Zeng Guofan summed up the sufferings of his life. We read this diary: "During the Revolution of 1911, Yu Geng was reviled by elites in Beijing; Guizhou Jiayin was reviled by Changsha; Chen was reviled by Jiangxi. " All their experiences were abused and scolded by powerful people in Beijing, and they could not answer back; Being scolded by green camp in Changsha, you can't talk back, and you will die if you talk back; Growing vegetables and grass in Jiangxi was scolded like a beggar, but he couldn't talk back. I endured it for a long time, and the disaster was not provoked, but my anger piled up in my heart layer by layer. This is not a certain degree of ambiguity, but Zeng Guofan's own voice as evidence: "I never say, I will endure." You are angry. Stop it, just bear it. Obviously sulking. How depressed, how uncomfortable. He likes to sulk. How could he be sent away? How to turn it into positive energy? Suffering from anger and hard work, we can only "strive for self-improvement." This kind of self-improvement is a long-term thing, but our current mood must have a clear channel. Lao Zeng has to rely on words at this time.
For example, Zeng Guofan mentioned earlier was condemned by Xianfeng for his "good reputation", and Lao Zeng's emotions were vented in a letter to the fourth brother in September of the same year. He wrote: "Who is not as good as me?" Everyone has a good name. Everyone is like me. This is obviously a criticism of Xianfeng, showing dissatisfaction. But you can't complain in a letter from home. Long live God. So I explained it and comforted myself by saying, "If I have a good name, then people will have an unattractive name, a name that is far from being achieved." In contrast, this is embarrassing. "The emperor called Lao Zeng a" good name "and Lao Zeng was embarrassed. But from a dialectical point of view, Lao Zeng has a good reputation and someone should be responsible. There is a simple reason. Your ability shows the incompetence of others. In contrast, people are more embarrassed than me. In the old man's letter, such a contrast made me feel relieved. At this time, Lao Zeng rose to the height of personality cultivation: "My brother is only cautious and always saves time. "Be careful in the future and hide your tail deeper. Then, it becomes a prospect for future work: "You can clean the river quickly and smooth the thieves. "You can clear the Taiping rebels on the Yangtze River and put down the riots. The uncertainty in my mind has been eliminated, that is, I am not afraid.
After being scolded by the emperor, I felt weak, but when I wrote this, my anger dissipated. I want to find my own way, give myself courage and don't be afraid. It can be seen that Lao Zeng's letters play a great role, which can not only solve the sulking, but also improve the quality. If you are worried about something, write it down, put it in front of your eyes, and become an object that can be observed objectively. In other words, this is actually a good way to objectify the subject from "but to which corner of the mountain" to "outsider". If you talk to yourself, you may not relax. But if you are facing your family and younger generation, you must put yourself on your brother and parents to educate them, and then you must inject positive energy and find a solution to sulk. Therefore, when you become the spiritual wealth of your family, you will unconsciously sublimate your grievances and overcome your fears. Zeng Guofan was bullied by his colleagues in Jiangxi, and his soldiers were also humiliated. In Xianfeng's letter of June 5438+065438+1October 27, 2004, he always lamented that his team "would be cursed and poisoned every time he entered the city", but he was a big brother after all. When he confided his troubles to his younger brothers, he should set a good example for them, so he clearly pointed out his proper attitude: "Only by bearing the burden of humiliation, surrendering to the heart, restraining ambition and fighting for the army." It's best to keep silent and do your job when dealing with insults.
Using letters from home can also help you convey guilt and depression. The most unpleasant thing in my last life was in Jiangxi. In the seventh year of Xianfeng, he mentioned in his letter to his younger brother: "He stayed abroad for several years and suffered great losses. He is ashamed of the gentleman in Jiangxi. " The old man is trapped in Jiangxi and is at a critical juncture. His father's death helped him. He left with grief and filial piety. A few years later, Lao Zeng's heart disease was incurable, so he wrote to his brother who was an official in Jiangxi to express his guilt. Having offended the elite of a province, my heart is weak. If you have this letter from your family, you will also have the courage to feel guilty. The book not only gave Lao Zeng confidence, but also gave confidence to his relatives. Since the Tseng brothers invaded Nanjing, the whole world thought that Xiang had no rivals and had not recovered, but they played a pair in 3354. This resourceful and brave northern cavalry defeated the Tseng brothers in the north, lost divisions, and constantly lost land. The imperial court was furious and rebuked Ceng Guoquan, Lao Zeng's younger brother, for "poor planning".
Late at night on November 18th, the fifth year of Tongzhi, Lao wrote to his younger brother, urging him to be brave, and put forward his famous saying: "Knock out your teeth and swallow your blood." He believes that his younger brother was defeated by the Nian army, "just like pulling out his front teeth." He advised his younger brother to "just talk and don't do it, stick to it." Xu Tu is self-reliant. Six years later, when my cousin died, he wrote a letter to his younger brother, convincing him that this failure was a' hero in the sky' and asking him to' grit his teeth and encourage himself'. On the surface, this sentence gives courage to my brother, but in fact it also gives courage to myself. My brother was punished after losing the battle. Can he always be fine? Of course, if you want to give your brother courage, you must be told. He enumerated the lessons of past failures and insults, and then said to his brother, "Nothing. Didn't I go this way? "Zeng Guofan's letter to his family is actually to write down his fears, worries and pressures and realize them. This is also a constraint on himself and his children. Therefore, Zeng Guofan's letter is also written for himself.