Many parents who are rubbish tend to take care of themselves. They regard their children as outsiders without any parents, as if they were born slaves.
For this kind of parents, my idea is to make myself independent and self-reliant as soon as possible. After I can support myself, I will try to stay away from them and not participate in some of their things.
Although your own parents may be excellent, you should try not to be influenced by them, be a person with correct values, be kind to your children, and don't let your next generation be treated like this.
In fact, the most terrible thing is not disgusting parents, but when you say that your parents' behavior has an impact on your future life, a group of irrelevant people are saying that you don't understand your parents.
It seems that no matter what unfair treatment you encounter, they can simply say, "What parents don't love their children?" "Parents just have a bad temper." "She is your mother, and she can do whatever she wants with you."
In their narrow cognitive environment, this seems to be an absolutely correct wisdom, and then stand on the moral high ground and blame others. But I don't know that it is this sentence that makes many people fall into repeated self-doubt and even blame themselves.
But this is probably not a person's pain, but the sorrow caused by this era. Most of our parents have experienced the primary stage of social development in China. They have no normal growth environment, most of them have no formal education, and most of their marriages have no real emotional cooperation. They are the first generation of people with personality defects. It is in this impetuous era that we met such parents.
I want to say that we can not forgive our parents, but we must make peace with ourselves and try to be good parents.