If people are rude, there will be no life. If things are rude, nothing will happen. If the country is rude, there will be no peace. Restless. ("Cultivation")

Appreciation The word "ritual" is often mentioned in Confucian classics of the pre-Qin Dynasty. Confucius said: "If you don't learn etiquette, you can't stand up." Youzi said: "The use of etiquette, harmony is the most precious... If you can't do something, you know how to be harmonious, and you can't do it without etiquette." Mencius said : "The heart of submission is the basis of etiquette." Its meaning may be "etiquette", or "etiquette", or "order system", or "harmony and moderation". The meanings are different in different situations.

Xunzi believed that all behaviors of people in daily life, including food, clothing, daily life, travel, etc., should be conducted according to etiquette and etiquette. Otherwise, the body will be unwell and contracted by diseases, and life will not be peaceful. For example, it is stated in "Xunzi·Dalue": "Frost descends on a girl who rebels against her, and ice kills her, and every ten days she becomes a queen." In ancient times, when a man married a wife, the dates for "asking for a date" and "welcoming in person" were strictly determined by the etiquette system. What's more, the etiquette also has restrictions on the sex and bed affairs between men and women after marriage - "one emperor for ten days". This etiquette system is not a suppression and persecution of human nature, but to embody " The principle of "a gentleman keeps integrity within himself". If people do not follow the etiquette and restraint in sexual intercourse, they will easily indulge in sexual desires, which will lead to all kinds of diseases all over the body, and life will naturally be unhappy. Zhuangzi said: "On the bed mat, between eating and drinking, if one does not know how to take the precepts, it is a fault." The same principle is true. As for people's attitudes, speech, and behavior in social interactions, they must also be restrained and guided through etiquette, otherwise they will fall into a situation where they are at a loss and are eccentric and barbaric. When these ritual-following people gather from individuals into ethnic groups and even form a country as a whole, private "rituals" are transformed into public "rituals", that is, the order and system of the entire country, which must be followed in public social life. ***General rules of conduct. If the country is not governed by etiquette, people will be indistinguishable, and everyone will fight for what they want. Eventually, the country will be in turmoil and the people will be at a loss. Xunzi had a clear discussion of "rituals" in "On Rites". He said: "Where do rituals originate?" He said: Human beings are born with desires, and if they cannot get their desires, they cannot do without seeking; if they seek without measurement and demarcation, they will It is necessary to fight; fighting leads to chaos, and chaos leads to poverty. The former kings hated the chaos, so they divided the rituals and righteousness to nourish people's desires and demands. "" Therefore, the gentleman is nourished by it. What is the difference? It is said that there are differences between the noble and the humble, there are differences between the old and the young, and there are differences between the rich and the poor. "This kind of difference between different classes is the role of "ritual" in the life of the pre-Qin Dynasty. actual manifestation. "The Analects of Confucius·Eight Yi" records: "Confucius said to the Ji family: 'Eight Yi dancing in the court is tolerable, which one cannot be tolerated?'" Also "Three schools of thought use "Yong" to make it clear, and Confucius said: 'Xiangwei' Pi Gong, the emperor Mu Mu, Xi took it from the hall of the three families?'" The officials of Lu State used the emperor's rituals that were not their duty in watching dances and offering sacrifices in the ancestral temple. Their crime of plagiarism not only reflected the late Spring and Autumn Period The state of Lu's state affairs was neglected and its national strength was low, which also showed a sign of the chaotic world in the Warring States Period.

Although modern society has got rid of the strict hierarchical system of ancient society, and the etiquette system that oppressed humanity and discriminated against human rights has gradually disappeared in the long history of history, there are still some old "etiquette systems" that we need to inherit Go down. Xunzi proposed that "if an old friend is rude, there will be no birth, if things are rude, there will be no success, and if the country is rude, there will be no peace." The significance in today's era should focus more on maintaining health according to etiquette and following the order of human relations. Firstly, to make one's life and body comfortable, and secondly, as Mencius said, the origin of "propriety" should be the heart of resignation. If we take filial piety, respect for teachers, and love for children as our rules of conduct in life, we can find a little more care and comfort in this impetuous and indifferent society filled with materialistic desires.