Being a man requires scheming, and doing things with skill
Being a man is scheming
To govern a country, you must have a strategy, to fight a war, to have a plan, and to play chess, you must have a scheming mind. To be a human being, one must have "scheming".
"Scheming" is not completely the same as "scheming". "Scheming" is a kind of wisdom and a strategy, while "scheming" is a kind of calculation and a kind of mind. Being "scheming" means that in the process of dealing with others, you should pay attention to methods, strategies, and flexibility, so as to establish good interpersonal relationships, respond flexibly and tactfully to the world, and reach the other side of success with ease.
One of the schemings: be willing to forget about worries, eat well, and think openly
In life, distress and pain are inevitable. Life is short. If you continue to If you are always worried about unhappiness, your life will be gloomy and happiness will be rare. Since distress is unavoidable, why not look at it a little bit, be content with what you have, be grateful, be able to afford it and let it go, be more enthusiastic and less indifferent, bravely pursue the life you want, and live happily in the present.
The second scheming: be kind to others, don’t use tricks, be open-minded.
To be kind to others is to be kind to yourself, and to save face for others is to save face for yourself. As a person, you must have a sincere heart, be beautiful as an adult without taking advantage of others' dangers, treat others with integrity, live with integrity, be more considerate of others, don't always be jealous, and don't always look at people through colored glasses, and be tolerant. Treat others and you will reap the same rewards.
The third scheming factor: having a sharp eye, knowing people’s hearts, and being considerate of the wise.
In life, it is inevitable to deal with all kinds of people, good people, bad people, enemies, Friends...all kinds of friends, countless. However, to identify who are real friends and who are truly worthy of association, we need to practice Sun Wukong’s piercing eyes, make friends with gentlemen and stay away from villains; make friends with wise men and stay away from fools, choose the good ones and follow them, and learn to discern with a wise eye. people.
The fourth scheming: advance and retreat freely, bend and stretch to develop strategies, and be a person with spiritual energy
Life is a war. On the battlefield, you cannot just advance and not retreat. Therefore, life should also advance and retreat. Retreating is not admitting defeat or cowardice. Retreating at the right time is for better progress. Small intolerance will mess up big plans. Only by being patient with small things can you achieve big things. Be able to bend and stretch, have a certain degree of flexibility, be flexible and flexible, and be flexible and flexible.
The fifth scheming: Reciprocity, communication, mutual benefit
China has always regarded itself as a helper of etiquette, giving a peach, repaying a plum, reciprocity, this is what thousands of Chinese Years of tradition. "Etiquette" travels all over the world, but without "property" it is difficult to move forward. Etiquette is the stepping stone to open up interpersonal communication; sending goose feathers from a thousand miles, etiquette is light but affectionate. Etiquette is the lubricant that brings interpersonal relationships closer. Burn more incense when you are free, and have someone to help you when you are in a hurry. Give others roses, and the fragrance will linger in your hands. Help others at critical moments. In fact, you will leave room for yourself to retreat
Scheming No. 6: Wise Words Words are like spring breeze, smiling proudly in the world
As the saying goes: "Wise words make flowers", "A good word warms people for three winters, but bad words hurt people for six months", "One tongue can speak louder than a million teachers", it can be seen that language of great charm. In history, the Empress Dowager Zhao and Zhuge Liang were talking about the dragon, and they were fighting with the Confucian scholars, all based on verbal arguments. However, there are also people in history who have caused trouble by speaking out, such as Yang Xiu. Therefore, speaking should be appropriate and tactful, depending on the occasion, and should vary from person to person and from situation to situation. Only in this way can we be calm and calm while talking and laughing, and be proud of the world.
The seventh idea: be brave in innovation, cultivate determination, and everything depends on human efforts
The times are developing, society is progressing, the wheel of history is making great strides forward in a vigorous way, and the big waves wash away the sand, and it is the weak who are taken away. In the arena of life, only by being ambitious, forging ahead, surpassing oneself, and constantly innovating can we continue to make progress and succeed. If a person has no ambition, he will have hope. If he has ambition, he will have motivation. People can make things happen, and God can make things happen. If you put your ideals into action, you will be successful in life.
The eighth scheming: be patient in dealing with the world, be able to handle life with ease, and live a life of wealth and wisdom
Things in the world are ever-changing, life is like a drama, and people’s hearts are unpredictable. As a person, you must learn to hide your secrets and learn the philosophy of confusion. Be more defensive and have more ways to deal with them. (Being a man in the world sun) When the water is clear, there will be no fish, and when the people are careful, there will be no disciples. Keep a proper distance from others, don’t care about everything, endure it when you need to, and bow your head when you need to, behave with wisdom, and achieve the glory of life.
Use stones from other mountains to attack jade, and learn from other people’s experiences to achieve your own success.
Be smart in doing things
Small things can lead to big things, and "good skills" can make you perfect. Society is an invisible web. Everyone is a small node in the network. Looking at this "net" in general, those who achieve great things all have one common characteristic. That is the meticulousness of "hands". Depending on how much courage you have, how reluctant you are to work hard, and how strong your enterprising spirit is. Without the cooperation of "wrists", it is difficult for you to achieve great things.
A good attitude is the foundation for success. Throughout our lives, we have to do things, survive in doing things, experience life in doing things, and realize our own value in doing things.
There are so many unexpected and annoying things in life. All kinds of things, including big things, small things, good things, and annoying things, all accompany us. As long as we choose to live, we need to face these complex interpersonal relationships and complicated trivial matters. . This can leave you overwhelmed and out of breath.
Faced with these troubles, some people can talk and laugh freely and do things beautifully with ease; while some people are like headless flies, at a loss as to what to do.
So, why does this happen? Is it the difference in personality, knowledge, family background, or opportunities? It may be related to all of these, but the main reason is that what can determine your future and destiny is ultimately your "skill" in doing things.
Whether one's "skill" is good or not is related to a person's ability to do things, and even related to the success or failure of a person's career. If a person can manage the situation of life well in a complicated environment, so that he can turn bad luck into good luck at work, turn disaster into good fortune, turn the impossible into possible, and finally achieve success, then He must be a man who knows how to do things.
Looking at ancient and modern times, and traveling at home and abroad, it is not difficult to find that whether they are political elites or business giants; whether they are high-ranking officials or ordinary people, those who can achieve something in their careers will A person who does things is also a successful person. Investigating the reason, they just have "skills" in doing things.
Being "tactful" in doing things is not a "black trick" adopted by any means to achieve a certain goal, nor is it a "hidden weapon" used behind the scenes to achieve success or fame. What we call "tact" It is a strategy, a technique, and a method for doing things; the so-called "tact" is the courage to strike first when doing things, the vision to seize opportunities, the means for you to be more intimate with "human feelings", and the ability to see The "packaging" that makes people love you is the "tongue" that easily pushes you to success
In today's extremely competitive society, if you want to survive and develop better, you must You must learn how to do things. The chances of success are equal. As long as you find the way to do things and master the "skills" of doing things, you will do things easily and have a successful career.
The starting point of success in doing things is your positive attitude. The beginning of success in doing things is to understand your attitude.
Who among all living beings in the world doesn’t want to realize their own value? Who doesn’t want to have endless wealth? Especially ambitious people are more eager for a vigorous and glorious life. However, where is the starting point for success in life? What exactly is the beginning of success?
Countless successful examples tell us that the starting point of success in doing things is your mentality, and the beginning of success in doing things is understanding your mentality.
"Patience" is also a kind of endurance and a strategy. People who are "tactful" in doing things have high "patience" skills, so they are often winners.
As the saying goes: "When two strong men meet, the brave will win." This is a wise saying that has been tested for a long time. No successful person wins easily. Use some "tricks" to face everything with courage, and you will have nothing to fear. As the saying goes, if you persist for a few years, there will be benefits. As long as a person is willing to spend time, even a person with average intelligence can be proficient in a subject; an illiterate person with no knowledge can also become a polite and educated person. Only those who can control themselves can control others. People who cannot manage their emotions often hurt themselves and offend others.
Things are not always smooth sailing, so when facing unexpected situations, we should use our "tact". The first thing is don't panic, be calm and then solve it.
Happiness is always the sunshine and rain in our lives. To be happy, you must develop the habit of being happy. Being happy is not only for others, but also for yourself.
It is inevitable to fall down in the face of difficulties. The most important thing is whether you can stand up again and persevere when you fall again and again to win.
A person's life cannot be smooth sailing. There will always be times when you stumble and fall. If you are a "smart" person, you should remember: no matter what form of "fall" you have, no matter how you fall, you must get up quickly.
For people in adversity, as long as there is a spiritual presence or a spiritual sustenance, there will be infinite power to help you overcome difficulties. Many times, we lack that little bit of spiritual motivation. For people in adversity, as long as there is hope, there will be a spiritual sustenance and infinite power to help you overcome difficulties. People with "tact" will always find hope for themselves in adversity to help them get out of trouble.
When we are in trouble, the best "tactic" is not to complain and curse blindly, because it will only make us more depressed and feel more hopeless, but to use the only things we have in our hands. With some "fire" and hope, we can overcome darkness, get rid of difficulties, and create a bright future.
If you don’t make a move, no matter what I do, there is a matter of time. If I take the initiative, everything will be fine; if I make a careless move, everything will be lost. People with "smart" skills will take the initiative to attack when the opportunity comes, without hesitation, and they will cut off when it is necessary, and they will never be polite.
People with dead brains believe in fate, while people with lively brains believe in opportunities. People who believe in fate go with the flow and eventually fail, while people who believe in opportunity can take the initiative, act quickly, and ultimately realize their dreams. Risk-taking is the secret of an operator. If you use it properly, you will benefit a lot. If you use it improperly or you dare not use it, it will only make you stagnant, have no development, or even be annexed by others. Is taking risks good or bad? There are two answers: No risk, no success.
Risk takers will find great opportunities. Therefore, people with "skill" often dare to take risks.
To be a person with "scheming" means that in the process of dealing with others, you should pay attention to methods, strategies, and flexibility, so as to establish good interpersonal relationships, respond flexibly and tactfully to the world, and have room for maneuver. Reach the other side of success. To be "tactful" in doing things means that in the process of accomplishing great things, you need to learn the way to master all directions and make full use of the methods and techniques to achieve excellence.