1, find some helpers for postpartum mothers, especially mothers who have caesarean section. Be sure to find a helper for yourself or express their needs for help to their families.
And this helper can be parents, friends, partners, girlfriends, nannies, senior maternal and child teachers, baby nurses and so on.
An Shuiru once learned that many fathers take care of their children at night, such as changing diapers and making milk powder.
In fact, in today's era, if there is no other helper, a man as a father really needs to take the initiative to volunteer so that his wife can rest at night.
Because, if the postpartum mother doesn't get enough sleep, it is easy to cause various emotional disorders, metabolic syndrome, memory difficulties, depression and other risks, thus bringing all kinds of unhappiness to the children and families.
Once you get a good rest, postpartum mothers will not only be happier, but also be more comfortable with their children and family.
2. Flexible breastfeeding Although it is the best choice to breast-feed your child personally, in some cases, especially at night, women are not strong enough, and they can also breast-feed their children in other ways to give them a better rest.
For example, we can let our children finish their milk powder at night. The work of making milk powder is handed over to the wet nurse and senior mother-infant teacher you are looking for.
If it really doesn't work, if the child doesn't eat milk powder at all, then we can breast-feed the child with our eyes closed and let our husband watch to prevent ourselves from crushing the child when we doze off.
Of course, if a woman can have a good rest when she is half-lying, she can take the posture of half-lying nursing and let the baby lean against her mother's abdomen to nurse her child.
I remember that when the child was young, Anshui used a half-lying or half-lying feeding posture to feed the child. When the baby drank milk and drank it, he closed his eyes properly.
Only at this time, let other adults watch as much as possible to prevent themselves from falling asleep, but the child will suffocate and choke on milk because of the change of posture.
If there are no other helpers, such as a baby nurse and a senior mother-infant teacher, and the husband is too busy and tired, then he must stay awake in repose to prevent himself from really falling into a deep sleep.
According to An Shuiru's personal experience, at night, we just close our eyes, but our consciousness can always stay awake, so that we can detect that there is something wrong with the child's crying.
When breastfeeding, no matter day or night, the whole person can get some energy supplement when we close our eyes, so that we won't be too tired and uncomfortable.
3, reduce night milk As long as the mother's milk can be given to the child, it is essential for almost all Xiaobaobao who have the ability to independently suck milk.
However, after the full moon, with the increase of children's stomach capacity, mothers can reduce the number and frequency of giving their children night milk through some tips, so that children can have better sleep at night.
First of all, in the evening, especially about an hour before the child goes to bed, breast-feed the child, try not to tease the child, and don't play too much with the child, which will consume the child's energy.
Otherwise, at night, even if we want to lie down and have a good sleep, it is unrealistic. Because an already hungry child will wake up and cry.
Secondly, after recording the amount, frequency and frequency of milk drinking by children at night, try to reduce the number and frequency of milk drinking by children step by step, but it can prolong the time of milk drinking at night.
If we find that four or five-month-old children need to wake up seven or eight times at night, and only drink one mouthful of milk at a time, then we can coax them to drink three mouthfuls of milk after each wake-up.
Finally, if the child is no longer a baby, then the mother can give the child some complementary food during the day, so that the child can not think about waking up frequently to drink milk at night.
For children, especially non-small-month-old babies, they drink milk not only to fill their stomachs and quench their thirst, but also to seek psychological comfort, or just to form the habit of drinking milk at night.
Generally speaking, if the amount of milk a child eats at night is not much different from the amount of milk he drinks during the day or night, then the child will be hungry at night, and the mother needs to continue breastfeeding at night instead of artificially forcing the child to give up breastfeeding.
4. Learn to rest. I remember Lu Xun said when I was a student: "Time is like water in a sponge. As long as you are willing to squeeze, there is always something. " And if the mother can treat rest as Lu Xun treats time, she can also squeeze out a lot of rest time.
First of all, after the child falls asleep, the mother should not rush to do things such as brushing videos, reading novels and cleaning up housework. But they can lie down at once and have a good sleep.
I remember that shortly after the child was born, the child fell asleep, and I was sleepy. An Shuiru would definitely lie next to the child and sleep with the child.
Secondly, put an end to ineffective communication and spend all the time spent on communication on rest and sleep. Although communication can make us happy, for mothers, sleeping is much more important than communication.
In fact, on weekdays, a lot of communication is unnecessary, but over the years, An Shuiru has basically "refused to go" or "the rich don't go" to deal with all kinds of communication.
Finally, save your strength on simple things. Although there are many things in a family, if we know how to observe, we can know something. In fact, there are many things we don't have to do, or we don't have to rush to do.
In other words, many times, we look busy, but in fact, we are all busy. To a certain extent, this makes our spirit in a state of dissipation, leading to fatigue.
It doesn't matter if a woman is busy before giving birth. But after having children, it is not advisable to be busy. Because we women spend a lot of time and energy taking care of children.
In addition, on the premise of ensuring a good sleep, try to learn an appropriate way to rest to help yourself. In this world, there are thousands of people in Qian Qian, and different people are often suitable for different ways of rest. A way of rest, such as mindfulness, will never work for everyone.
According to An Shuiru's personal experience, try and observe yourself in the process of trying. If the rest you are trying can make you feel refreshed, quiet and peaceful, beautiful and clear, then this kind of rest is probably suitable for you and worth continuing.
It is worth mentioning that this kind of rest not only refers to sleeping, but also is a kind of mind rest and decompression skill including mindfulness, meditation, daze, bathing, yoga, reading and massage. Of course, a good sleep is also a simple way to rest.
5. Appropriate exercise I have seen a TED video called "Exercise changes your brain", saying that "after every exercise that makes me sweat, my mood and energy will be greatly improved. ...... Of all the things you can do now, exercise can change your brain the most. " .
When An Shuiru observes himself, she finds that if she doesn't exercise, she will not only be unable to eat, but also feel uncomfortable all over, and even have the impulse to lose her temper. However, after some activities, the whole person will feel relaxed and comfortable after the rain.
Just say, in the choice of sports, please don't blindly follow the trend, and don't follow others' advice, but choose the right way of sports on the basis of knowing yourself.
If your body is small, your speed is not fast enough, your sense of balance is not enough, and you are afraid of falling, then try not to take roller skating as your own exercise, and you can choose jogging, walking, mountain climbing and other ways to exercise.
Secondly, when exercising, please don't compare and compete. This is because everyone's physical condition is different. This determines that there is no need to compete and compete in physical fitness, but to compete.
If you find that you can only run 200 meters slowly like a snail when jogging, don't try to be brave and improve your running speed, ask yourself to run several thousand meters.
Finally, when exercising, please keep observing your body and mind to ensure that your body and mind are in a relatively peaceful and stable state. Whole-hearted exercise can make your body and mind relax better.
To sum up, after having children, even if they insist on breast-feeding, mothers should try to find some helpers, adopt flexible breast-feeding methods to give their children night milk, reduce their energy consumption by learning to rest and exercise properly, and ensure that their children can have a better state to spend the difficult night milk years.