Introduction: Family education has attracted people's attention since ancient times, but it is only in recent years that it has been studied as a discipline in China. This is the development of the times, the demand for talents and the improvement of the overall quality of the people. This paper discusses the importance of family education with parents, aiming to make families, society and education departments shoulder the task of educating the next generation. Basic methods of family education

1. Behavior training method

Behavior training method is a method of repeated requirements, repeated exercises, repeated inspections and supervision in order to cultivate children's good habits.

(1) Correctly understanding the behavior training method

Parents should have a correct understanding of their children's behavior habits and have correct discrimination and judgment. Usually, parents think that intelligence is an advantage of children's learning. They believe and rely too much on children's intelligence, ignoring the most basic character cultivation and the improvement and strengthening of learning ability, so that with the increase of children's academic content, the disadvantages of children's learning are more and more obvious. Carelessness, for example, actually reflects the following problems in children's study:

1. Inattention: learning attitude is not correct enough, and it is easy to be distracted, distracted and make mistakes again and again.

2. impetuous temperament: often? Being in Cao Cao and being in Han? Thinking about playing while studying, worrying about homework while playing, half-hearted.

3. Poor learning responsibility: No? Do your own thing and take your own responsibility? Consciousness and action, often passive learning, muddling through homework, finishing things, and have the psychology of luck and responsibility extrapolation.

4. Lack of correct methods: homework is not previewed in advance and not tested afterwards. Often perfunctory about the matter.

Of course, in addition to these subjective reasons, there are also some objective reasons for carelessness, such as the child's physical nerve dysplasia and so on. It can be seen that intelligence is not essential for children to continuously achieve good academic performance, but good behavior habits and correct learning methods are the necessary prerequisites. Therefore, parents should first understand the content of behavior habits and clearly know what kind of behavior habits they want to cultivate their children.

(2) Effective methods of behavior training

1. Strengthen self-accomplishment: Parents are most likely to become influential role models in children's minds because of blood relationship and maintenance relationship. Therefore, for the healthy growth of children, parents should behave themselves and be cautious in their daily lives.

2. Correctly guide children: Parents must be patient when training their children's behavior, and at the same time, they should give their children clear operational standards, require concise and accurate guidance, and give necessary demonstrations, so that children can constantly imitate and train and consolidate in their daily lives until they develop good behavior habits.

3. Timely affirmation and reinforcement: Parents should let their children follow the good example behaviors in life and affirm and praise their children's good behaviors in time.

(3) Precautions of behavior training method

1. Match words with deeds: Parents should not engage in flexible system for the cultivation and cultivation of children's good behavior habits, especially in the initial stage, which will lead to ineffectiveness and failure in their education. Therefore, parents should keep in mind the old adage:? Words must be done, and actions must be fruitful? .

2. strict training: parents should emphasize the training of children's good behavior habits? Strict? Two words. The most taboo here is that parents spoil their children and lower their requirements for them.

3. Repeated reinforcement: This is the core of behavior training method. It doesn't take a day or two for children to form a good habit, and it takes parents a long time to grasp and persevere. It doesn't take three days or two to correct a bad habit. Rome was not built in a day.

4. Constant encouragement: Parents should constantly arouse their children's enthusiasm when training them. Because if children are not motivated, it is often easy to produce? Rebellious mood? , there is resistance and resistance, so that the training can not be carried out smoothly and achieve good results. Therefore, parents must pay attention to mobilizing their children's enthusiasm and subjective initiative during training.

second, persuasion education method

persuasion education is the most basic education method commonly used by parents to educate their children. Mainly by putting facts and reasoning, we can explain what it is, why and how to do it, so as to inspire children's consciousness, improve their ideological understanding, cultivate good moral quality and form correct norms.

(1) Characteristics of persuasion education method

1. Emphasize positive education, raise awareness, and explain the truth and convince people with reason when educating.

2. Pay attention to inspire self-consciousness, not only to dredge and guide children, but also to give them the opportunity to fully express their opinions and opinions, so as to speak freely; It is also necessary to help children make a careful analysis of specific problems and guide their understanding in the right direction.

(2) Application skills of persuasion education method

1. Fully understand children: parents should understand their psychological characteristics, and the methods of education should conform to their psychological development level and ability acceptance. Only by grasping the situation, finding out the facts, finding the right problems and teaching students in accordance with their aptitude can we achieve the educational effect.

2. Reasoning should be thorough and facts should be sufficient: parents should seek truth from facts and be targeted. Help children analyze and solve problems in a practical way. Look at the good and hard work of children and give them more opportunities to grow up.

3. Accurately grasp the educational opportunity: Interest is the best educational breakthrough. When children ask their parents some questions with great interest, parents should grasp the essence of their children's questions and carry out effective education.

4. Persuade with patience and speak properly. Parents should be reasonable when educating their children. Parents should put down their airs and communicate with their children in a sincere, equal and democratic manner.

(III) Precautions in Persuasion Education Law

Parents should pay attention to the following points when conducting persuasion education:

1. The attitude should be mild and the atmosphere should be relaxed, instead of always condescending and reprimanding with a straight face.

2. Be targeted, and talk about the cognitive problems that children just need to solve.

3. Be flexible, depending on the children's understanding and acceptance, not mandatory indoctrination, inspiring and guiding children to think for themselves.

4. Be concrete and vivid, talk about profound truth to children, make it as simple as possible, be easy to understand, connect with the reality around children and put more facts.

5. Parents should have correct ideas and opinions, and really make children distinguish right from wrong through persuasion and education.

Third, the actual exercise method

The actual exercise method, also known as the practical exercise method, refers to that parents let their children participate in various practical activities within their power according to their physical and mental development and the needs of society, from which they can receive education and exercise, so as to learn certain skills, increase their practical talents and cultivate good behavior habits and ideological morality.

Labor has many meanings for children's growth:

First, labor exercises children's will and makes them stronger;

Second, labor makes children cherish material possession and happiness of life more;

Third, labor makes children realize the hardship and greatness of their parents and learn to respect their parents and honor their teachers.

Fourth, labor cultivates children's qualities of self-reliance and self-reliance, so that they can successfully become qualified and even outstanding people;

Fifth, labor makes children ashamed of getting something for nothing, and knowing their own work can also bring some happiness to others;

Sixth, labor makes children's hands more flexible, their brains smarter and their knowledge richer.

(1) The method of practical exercise

1. Participate in housework: With the growth of children's age, parents should let their children participate in housework at home and encourage them to learn to do things, such as wrapping jiaozi, mopping the floor, wiping the table, watering flowers and feeding fish.

2. Self-management labor: Parents should let their children learn self-service labor and learn to take care of their own lives, such as dressing themselves, brushing their teeth, making the bed, folding quilts, washing socks, washing dishes, sorting out learning tools and so on. Make children master basic life skills. Teach children? Do your own things, help others, and learn to do what you can't. ?

3. Participate in communication activities: Can parents adopt? Please come in, go out and play together? Ways to let children learn and enhance their awareness and ability to interact with others. Parents should also encourage their children to participate in public welfare work as much as possible, so that children can learn to serve others with their own specialties. Let children experience the joy and happiness that labor brings to life and others.

4. Encourage helping others: Parents should actively encourage their children to help others with their own strengths, so as to enhance their ability, win friendship, enhance their motivation to learn and improve their self-confidence.

5. Give responsibility: Parents consciously teach their children some specific tasks for them to complete and create practical opportunities for them. Young people assign simple tasks, while older people assign complex tasks. For example, go to the store to buy things, borrow things from neighbors, pick up packages from the post office, buy tickets from the train station and so on. When children complete these tasks, they should not only pay labor, but also get in touch with society, so as to get exercise. It is conducive to cultivating children's sense of responsibility, perseverance and willpower.

(2) Precautions for the actual exercise method

1. Safety awareness: Parents should teach their children the common sense of protecting their personal safety, such as fire prevention, electricity prevention, and protection from personal injury.

2. Give priority to practical exercise in daily life: parents should pay attention to exercise their children in daily life and let them learn basic self-care ability. Because children can only have self-esteem and be self-reliant if they take care of themselves.

3. Be willing to let children suffer: when children are young, parents are reluctant to let them suffer a little bit, suffering a little bit, and the skills they should learn are not available, and the abilities they should have are not available. When children grow up and leave their parents to live independently, they will suffer even more.

4. be strict and persistent: putting children in charge of a job at home can help children shape their willpower and perseverance. Parents should be patient and don't rush for success. Cultivating children's habits can't be effective in a short time, especially to get rid of the bad habits that children have formed in this respect. Don't worry, haste makes waste.

5. Believe in children's ability: Many parents often underestimate their children's potential and always think that they are? Still young? No? . Reluctant or unwilling to let children exercise. In fact, children's potential and potential are infinite, and they have independent requirements and self-care wishes at an early age. Therefore, parents should trust their children, guide them according to the situation, create conditions, exercise freely, and let their children make a breakthrough in practice.

6. allow children to make mistakes: in the west, children are considered to be? People who have the right to make mistakes? In the eyes of their parents, children make mistakes mostly because they can't control themselves or do too little and are not skilled. Such as breaking cups and bowls when washing dishes, these are the characteristics of children, not shortcomings, and should not be criticized and punished, and should be guided and helped. We can't ask children to learn very well as soon as they learn, and do very well as soon as they start. Mastering any skills and skills has a process from not attending the meeting to being unfamiliar to being mature.

7. Respect children's labor and practical achievements: parents should take extra care of children's labor and practical achievements, even if they are insignificant, such as displaying children's handmade works and eating jiaozi wrapped by children happily.

8. Pay attention to age characteristics and protect enthusiasm. The actual exercise of children should be done according to their abilities, and the tasks given to children should be difficult and appropriate. We should learn to guide children correctly according to their personality characteristics and adopt methods suitable for their age characteristics, especially young children, and encourage them to practice with interest guidance.

iv. Model Law

Model, also known as demonstration. Setting an example is an image, concrete and vivid educational method to educate and influence children with good thoughts and behaviors of parents and others.

(1) Characteristics of the model demonstration method

1. Easy to be imitated: children imitate and learn from imitation, especially by contacting and observing people and things around them, and then solidify into their own behavior habits.

2. Easily accepted: Children are often surrounded by people who are closest to their children, or family members who are related by blood, friends who are friendly, or nannies who have employment relationships. Therefore, children are very susceptible to infection and easy to follow the school and follow.

3. Easily assimilated: children are highly malleable and imitative, and living role models in life will naturally become the objects that children follow to imitate, and they are very attractive, persuasive and infectious to children.

4. easy to be stereotyped: once a habit is formed, the consistency of many living habits and habits at home makes it easier for children's moral standards and behavior norms to converge, which will naturally be solidified with the growth of children's age.

(II) Methods of Model Law

1. Parents should set an example for their children in person.

2. With the help of revolutionary leaders, hero models, great and outstanding figures in history and positive images in literary and artistic works, the education of children is influenced.

3. Guide children to learn from classmates, teachers, relatives and friends around them and ordinary workers from all walks of life in society.

(III) Precautions for Model Law

1. Pay attention to the directionality and hierarchy of model

As children grow older, their activities become wider and wider, and the complicated life in society and various phenomena will attract them. They often imitate what they see on the spur of the moment. Therefore, parents should be good at guiding. In addition, when choosing role models for children, we should pay attention to hierarchy as far as possible, combine the age characteristics of children, and educate children close to their lives, so that children can understand and imitate easily. For older children, they need to learn high-level philosophical deeds with outlook on life and values.

2. Let children feel the hard work behind the role model aura

Promote and set an example. Don't just let children see the glamour and aura on the role model stage, but also seize the opportunity to let them know more about the stories behind the success of role models. Thereby inspiring children. For example, Edison invented the electric light bulb and failed more than 2 times. John from England? Creasey is the writer with the largest number of books in the world. He wrote 564 books in 4 years, totaling.