The literal meaning of this proverb is simple. Those who come will not refuse, and those who go will not pursue. Let's look at a Japanese explanation: carve up のところをりたぃをきをきめるぅな.

In modern life, this sentence is often used to discuss the feelings between people. For example, this article "Refusal to Come Here, Pursuit to Go There" is a discussion about how to treat your love.

However, at that time, there was no understanding of grounding gas that "those who came did not refuse, and those who went did not chase".

In the final analysis, the origin of this proverb is Mencius:

Feng Menglong's History of the Eastern Zhou Dynasty also quoted this sentence:

"Offering courses" means offering courses for teaching. ("I teach professors and teach people to be moral") So this sentence itself means that Mencius did not want to keep those who wanted to leave or refuse those who wanted to come when he offered courses. Mencius' teaching philosophy is also true. Most of his conversations with his disciples focused on discussing right and wrong and dealing with facts, and rarely treated his disciples' own conduct alone.

For example, Sun Chou, who has a high sense of existence in Mencius, talks with Mencius mainly about things and the truth of the world. Mencius' remarks are basically objective and independent, such as the famous "those who gain the Tao help more, those who lose the Tao help less", "those who help the elderly, those who raise seedlings" and so on. When discussing with other disciples, it is unlikely to vary from person to person.

Confucius, who is often compared with Mencius, emphasizes that "there is no class in education", which means that people are different and can become talented people (without class) through education (teaching). In other words, don't educate people separately. Anyway, Confucius really likes to teach students in accordance with their aptitude, and The Analects of Confucius is a portrayal of this matter. Confucius often advised him to be careful of his fierce son who loves to wear a long sword. For example, in The Analects of Confucius Advanced, there are:

For a more moderate You Ran, Confucius gave more encouragement:

There is no difference between these two educational methods, and each has its own advantages in different situations. For those who study, it is open to everyone, and at the same time they are not willing to force them. This kind of tolerance is actually the same point between these two educators.

With this mentality, we probably won't shut out the uncertainty of life, and we won't be flushed with people who are drifting away. Teachers treat scholars like this, and we treat friends and lovers like this.

Note: an essay, some ideas in Japanese accumulation.