If you are not beautiful at the age of 17, you can blame your mother for not inheriting good looks; but if you are still not beautiful at the age of 30, you can only blame yourself, because in such a long time, you have not gone to life. Inject new things into it. ——Marie Curie

Appearance is innate, and beauty is a kind of experience and precipitation of time. Kind and peaceful people filter out all the dust, leaving only a cup of tea. Heart.

Why does Li Changyu’s eyes reveal the fierceness of a detective? Why does Liu Rene’s face always look calm and calm in milk tea? Why does Maggie Cheung grow more and more delicious from the baby fat? These are all the years The answers given to them, their "beauty" are expressions created by their various valuable qualities.

There are three Korean students in my class. They are all housewives, none of them are employed, and they all have a son and a daughter. A nearly sixty-year-old aunt named Park has an unattractive appearance. She is an aunt who can be seen everywhere on the streets in Korea. Her appearance will be forgotten in the blink of an eye. Two people in their forties, one surnamed Hong and the other surnamed Lin. Although Ms. Lin is in her forties, she has taken good care of herself and time has not left any trace on her face. She wears glasses, but a sharp beauty can still radiate through the lenses and capture us. Ms. Hong often wears light makeup and smiles. She is the kind of virtuous wife and loving mother that is common in Korean marriages. Several of our teachers ranked the beauty of these three students. Miss Lin ranked first, with stunning beauty. Miss Hong is second, as tender as water. Aunt Park, she should not have been on the list, because the ranking usually lists the top three, so Aunt Park was lucky to be shortlisted.

But after getting along with each other, the ordinary Aunt Park is like a bottle of red wine, which gets better and better as she tastes it. Miss Hong is like a cup of afternoon tea, always so leisurely and unhurried, while the gorgeous Miss Lin is like a stormy sea. , surging and rushing.

Aunt Park used to be a nurse and is now retired. She has a friendly smile. She always comes early. When she arrives early, I give her water to entertain her. She always says no, no, no, saying that using paper cups damages the environment. After a few times, she brought her own cup, but in fact she didn't drink water, she was just worried that we would bring paper cups again. Every time I see her, she always smiles and asks how are you doing and how is your family? Are you tired from work? Every once in a while, Aunt Park would bring some Korean kimchi or rice cakes she made to school. During the break, she would invite everyone to come over and eat. Although she was not fluent in Chinese yet, she would enthusiastically ask everyone not to eat if she knew them. Be polite and finish the food as the greatest respect to the host.

Miss Lin is the opposite. When she sees the food brought by other students on the lounge table, she always goes up to it and asks curiously: "What is this?" Then she takes the initiative to pick it up without asking for the owner's opinion, and does not eat it directly. , but she checked it like a bomb for a long time and commented that the packaging was not exquisite enough and the portion was not enough. When she ate it, she did not thank or praise it. She could find faults with even the perfect food.

Ms. Lin is very smart. When paying tuition, she often talks about money. Sometimes she says that her husband’s salary is not high, and sometimes she thinks our tuition is too expensive. It is common to delay it for a few days. Sometimes she would suddenly get inspired and want to go down to a lower level to review. Because we have free trial classes, Ms. Lin would take a trial class, but then she was told that she was not suitable and returned to our class. Aunt Park pays her tuition on time every time because her husband's company reimburses her tuition, so we need to issue a formal invoice. Sometimes it would be two or three days late, and Aunt Park would always take the initiative to tell us not to worry, it's not an important thing for me, you should take care of the important things first.

Aunt Park is older and is a slower learner. Miss Lin dislikes that Aunt Park is a slow learner and will hold her back. Therefore, every time a new student comes, Ms. Lin always pounces on him like a hungry tiger and exchanges professional theoretical knowledge with him. If his level is lower than hers, she quickly withdraws without saying anything. If he was on par with her, she would always want him to be in the same class as her.

Aunt Park always asks curiously, where are you from, what kind of work do you do, do you have any brothers or sisters at home, do you like it here, are you used to living here? Just like the destined person you meet in the park, they talk in a normal way.

While all this was happening, Miss Hong was quietly watching and listening, wearing her white skirt or cotton and linen clothes, looking unconcerned with the world.

Because they are all housewives, these three students have strict requirements on hygiene. They clean the room three times a week and spend an entire afternoon each time. The toilet needs to be cleaned, the wash basin needs to be scrubbed, the table needs to be wiped, and the air conditioner needs to be cleaned. Our school is full of young female teachers in their twenties, and they don’t clean as diligently as they do. One day during a break between classes, we were chatting by chance. Three students asked how long it had been since the air conditioner had been cleaned. The boss is so embarrassed that he hasn't washed it for more than half a year. Miss Lin's voice immediately became shrill, accusing every corner of the school, which made us teachers feel ashamed, as if we were in a garbage dump. Aunt Park recommended a suitable housekeeping company and demonstrated the correct method. During the cleaning step of the air conditioner, Ms. Hong still sat on the sofa with a smile and said softly: "That's it, that's okay, you don't live here."

A few months later, our hearts The leaderboard has changed. Aunt Park won the first prize in one fell swoop, Miss Hong still looked at the spring breeze with a smile, and Miss Lin was at the bottom. We deeply realized that the beauty of a woman is not in her facial features but in the true beauty reflected in her heart.

Being with a beautiful person is refreshing and relaxing. The beauty I speak of is the beauty of the soul. One of my best friends has been feeling depressed recently and asked why. It turned out that she suffered from a phobia. What phobia? Mother-in-law face phobia. It turned out that her mother-in-law was in poor health. When she was in poor health, she started to complain, lose her temper, and look gloomy all day long. Her best friend asked her to eat, but she got angry and said, "Why are you so anxious?" Her best friend asked her what was wrong with her, and her mother-in-law was impatient: "You ask her every day, don't you know that my whole body is sore?" Her best friend stopped asking and asked her mother-in-law to be quiet. After staying for two hours, my mother-in-law rushed out of the door: "Is there no hot water? Do you know that I am going to die of thirst?" My best friend said depressedly: "What wakes me up every day is not dreams or children, but a kind of fear. The thought of facing my mother-in-law’s face gives me a splitting headache.” When I visited my best friend's house before, I met her mother-in-law. She was a simple-looking old man, but through my best friend's description, I seemed to see a face that was twisted and hideous due to bad emotions. Many women enter menopause. It is not the years that drive our faces into that deep prison, but our pessimism that robs us of our beauty.

Although another friend’s mother-in-law is 75 years old, looking at the photo, she looks more than ten years younger than the first 65-year-old mother-in-law. After another friend gave birth to a child, she was very worried when she thought about her mother-in-law coming to live with her. But the scene of her mother-in-law entering the city that day overturned her imagination. When her mother-in-law, who was wearing a floral skirt, lipstick, and eyebrows, knocked on the door gently and then walked into the house, her hanging heart was relieved. My mother-in-law has a heart that cherishes herself and respects others. With her mother-in-law, my friend feels that she is becoming more and more beautiful.

See, beauty is contagious too.

We can often tell the type of story a person has by looking at her face. Our faces are filled with our past experiences and reveal your life accomplishments. So how should a person cultivate himself so that he can have a prosperous and beautiful appearance?

1. There is love in the heart

"Those who have deep love must have harmony, those who have kindness must have joy, and those who have joy must have grace"

Why is Audrey Hepburn so beautiful, and why is Princess Diana so beautiful? That's because they have love for all living beings in their hearts. In high school, our Chinese teacher captured the whole class the first time we met. Strictly speaking, she is not beautiful, her face is covered with freckles, her teeth are uneven, she is too thin and not plump, but when she smiles and opens her mouth, her kind face shines with kindness and concern. Later interactions proved that our judgment was correct. When students have difficulties, she is always there as soon as possible. When students are lazy, she teaches them in a persuasive way. When students have doubts, she uses her spare time to answer them.

Later I heard that her husband came to pick her up from get off work every night, and her daughter was ten years old and was learning drums. When I called her home, it was her mother-in-law who answered the phone. Her mother-in-law said: "You are looking for our Yanzi, please wait a moment."

People are not cute because of their beauty, but beautiful because of their cuteness. . When a person has love in his heart, his appearance is naturally beautiful. If you have a beautiful face, you will naturally be loved by many people. A lot of people will love you.

Those who love others will also love them.

A person without love in his heart is like a tree without water, losing its vitality.

I think this is not just for women, but for everyone.

2. Don’t complain or blame others

We always blame others for the bad things we encounter.

We blame our failure to go to a good college on poor teachers.

We blame our failure to find a good job on our parents’ lack of strong connections.

Women blame their early-morning lifestyle on marrying a mediocre husband.

Men blame busy mothers for naughty children.

A department manager blamed his failure to be promoted on subordinates whose performance was not up to standard.

In fact, blaming others is just making excuses for your own incompetence. Blaming others will only make you look hateful. You are the director of this drama of life, you screwed up the box office yourself, and you blame the audience who came to watch. This way of life is not beautiful at all.

There is a very popular Australian couple recently. My wife was unfortunately burned by fire while participating in a marathon before her marriage, and her body was injured to 65% of her body. She originally wanted to give up on herself, but her boyfriend never left her. In the past four years, he had not missed any of the more than 200 surgeries. They finally got married. The wife was wearing a wedding dress, her face was covered with criss-crossing scars, and her hands were also scarred. However, the wife still wore elegant makeup and the corners of her mouth were still raised. Who said that beauty is given by God? Beauty I fought for it myself. Accept the flaws of life, be less impetuous, and be more calm, and you will find that your appearance in the mirror seems to be on the rise.

3. Arm yourself with books and travel

People who think have a deeper and wiser face than those who don’t think. This is the foundation that is least likely to cause stains. . Marie Curie has a famous saying: "If you are not beautiful at the age of 17, you can blame your mother for not inheriting good looks; but if you are still not beautiful at the age of 30, you can only blame yourself, because in such a long time, you have not changed. Inject something new into life. “What is something new? The wise thoughts flashing in the books and what you see and hear during your travels are the fresh blood that will fill your life.

Why do the beauties during the Republic of China have an indescribable beauty when photographed? Because they are all immersed in books, they can have a thousand words when they write, and they can form chapters when they speak. Why is Xu Jing, who divorced Chen He, living a more inhumane life than before? In addition to not complaining or blaming, she is also swimming freely in the vast world. She is not Chen He's ex-wife Xu Jing, she is herself.

In a woman’s life, in addition to bags, she should also have a schoolbag.

In a man's life, in addition to a watch, he should also have a stopwatch, a stopwatch for running hard on the road of the world.

Beauty is an expression, not a kind of Photoshop or makeup. Audrey Hepburn’s famous saying perfectly explains the connotation of beauty -

"To be beautiful If you want lovely lips, speak kind words;

If you want lovely eyes, see the good in others;

If you want a slim figure, give your food to the hungry ;

If you want beautiful hair, let a child stroke your hair once a day;

If you want elegant posture, remember that you are not the only pedestrian when walking.

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Please always remember that beauty is not just a face, beauty is an expression. Please put a smile, understanding, respect, and patience on your face. Expression, kind expression, time will be kind to your face, and your life.