The greatest love in the world is maternal love, and maternal love is the gentle spring breeze.
People have never been stingy with beautiful and meaningful words about maternal love. Because the love a mother pours into her children is always so profound. Many parents put all their trust in their children, hoping to arrange a good life for their children. But mothers first have to live a very fulfilling and happy life themselves.
In fact, it is not the children that should be relieved the most, but maternal love.
The British writer Dickens has a famous saying: It was the best of times, it was the worst of times. The words "good" and "bad" seem too extreme, but as long as it is said that this is the most anxious era, no matter whether it is good or bad, it is included.
At a certain media conference, a reporter asked Xiaomi founder Lei Jun: Are you anxious now? Lei Jun said: There is no time to worry at all. This is the highest level of anxiety for rich people. A reporter from the Lunchtime News interviewed the captured habitual criminal: Why did you steal the car in the first place? No money! This is the anxiety that people at the bottom are least able to refute.
Behind anxiety is the pressure of life. No matter rich or poor, they are fighting for daily survival in their own way. I can't be proud of a child who knows how to play music, chess, calligraphy and painting at the age of five. I also sympathize with the emptiness and confusion faced by college graduates in the vastness of life. I also understand why young people who get off work early in the morning are keen on getting drunk. Everyone is carrying an invisible baggage as they move forward.
However, burden-reducing education for children is gradually being advocated. Confused college students still have the cost of trial and error at a young age, and tired professionals can still get drunk and act wildly. They can always find a way to release.
But there is a group of people who have visible and invisible pressure on their shoulders every day. They have nowhere to escape. This group of people are mothers.
Groups like mothers are the ones most likely to be criticized. Everyone around you is eager to teach you how to raise children. When the child cries, others will say that you are clumsy and hurt the child. If the child is sick, others will say that you are lazy and have not taken good care of the child. If you want to take the child to play, others will say that the child cannot stand the torment and should stay at home. Just stay home and stay at home with your children. Others say you should take your children out for more walks, so as not to bore your children into trouble... The biggest feeling of being a mother is that you are in a dilemma.
We often hear comments like this: Men work very hard outside, but women are so relaxed and just take care of their babies at home. But we don’t know that mothers who take care of their babies at home are on call 24 hours a day, all year round. status, but the mother’s grievances and burdens go far beyond that.
Did you know? Mom's weight is equal to 12 liters of bottled water, which is equal to 5 watermelons. Mom's weight is equal to a full suitcase, which is equal to 14 laptops. Mom's weight is equal to a large potted plant, which is equal to 60 bottles of mineral water... Don't forget Before they became mothers, they were also delicate girls who needed care.
I once saw a mother at the airport, holding a two-year-old boy in her left hand, dragging a suitcase with her right hand, and a backpack on her right shoulder, rushing to board the airport. However, in this case, the little boy in his arms still sat firmly.
Most people see the strength of their mother, but ignore the effort behind it.
Before the child truly reaches adulthood, the mother has basically no freedom. The child is almost the whole world, and this is just one of the cruelties to the mother.
Some time ago, Zhang Nara filmed a charity MV, which restored the daily life of a mother raising her children alone. The mother wanted to go to the toilet, but the child kept crying outside, so she had no choice but to take the child into the toilet. When he was about to eat, the child woke up and couldn't even take a bite of the meal. He could only eat a few bites while coaxing him. My thin wrists had to be put on wristbands and plasters because I had to hold the baby for a long time. Going out on the street with her children in old-fashioned and slovenly clothes, she was looked at strangely... The sad mother stood silently at the intersection of the zebra crossing, and was awakened by the porter's voice on the road!
After I got home, I was eagerly looking forward to my husband’s return, but I got a text message: I won’t be back from the entertainment tonight. At this time, the wife finally broke down and cried...
Because of the child in the stroller, career, ideals, a romantic world for two, beautiful skirts, and high heels all became a luxury. How many mothers pursue hot moms in their hearts, but they become unkempt in the day-to-day grind.
Before you became a mother, you were obviously excellent in all abilities, but after you became a mother, you often blamed yourself and collapsed because you failed to take good care of your children.
You envy your unmarried best friends in your circle of friends who are traveling around the world, but you can only put down your phone silently, turn over and continue to put your children to sleep. Not only do you have to drag your tired body around, you also have to face and resolve the contradiction within yourself.
Have you ever thought that mothers can be more selfish and live more for themselves? Some time ago, a talk show interviewed Dong Qing. As a 45-year-old mother, she always has a smile on her face, and her conversation shows the temperament and elegance of a mature woman.
The host Wang Ning asked her: Why did she become a mother at this time. Dong Qing said: When a person reaches a certain age, many things cannot be postponed any longer, otherwise the opportunity will be lost forever.
People are in awe of the word "eternal". Of course, when she actually becomes a mother, she will inevitably fall into various confusions and be at a loss.
"It was a very difficult day, and my whole person became trivial and mediocre. I felt that all my time was taken up by this life." However, after thinking calmly for a while, Dong Qing found that this was not the case. It is not a matter of choice. The growth of children does not conflict with my own growth. "I want to continue to grow. I want to set a good example for my children and don't want to stand still because of him."
Dong Qing chose to be selfish, pursue his own career, and try his best to spend time with his children, and try his best to infect his children with his enthusiasm. Looking back at Dong Qing now, he has a happy family and a successful career. Under his influence, his children are outstanding beyond their peers.
The French writer Beauvoir once said: The misfortune of a woman is that she is surrounded by almost irresistible temptations. She is not asked to work hard, but is encouraged to slide down to reach bliss. When she finds herself being By the time Mirage fools her, it's already too late, her powers having been exhausted in the failed adventure. What he encourages is for every woman to learn to restrain the temptations of those sensual dogs and horses, to love themselves, to be independent and elegant.
Of course, the mother group can also benefit from it. Give yourself more consideration and care, and participate in family life with a clear mind. This is the responsible way for your children and the family.
Many mothers have a big problem. They forget that they are a woman first, and a mother second. They forget that sexiness and charm are their innate core. So they involuntarily locked up the skirts in the wardrobe, buried earrings and jewelry in deep cabinets, shelved cosmetics until they expired, and shelved high heels.
Caroline, the muse of Lanc?me, once wrote a sentence in her book "Being an Elegant Parisian Woman": Parisian women are selfish. Although they are also full of motherly love, they can never be Selfless, you can’t find the Virgin in Paris.
The elegant Parisian woman has a natural passion for fashion and travel. You may not know that those sexy Paris models you see in fashion magazines may have just given birth last year. In their eyes, children cannot be a fetter for their future. They will still fly around the world to see what they want to see. The only difference in the scenery is that this time, they will take their children with them.
Take your children to travel and see the world, and you will find that this is a process that allows mother and child to grow together and understand each other. Because during the journey, the mother-child relationship can evolve into a team-mate relationship, because the children need to see more of the world, and so does the mother, so they travel together, explore the fun during the journey, and care for each other. Only in this kind of journey can both parties get tangible benefits. growing up.
As long as you observe carefully, you will find that the faces of mothers and children who have just got off the train or plane will have a different look of determination. They firmly believe that what happened in the last second will always receive perfect feedback in every moment in the future.
No wonder some people say that when a woman leaves her body and mind to nature and sees all the mountains and rivers in the world, her heart will be full, her face will be radiant, and her body will be graceful. All the changes are enough to prove that traveling is the most relaxing time. Mom’s luxury.
Writer Wu Zhihong said: I support every mother to live for herself and support mothers to take their children to see the world.