People who say harsh words have kind hearts, while those who are cruel and treacherous have the sweetest mouths; people with kind hearts dare to speak out and accept advice, saying that the other party does not want to listen. words, and those who are full of honey, there is insidiousness and cunning hidden in their bellies. This shows that loyal words are offensive and slanderous words are pleasing to the ear.
In real life, as long as we carefully observe the people and things around us, it is not difficult to find that many people, especially bosses who hold certain positions, also find it difficult to listen to "offensive" criticism. and loyal words, but it is easy to listen to flattery and greedy words.
To be fair, it would be unfair to say that these bosses have a soft spot for sycophantic words. As the saying goes, "Those who are involved are confused, but those who watch are clear." If they know that what others are saying in their ears is greedy and sycophantic, they will certainly reject it. Unfortunately, once some people become "bosses", their ears will soften consciously or unconsciously and become soft-spoken (nice words). Yan Yanyan) will not listen to hard words (criticisms and loyal advice).
Over time, the unit or department led by a certain boss will definitely be a place where gentlemen are criticized and villains get their way, and the work situation becomes difficult to open up. In the end (the boss) himself becomes a loner. Extended information
1. Historical stories of loyal words that are offensive to the ears:
In 207 BC, after Liu Bang led his army to Xianyang, he entered the Qin Palace to visit. But he saw that the palace was gorgeous and there were countless things in every room, which he had never seen before. Everywhere he went, many beautiful palace ladies knelt down and worshiped him. The more he looked at it, the more novel it became, and his interest became stronger and stronger. So, I planned to live in the palace and enjoy it.
Liu Bang's general Fan Kuai found out that Liu Bang wanted to live in the palace and asked him: "Does Duke Pei (referring to Liu Bang) want to rule the world, or does he just want to be a rich man?" Liu Bang replied: "Of course I want to have the world." Fan Kuai said sincerely: "When I entered the Qin Palace, I saw countless rare treasures and thousands of beauties in the harem. These are the things that led to the demise of the Qin Dynasty. < /p>
I hope Pei Gong will return to Bashang quickly and never stay in the palace." Liu Bang did not take Fan Kuai's advice seriously and still planned to live in the palace. When the counselor Zhang Liang learned about this, he said to Liu Bang: "The King of Qin was unethical and the people rebelled. After defeating the Qin army, Duke Pei came here. You should be diligent and frugal in order to get rid of the tyrants who harm the people. Now that you have just entered Qin, Just want to have fun.
As the saying goes: "Loyal and honest advice is often unpleasant to the ears, but it is good for behavior; poisonous medicine is bitter when taken, but it is good for diseases." I hope Pei Gong will listen to Fan Kuai's advice. "After hearing this, Liu Bang finally came to his senses and immediately ordered the treasury to be sealed, the palace gate closed, and then led his army back to Bashang.
2. Slanderous historical stories:
At the end of the Qin Dynasty, Zhao Gao tried to seek power and usurp the throne. In order to test which ministers in the court would obey his wishes, he specially presented a He gave Qin II a deer and said it was a horse. Qin II didn't believe it, so Zhao Gao asked the ministers for excuses. The ministers who did not dare to oppose Zhao Gao said it was a horse, while those who dared to oppose Zhao Gao said it was a deer. Later, all the ministers who said it was a deer were killed by Zhao Gao in various ways.