1. Make sure this is something you take seriously. If you have the right reasons to do it, it will become very great.
2. Find a friend or mentor who has experienced this period and ask them why they made this choice.
If others don't support you, don't listen to their feelings about your choice. It's your choice. You must fight alone. Instead, talk to friends who won't judge you or have made such a choice.
4. Participate in different hobbies; If it can be avoided, it is best not to be with people who are only temporarily attracted. On the contrary, you can be with people who have certain spiritual or personal pursuits.
5. Find someone you think will understand your choice. Because it will be difficult to fight alone. Tell them you need some moral support.
6. resist temptation, especially at the beginning of this lifestyle. Don't put yourself in situations where you may have sex, such as being alone with people who physically attract you at close range. Don't spend time alone and quietly with those people unless you are quite sure that you can control yourself in that situation. As long as you can control yourself, you can still get close to them (which is also conducive to letting them know the rules of your lifestyle).
7. In fact, after a period of time, if you don't remind yourself how much you miss sex, you can stop your strong sexual desire. However, if you are still watching movies, TV or many advertisements about hormones and sexual guidance, it will be very difficult. Learn to ignore these things; They are social standards, not yours.
8. In most cases, continue to let any relationship about sexual romance or hormonal guidance fade out of your sight. Make a list of things you want to do. If you don't have a partner, it will hinder you, then travel or write a novel.
9. Doing this alone can help you grow and challenge the reason why you wanted to be celibate in the first place. When you start silently, self-improvement is very powerful.
10, if faith is one of the reasons why you decide to abstain from sex, then read the Bible or other religious books for guidance and strength. When you are weak or in need, please ask your pastor or religious group for help.
1 1, abstinence can also be carried out in love if both parties agree.
12, you can also strengthen yourself with others and learn something, such as musical instruments, which can keep your brain busy.
13, the fun of learning and the concentration of participating in other activities in life can occupy your mind. It can also make you exhausted and have a good sleep.
It is said that abstinence is a good way to improve mental strength and attention.
15, abstinence will make love develop soft, mature and selfless. True love will last longer, and staying away from sex can make love more stable. When a man knocks down a woman, if the woman says "no" sweetly and gently, it will impress the man and make him respect and trust the woman more. If this man used to be a dancer, it would even make him a better person. Pleasant sexual tension is the beginning of a beautiful love story and is also conducive to a happy marriage.
16, before you do this, you should know why you curse. People swear for many reasons. The most common thing is to avoid sexually transmitted diseases, and you can also concentrate on intense study, because abstinence can save you a lot of time. This will also save you money, especially the students' budget.
17, think about this decision carefully and don't be rash. What you do will be a lifelong commitment.
18, be sure to tell everyone around you about your abstinence oath. Tell people around you about your decision and convince them to support you every step of the way.
19, focus on other things and refuse temptation. Keep your promise, go back to school, start a new hobby, or buy a pet. Try to keep yourself busy.
20. Re-check your vows every 4-6 months to make sure you want to continue to do so. If you have decided not to live like this, do what you want.
Tip: If you fail, if you are afraid of failure, if you find it difficult, don't be discouraged. Learn to forgive yourself. You are an enterprising student. As long as you don't give up what you think is right, you can fail many times. If you believe in God, if you are not strong enough, it will forgive you, as long as you keep on believing.
Exercise takes time and attention. You will feel great after exercise.
Try to keep yourself busy.
Stay healthy. Exercise with your partner or friends, or exercise alone.
Continue to pay attention to your appearance and clothing collocation, which will make you feel good about yourself.
Just because you don't have a date doesn't mean you should be careless.
Just because you don't want to participate in sex doesn't mean you can't have intimate relationships with attractive opposite sex. However, you need to control yourself carefully and make sure that they know that you don't want to have sex.
Generally speaking, the longer you abstain from sex, the older you get and the fuller your life, the easier it is to spread your sexual energy (depression) to healthy entertainment. Your sexual desire will also decrease with age (which is beneficial).
Traveling is a good way to live an abstinence life.
When you have enough experience, you can get along with people who attract you more freely. In the end, when you get along with their partners, you don't have to have so many rules, and your tension or anxiety will be greatly reduced.
Let's leave now. Volunteers. Help the community, help friends and visit parents. Besides keeping you busy, these things will also clear unnecessary thoughts from your mind.
Always remember that interpersonal relationship is an important part of life, and every sound relationship and connection needs some sympathy and attention-these precious qualities will disappear because desire distorts our imagination.
Diet: Some types of food, such as meat, chocolate and tea, will attract the instinct of animals, while fruits, vegetables, nuts, rice and dairy products are easier to digest, thus maintaining physical and mental concentration. Gandhi's autobiography says that diet has a great influence on his abstinence.
Yoga affects your thinking. These influences will keep you away from abstinence. You learn to control these influences in many ways, but the most important thing is to be aware of your emotions and what is affecting them. Here are some yoga techniques:
Whether you study alone or with a group, it is very helpful to practice yoga as a part of your daily life. If you are not afraid of temptation, join a group. In most cases, there is little interaction between yoga students and there is no need to look at others.
Warn against dealing with people who seem to have intimate relationships.
Have confidence in yourself, so that willpower will win. Your choice will be tested-whether it is yourself or others-and you need to have the courage to resist the temptation.
You will find that you need to fight against those false rumors about why you don't get married. Some people may reject you socially because you are different, because they are afraid that you will secretly design something for their other half; Or just because you reminded them of the shameful compromises they made in order to get married and stay married with their spouses, such as turning a blind eye to long-term deception.
Don't risk trying any unnecessary hugs until you get used to being single.
Traveling, living in an ideal community or cooperative family, or living in a medium-sized or large city can make you meet people who live alone or single, thus alleviating the sense of social alienation from married friends. People who are single or live alone have more social activities, so find a reason to volunteer more!
When you make new friends, you may continue to face the loss of old friends until you feel the burden between them. By the age of 65, nearly half of people will be divorced or widowed, and then become as single as you. They may also abstain from sex, because many people, especially women, have given up dating at that time. When you hear more and more men or women lament that they have sacrificed their careers for their spouses, handled long-term infidelity, nasty divorce, or fought for custody of their own souls, you may become more and more grateful to choose abstinence.
The biggest risk of choosing abstinence is that when your sexual desire finally wins and you are no longer an asexual person, it may be manifested in an unexpected way.
Another risk is that staying single will alienate your married friends.
In America, 90% of women get married at the age of 40. When you reach the age of 30, 40 or 50, many of your friends or colleagues will feel that they are no longer attractive to you, especially if you are not single but celibate (or celibate). They may sympathize with you.
If you are a man, the temptation to stop abstinence will increase with age, because every year, the ratio of unmarried women to unmarried men will be higher. Even if you don't care about that, women may start to actively pursue being with you.
Choosing celibacy and abstinence is not without risks and costs, and it is often in middle age that the risks are greatest, which will be explained later.
Don't make this decision too soon, because you may not follow it.
If you change your mind and decide not to be celibate in your later life, you may not have so many opportunities to date or find a suitable partner because of what you did when you were young, because men usually die earlier (making the ratio of women to men larger), and men usually date people younger or younger than them.