Sympathizing with yourself is a despicable coward’s job

I still remember the famous saying in “Norwegian Wood”, “Don’t pity yourself, sympathizing with yourself is a despicable coward’s job.”

The biggest feeling when I saw this sentence before was that when you are down, you should not sympathize with yourself, but encourage yourself to be strong. To get out of trouble. If you pity yourself, you will always be stuck in it and unable to get out. In fact, whether you live positively or negatively in life, your life is the same. When you are depressed, if you treat it negatively, you will always be buried deep in it. It is not easy to get up, but if you respond positively and encourage yourself, you will be able to cheer up quickly and get out of it in a short time. Dilemma.

However, with the growth of life experience, I slowly discovered that this sentence has a deeper meaning. If encouraging yourself is a superficial thing, then there is something deeper, that is, people cannot be too good to themselves.

Why is it said that people cannot be too kind to themselves? Because if people are always kind to themselves, then people will easily be happy. People who live in comfort for a long time are easily satisfied and lose their fighting spirit. A person who loses his fighting spirit can easily lose himself and stagnate.

I remember Mayday’s Ashin said in an interview, “People should make things a little harder for themselves.” Why do you have to embarrass yourself? Why can't you treat yourself well? In fact, making things difficult for yourself does not mean that it is not good for yourself, but that you must dare to challenge yourself, challenge some difficulties, create some difficulties, and keep yourself busy and in the midst of struggle.

Mayday has been deeply loved by everyone since her debut, and she has been hard-pressed to win awards. If Mayday satisfies all of this, then they will not be able to create future glory. It is also impossible to win the "Taiwan Golden Melody Award" and "Best Band Award" several times.

To embarrass yourself is to not be too kind to yourself and create some troubles and difficulties for yourself appropriately.

People have huge potentials, which are often not known by the parties involved. Difficulties can often stimulate people's inner potential and bring out all the energy hidden inside. Many people have more energy than they imagine, and many people do not believe that they can achieve such great success.

Many people hope that their lives will be smooth sailing and that they will never encounter difficulties. These people exaggerate the dangers of difficulties and fail to realize the motivating effect of difficulties on themselves. People who are afraid of difficulties will never grow up, and people who are afraid of difficulties will never succeed.

When facing difficulties, you should not think about how to escape, but how to solve them. Solutions are always thought up by people, and people must have the spirit of becoming more courageous with every setback. When facing adversity, we must face it bravely with a smile.

If you find that you have been in good times for too long, you should cherish it, be brave enough to try and innovate, give yourself new tasks, increase your pressure, and improve your sense of crisis.

Don't pity yourself, pity yourself is the work of a despicable coward. If compassion for oneself is superficial, then not treating oneself is the deepest thing inside. Don't be too kind to yourself. It may seem cruel and unrealistic at first, but it is actually the best way to treat yourself well. Because only when you mature is the best way to grow. And every time you grow, you need to go through various transformations, and these transformations come from your own pressure and efforts.

To be kind to yourself is to be kind to yourself