bleak life.

You can't refuse too much. Rejecting everything fundamentally rejects everyone's once brilliant life. Therefore, we should exercise the right of refusal wisely and bravely.

This is the birthright of each of us, and this is the white sail of the boat of our will.

1. In the face of temptation, you should know how to refuse. Duncan once said: "The reason why virtuous people are virtuous is that they are not tempted enough. This is not because their lives are monotonous and rigid, but because they are absorbed in one goal and have no time to look around. "

Gold test

The president of a big company wants to hire a private driver. He has a problem: there is a pile of gold on the edge of the cliff, which is very dangerous. If you want gold, you may fall off the cliff at any time. How far did you stop to get the gold? The first candidate replied: stop at five meters; The second candidate said, stop in a safe area and get off to get it; The third candidate said that I would stay as far away from the cliff as possible. The employment results are self-evident. The first two candidates are brave, but they only see the temptation in front of them and forget the danger. The third candidate clearly saw the immediate danger and successfully refused the temptation to stay away from it.

2, recognize yourself, things that are incapable, and refuse in time. Rejection does not mean weakness, evasion or laziness. On the contrary, it is responsible for yourself and others.

Stubborn persistence

This is a widely circulated dialogue:

"How long will it take to complete this project?"

"Six months."

"Four months? Give you a 50% reward. "

"Sorry, I can't."

In the dialogue, it was Li Yanhong who bravely said "no" to customers at the beginning of his business. At that time, Baidu was just an unknown small company. However, it was Li Yanhong's tenacious persistence at that time that won the trust of customers. Later, the customer told Li Yanhong that he was very satisfied with his rejection, because it reflected that Li Yanhong was a very real and steady person, so that the quality of his products would be guaranteed.

When our dignity is violated, all we can do is fight back. Dare to refuse, we can get the favor and respect we deserve, and reasonable restraint is precious, which will benefit us endlessly.

Stick to the principle and let Siemens make concessions.

In June 2004, Siemens registered its trademark in China. China companies Lindong and Hisense revealed successively that the trademarks of Hisense and Firefly have been registered in Germany by Siemens subsidiaries Bosch-Siemens and Osram.

In June165438+1October, China's "injured enterprises" Lin Dong and Hisense held formal talks with the EU mission in China respectively. It is reported that this is after the EU intervened in this dispute between Chinese and foreign enterprises. For the first time, formal talks were held with all parties in China.

According to Jia Qiang, chairman of Lindong Electronics, Li Saiyou, the first commercial secretary of the European Union Mission in China, asked at the meeting whether Lindong would accept it if Osram, a subsidiary of Siemens Group, agreed to authorize Lindong to use the "firefly" trademark. At the same time, Lin Dong suggested that in the 1990s, Jerry was thoughtful.

The lawyer continued, "He never had the courage to come to you in person, but now I can tell him an answer that may satisfy him-in fact, he died three days ago."

2. Don't refuse angrily: A calm attitude is the best way to solve contradictions.

Pasteur's weapon

/kloc-Pasteur, a world-famous French biologist, scientist and Nobel Prize winner in the 20th century, angered some people in the field of traditional medicine because of his new medical theories and measures. The old doctors were very dissatisfied with him, and even many people openly challenged him. However, Pasteur lost his footing, and he resolved difficult conflicts again and again with a calm attitude.

Once, Jules Quinn, a famous surgeon in his 80s, sneered at Pasteur's new ideas. Pasteur immediately fought back. There is no point in reprimanding Quinn for a proud action. So Quinn left his seat and punched the 60-year-old Pasteur. Other doctors at the scene rushed to dissuade them, but the two sides punched each other and fought.

The next day, Quinn challenged Pasteur to a duel in an attempt to solve the truth problem by punching and kicking. Pasteur returned his challenge book. The reason why he refused to accept the challenge was: "My profession is to cure diseases, not to kill people."

Another time, while Pasteur was working in the laboratory, a man suddenly broke in and accused him of cheating on his wife. In the argument, the other side put forward a duel. Naive and rational Pasteur can completely drive the other side out of the house, or duel, but that will not solve the problem, and even lead to the consequences of both sides. At this time, Pasteur said calmly, "I am innocent ... if I have to fight, I have the right to choose weapons." The other party agreed. Pasteur pointed to two beakers in front of him and said, "Look at these two beakers, one containing smallpox virus and the other containing clean water. You choose a bottle to drink first, and I'll drink the rest. Is it up to you? " The man was shocked. He suddenly fell into a difficult problem, had to stop arguing and challenging, and awkwardly withdrew from the laboratory.

Don't refuse mercilessly: principles and positions are important, but friendship is as important as love.

Roosevelt kept the secret cleverly.

When Roosevelt was in the navy, a friend asked him about the navy's plan to build a submarine base on an island in the Caribbean.

Roosevelt looked around and whispered, "Can you keep a secret?"

The other party replied: "Of course."

Roosevelt smiled and said, "So can I."

In his humor, Roosevelt allowed the other party to accept his rejection, and at the same time gave the other party a step to go on without being psychologically and emotionally unacceptable. Roosevelt not only kept military secrets, but also maintained the friendship between friends, which was rejected by genius.

4. Don't refuse easily: Although you can't "give everything", you should "do your best".

Compassion is a kind of warmth.

Mr Liu Shaotang, a famous writer, was seriously ill in the early 1990s. After his illness, he has been in poor health and it is difficult to recover. He still needs the help of his family to walk.

However, the number of visitors has not decreased. In order to take care of the visitors' emotions and wishes, and to prevent their physical fatigue, Mr. Liu Shaotang posted a note on his door, which read:

"The old, the weak, the sick and the disabled are all in four categories: rest by doctor's advice and good words. Morning light, inviolable; See you in the afternoon, 4: 30. Life is a matter of life, how dare you violate it; Please forgive me, everyone is convenient. " It was signed by Liu Shaotang.

One afternoon, two young men came to visit Mr Liu Shaotang. After reading this notice on the door, they smiled at each other knowingly and looked at the watch on their wrists, which was more than half an hour behind the prescribed time. Ring the doorbell? Or wait another half an hour? However, after a little hesitation, I couldn't wait to ring the doorbell.

Just as they were waiting to open the door in fear and trembling, the door suddenly opened and a woman in her fifties came out of the room. She is Mr. Liu Shaotang's wife-Zeng Caimei. After the hostess led them to the living room, she said, "Shao Tang has the habit of taking a nap." Since he was ill, he usually receives visitors after 4: 30. "

After listening to the hostess's introduction, they regretted not doing what Mr. Wang said and not ringing the doorbell half an hour in advance. But just as they were fidgeting, Ms. Zeng helped Mr. Shao Tang to the living room. Seeing Mr. Shao Tang and seeing that he is still very weak, the two of them feel even more sorry. Mr. Shao Tang seems to feel the anxiety and apology of the two young people. He deliberately chose some light topics, while Tan Xing was quite strong. The two men were afraid of being tired and decided to leave, although they didn't want to leave. But looking at the watch on my wrist, I have been talking for nearly an hour unconsciously.

An old man like Mr. Liu Shaotang has a high reputation and plays a great role. There will certainly be more people begging him. However, celebrities are human beings, and their bodies, energy and time are always unbearable. He appropriately refused; But in the face of bold and persistent young people, he will do his best to help, and such talents are more worthy of respect.