Reprinted How to Educate Your Children

How to Educate Your Children (1)

Whether you are a parent now or not, you will definitely be in this life As a father and a mother, here are the rules for how to educate your children well. Educating children is an art. If you don’t understand education at all, or educate your children in a rigid way, then you must not be able to educate your children well. If you If you think that educating children is done in school or taught by teachers, you are wrong. You will understand after taking a look at the following rules. I hope it will be helpful to you! Thanks!

1. If you want your children to grow faster and better, you must give them freedom of movement instead of letting them stick to a small "fish tank" 2. If you don't want your children to have Unfortunately, just give your children the right to choose freely. You can do many things on his behalf, but you cannot live for your children and let them freely choose how to deal with various situations they encounter in their lives. What we have to do is, Let's give him some advice based on our experience.

3. Only by giving children space to think independently can it be possible to cultivate children's creative thinking. 4. Whether it is things or life, let the child try it on his own. This will be more shocking to him than his parents’ experience and education, and it will be easier for him to remember. The taste of life should be experienced by the child himself. .

5. Giving children freedom does not mean that parents let go and lend a helping hand at critical moments, provide children with principles and ideas for solving problems, and at the same time leave the final decision-making power to children. Let the children bear the consequences themselves.

6. Whether a child can become a genius depends on whether parents and teachers can love him, look forward to him, and educate him like a genius. 7. People’s expectations will have a huge impact on children’s growth. If parents or teachers expect children with a positive attitude, children may improve in a positive direction. On the contrary, if there is prejudice against children, children will lack self-awareness and The ability to control yourself.

8. In this world, all successful people initially started with a small belief, and belief is the germination point of all miracles. 9. A child's opinion of himself depends entirely on the evaluation of the people around him, especially the comments of parents, relatives and friends. Even a word or a look will have a lifelong impact on the child.

10. The deepest desire of human nature is to be appreciated by others. This is what distinguishes humans from other animals. Praise is to give children positive expectations. Appreciation leads to success, while complaints lead to failure

1. No matter what you do, praise must be sincere. If the child feels that the praise is hypocritical, it will easily cause psychological harm to the child. Only by conducting extremely detailed and thoughtful Evaluation can increase children's trust in their parents and increase the effectiveness of evaluation. 12. The key to mastering the law of disappearance of reinforcement is to make rewards and punishments clear. When rewarding, we must seize the opportunity, grasp the sense of proportion, and continue to educate; when punishing, the words must be appropriate, moderate, and matter-of-fact, so that the children understand why they are punished and how to change.

13. No matter how much effort a child has put in or how much progress he or she has made, parents must affirm it in a timely manner so that the child can feel the appreciation from their parents.

14. "There is no education without punishment." Necessary punishment is an effective signal to control children's behavior. Bad habits need to be eliminated through punishment.

15. The most effective way to let children live a peaceful life and get rid of moody and bad emotions is to ignore them and perform "cold treatment" to let them disappear automatically. 16. Don’t use money to praise your children

17. If you want your child to be a bright star in the future stage of life, take the first step to help your child become a talent from now on—— Remember the "Law of Wolf Nature" and strengthen their curiosity! 18.Interest is the best mentor. 19. Geniuses come from playing.

20. The most popular education among students should be education in games.

21. Curiosity does not arise out of thin air, it can be cultivated. If the content of learning is like a pot of boiled water, without any suspense, no one will be interested in it. Real interesting learning lies in making Suspense, from shallow to deep. 22. You can stimulate children’s curiosity by playing lottery games.

23. The "South Wind Effect" enlightens us that tolerance is more effective than punishment when dealing with relationships between people. When dealing with the relationship with children, blindly asking or ordering children sometimes does not work well; if parents consider the problem from the child's perspective and are considerate of the child, they can easily achieve good educational results. .

24. Psychologists said: "When a mistake has been made and it is difficult to recover, no matter how angry you are, it will not help."

25. Tolerance is An education method that is more powerful than punishment. Tolerance to people is a virtue, and tolerance to children is not only a virtue, but also an educational art.

26. In this world, there is no wrong path that cannot be turned back, and no mistake that cannot be corrected. A sincere thought of kindness is the rarest miracle, just like the flowers blooming on the table. What destroys the miracle is not a mistake, but a cold heart that refuses to forgive or believe.

27. There is a famous saying in management psychology: "If you want people to believe that you are right and act according to your opinions, you must first like you. Otherwise, your attempts will be useless." It will fail." That is to say, if you want the other party to accept your point of view and attitude, you must regard the other party as one with yourself.

28. The meaning of the law of natural punishment: When a child makes a mistake in behavior, parents should not blame the child too much, but should let the child bear the direct consequences of the mistake and give the child a Psychological punishment allows children to feel the unpleasantness or even pain while bearing the consequences, allowing them to self-reflect, consciously make up for their mistakes, and correct their mistakes.

29. Forcing children to do things will lead them to use other methods to fight. In an environment full of power struggles, it is difficult to imagine a good educational effect. When your children don't listen to you, they are not challenging your power and status; they just want more autonomy. 30. A person’s spiritual world must be supported by self-esteem. Dignity can bring people confidence and can also change a person's destiny. This is the "Law of Respect"

1. When you see your child holding a glass of water, you will be afraid that the child will take it away. Breaking the water glass is actually a sign of contempt for the child. Is a cup of greater value than a son's attempts and explorations? Are you giving your children opportunities to explore? Or do you only feel sorry for your cup?

2. If you want your child to be smart, then spend more time talking to your child! 3. Respecting your child includes respecting your child’s privacy, respecting your child’s thoughts, and respecting your child’s friends.

4. In the face of temptation, the choice a child makes not only reflects his character traits, but also foreshadows his future life path to a certain extent.

5. Impulse control and delaying gratification are important factors for a person's success. It is more predictive than IQ and can be practiced the day after tomorrow. 6. Parents should let their children learn to "wait" and delay gratification of their children's needs for daily play and enjoyment. It is best to let the child make moderate efforts before satisfying his desires. A points system can also be used. 7. We should let our children understand that the world is not centered around them, so they must learn to wait and learn to control their emotions and behaviors. You can use the "wait a minute" method to consciously train your children's self-control ability.

8. If you are controlled by your bad temper and are always troubled by it, you will definitely not be popular with others.

9. If a person wants to live his life gloriously and peacefully, it is absolutely necessary for him to learn to exercise self-restraint in both big and small matters. 10. The first step to stimulate the psychological potential of extensive connections.

11. We should let children actively experience the colorful external environment, let them try to do everything, and obtain more knowledge and information from the environment. In this way, their hands-on ability will be enhanced. , your horizons will be broadened and your mind will be broader. 12. Once a child is given a relaxed environment, every child can gain experience from life.

13. Japanese educator Professor Suzuki once said that as long as you work hard, it is not difficult at all to raise a child with an IQ of 150. 14. There should be no restrictions on early childhood education, no matter what, in other words, let them actually see and listen. 15. A good education must regard making mistakes as a good opportunity for education, so that children can grow up through making mistakes.