China is a country with a long history and culture. Thousands of years of civilization have bred generations of people and created infinite wisdom. When it comes to the ancients, it is generally thought that they are too pedantic and too feudal and ignorant. In fact, we are just confused by some appearances, and the great wisdom of the ancients is reflected in all aspects. How many wise sayings have been learned by the ancients long ago, but we are still deeply immersed in them and stubborn. Confucius' way and Sun Tzu's art of war are the concentrated expression of the wisdom of the ancients. Even what the people say has become the true meaning of life, and these proverbs full of life experience remind people from generation to generation. The ancients once said: It is better to marry a widow than to have a wife. What exactly does this mean? What is a "wife"? What is particular about it?

Common sayings are not empty talk, but the ancestors' life experiences have gone through thousands of years of wind and frost practice. It seems plain and even general, but it is full of great wisdom, but it makes sense to carefully taste it. In ancient times, talking about marriage was the most important thing for a family. The ancients attached great importance to important events in life, after all, it was related to a lifetime. In ancient times, when people were very particular about it, why did such a statement spread among the people?

first of all, we should understand the meaning of "having a wife". "Born wife" in ancient times refers to a young wife. However, we will wonder why ancient people would rather marry a widow than a "wife". In fact, "having a wife" has another meaning, that is, a woman divorced by her husband. Under the ancient feudal system, women's status was very low, and there were many regulations that bound and regulated their wives. The homonym of "wife" was "seven", and there were seven situations in which women could not be qualified wives. They were "disobedient to their parents, childless, lewd, jealous, ill, talkative and stolen." As long as the wife fails to comply with one of them, she will face the situation of being divorced and drive her away.

Once an ancient woman was labeled as immoral, it would be difficult to find someone who would marry her. It must be said that ancient people were always awake and saw life clearly. In their eyes, life is for living, not for watching, and marriage is the same. After marriage, you have to live in real life. Only by knowing how to live can you make a family feel at ease. If your conduct is not good, then the whole family will have many troubles. Compared with "having a wife", widows may be more suitable as wives in the eyes of the ancients.

First of all, widows are more experienced in managing their families diligently. Because everything needs to be carefully calculated, life will be easy. In ancient times, only women who could live would win the love of their in-laws. It's not a rich and expensive family, so people marry in order to find a good wife and mother to help keep the house. They should know how to teach each other, know how to be sensible, and be considerate of their families, so widows are also a good choice. Secondly, widows are usually wives for several years. After several years of tempering, they have mastered the method of living in their in-laws, so they are very capable and skilled. Moreover, the widow's widowhood behavior was also regarded by the ancients as a single-minded performance, which may be a more suitable choice than those who had misbehaved "wives".

Conclusion

With the change of the times, people's views on marriage and love are constantly changing. Nowadays, everyone is equal and free to fall in love, and marriage is no longer subject to the orders of parents and the words of matchmakers as in ancient times. After the two sides form a family, they are more likely to seek the most comfortable family atmosphere in the process of running-in, and to understand each other, respect each other and maintain a loyal and trusting marriage relationship.