If you have not experienced the sufferings of others, you are not qualified to persuade others to be kind.

Zhuangzi: Don't use your knowledge to guess other people's world.

Don't persuade others to be good, don't suffer others.

There will never be empathy in this world. Only when you know how cold and warm you are can you know who the knife is stuck in and who will feel pain.

Others see only the surface, and they will never feel their inner emotions, so they have never really experienced other people's lives and never tried to criticize and judge them.

The biggest problem in human nature is that many people always regard themselves as moral standards from their own perspective, judge and accuse others with a mysterious sense of superiority, and even think they are self-righteous.

Never forget that the more people accuse others, the more stupid and ignorant they are. Never stand on your own side and speculate on other people's world with your own narrow cognition. You are not qualified.

What tells us is that

In life, many tragedies are caused by the stupidity of human nature. Too many people stand on their side, constantly accusing others, always treating themselves as saints, but ignoring the emotional changes in things.

Most importantly, these "saints" have never realized that their accusations and comments are the greatest harm to the parties.

Language is an invisible weapon that hurts others. When you use words to hurt others, you may never feel the pain yourself, but for the parties, it may even become a lifelong pain.

Only after a person has actually experienced something can he realize the inner contradictions and complex emotional States of the parties. No one is qualified to judge right or wrong except himself.

"Caigen Tan" said: The deliberative body should be aware of the interests of others.

People who say things should try their best to understand the right and wrong of everything except themselves.

Some people think that when a person is in the middle of a thing, it is not easy to see the whole picture, but we should not forget that even if there is a state of "bystanders are clear and the authorities are fascinated", only by personally participating in it can we understand the feelings and look at things objectively and fairly.

Therefore, only by participating in it and understanding the actual situation can you be qualified to speak. The right or wrong of an event is not judged by subjective standards, but by knowing all the twists and turns of things, so that you will not be confused by the outside world.

And most importantly, only the parties have emotional experience of these things, and take corresponding words, deeds and actions. Even if outsiders know this, they may not be able to feel the same.

Behind this series of human weaknesses, we use our own words to avoid the root of the problem, that is, less judgment.

Don't treat yourself as a saint, learn to respect everyone's life, and don't talk too much unless you have to.

If you really need to reconcile yourself, you should try to understand the twists and turns, don't just listen to one side of the story, and don't subjectively summarize the information and conclude the facts because of a few words, so as to avoid artificial stupidity from hurting the parties.