Book of Rites

Book of Rites

Qu Li is No. 1

"Qu Li" says: "Don't be disrespectful, just be thoughtful , "An Dingci."

Ao cannot be long, desires cannot be followed, aspirations cannot be fulfilled, and happiness cannot be extreme.

A wise man respects him, fears him and loves him. Love and know its evil, hate and know its good. Accumulation can be dispersed, peace can be moved. Don't be reluctant to get wealth when you are facing it, and don't be reluctant to avoid difficulties when faced with it. There is no need to seek victory, and no need to seek more points. When in doubt, don’t question it; be honest and don’t have any questions.

If you are a husband, you sit like a corpse and stand like a corpse. Follow the appropriate etiquette and follow the customs. The reason for husband's ceremony is to determine relatives and distance, to resolve suspicions, to distinguish similarities and differences, and to clarify right and wrong. Be polite, don’t talk nonsense about people, and don’t refuse to pay. Etiquette, don't overdo the festival, don't intrude, don't be rude. Cultivating one's character and practicing one's words are called good deeds. Practicing and cultivating words is the essence of etiquette. The etiquette and hearing come from people, but the non-hearing comes from others. If you hear the etiquette, you will learn it; if you don’t hear it, you will learn it.

Morality, benevolence, and righteousness can be avoided if it is inappropriate; teachings should be upright and should not be prepared for inappropriate behavior. Disputes and lawsuits will not be decided if it is inappropriate. The king and his ministers, fathers, sons and brothers, are always indecent. The official is a scholar and a teacher, and he is not polite and does not want to be intimate with him. When the Ban Dynasty governs the army and visits officials to enforce the law, it cannot be done without courtesy and majesty. Praying at the temple to offer sacrifices and provide food to ghosts and gods is impolite and dishonest. Therefore, a gentleman should be respectful, temperate and make concessions in order to show propriety. Parrots can speak and are inseparable from birds; orangutans can speak and are inseparable from beasts. People today are rude. Even though they can speak well, don’t they have the mentality of animals? The husband is a beast and has no manners, so the father and son gather together. This is why the saints made it as a ritual to teach people. Make people behave politely and know that they are different from animals.

The most important thing is to value virtue, and the second most important thing is to repay it. Reciprocity. It is impolite to go but not come; it is impolite to come but not go. If people are polite, they will be safe; if they are rude, they will be in danger. Therefore, it is said: One must learn etiquette. Those who are respectful to their husbands humble themselves but respect others. Even if you are a peddler, you must be respected, how about being rich and noble? If you are rich and know how to be polite, you will not be arrogant or lewd; if you are poor or lowly, if you know how to be polite, your ambition will not be deterred.

The ten years of life are called childhood and learning. Twenty is weak, crown. Thirty is strong and has a room. Forty means strong and official. Fifty-year-old Ai, serve in government affairs. Sixty is called Qi, giving instructions. Seventy years old, and passed on. The age of eighty and ninety is called the old man, and the seventh year is called the mourning. Although the mourning and the old man are guilty, the punishment will not be increased. One hundred years is called Qi, Yi.

The doctor caused trouble when he was seventy. If you are not grateful, you will be given a few sticks to serve the woman. Suitable for all directions, take a safe car. If he calls himself "Old Man", he will be called by his name in his country; if he crosses the country and asks about it, he will be told to control it.

If you plan for the elders, you must use a few sticks to follow them. When asked by an elder, it is not polite to respond without giving in.

Every gift for being a son of man: warm in winter and clear in summer, calm in the dark and clear in the morning, no dispute in the ugly barbarians.

When a husband is a son, the three gifts are not as good as chariots and horses. He is called filial piety by the local party in his hometown, brothers and relatives are called kind, colleagues and colleagues call him brother, executive friends call him benevolent, and friends with friends call him trustworthy. When I see my father's persistence, I don't dare to advance without asking, I don't dare to retreat without asking, I don't dare to be right without questioning. This is the act of a filial son.

When a husband is a son of a human being, he must inform him when he goes out, face him when he rebels, he must be consistent in everything he travels, and he must have karma in whatever he learns. Constant words are not called old. If you are older than twice, your father will take care of you; if you are ten years older, your brothers will take care of you; if you are five years older, you will take care of your shoulders. If there are five people living in a group, the elder will sit separately.

He who is a son of man cannot occupy the right place, cannot sit on the right table, cannot walk in the middle way, and cannot stand in the middle gate. Food is not a general matter, and sacrifices are not a corpse. Hearing is silent, seeing is invisible. If you don't climb high, you won't go deep. Not serious, not serious.

A filial son does not obey the secrets, does not climb into danger, and is afraid of humiliating his relatives. As long as your parents survive, don't allow your friends to die. No private wealth.

He who is a son of man: his parents survive, but his clothes are not pure. The orphan is in the house, and the clothes are not pure.

Young children often look without deceit, and young children without clothes. The establishment must be square. Not listening. If the elders support him, then both hands will be in the hands of the elders. If you hold your sword behind your back and issue an edict, you should cover your mouth and respond.

Follow Mr. Yu and don’t cross the road and talk to others. Encountered by Mr. Tao, he walked forward and stood upright, holding his hands. If you talk to him, he will be right; if you don't talk to him, he will retreat.

If you go up the hills from the elders, you will be looked down upon by the elders.

Don’t point when you climb the city, don’t shout from the city.

Be willing to give up and seek instead of being solid. When you are about to go to the hall, your voice will be loud. There are two women outside. If you hear something, you will come in. If you don't hear something, you will not come in. When you are about to enter the house, you will see it. When you enter a house, hold the door open and don't look back; if the door is opened, it will be opened, and if it is closed, it will be closed; if someone comes in later, do not close it. Don't practice your clothes, don't sit on the mat, or pick at the corners of your clothes. Be careful and keep promises.

When the officials enter and leave the king's gate, they go from the gate to the right and do not violate the threshold.

Anyone who enters with a guest must give way to the guest at each door. When a guest comes to the door of the bedroom, the host invites him to sit at the table and then goes out to greet the guest. The guest said goodbye, and the host came in respectfully. The host enters on the right, and the guest enters on the left. The host will go to the east step, and the guest will go to the west step. If the guest is downgraded, he will go to the host's step. The host said goodbye, and then returned to the west steps. The host and the guest give way to the climb. The host climbs first, and the guest follows. When going up the east steps, the right foot goes first; when going up the west steps, the left foot goes first.

There is no trend outside the thin curtain, there is no trend in the hall, and there is no trend when holding jade. Receive martial arts in the hall and deploy martial arts in the lower hall. There is no flying in the room, and one cannot sit horizontally. Don’t kneel when asked to stand, don’t stand when asked to sit.

Anyone who treats an elder's excrement as a gift must put a broom on the dustpan and tie it up before retreating; if the dust is not as good as that of the elder, he will use a dustpan to collect it from his hometown. Serving a banquet is like a bridge and a scale. Where is the country for the banquet? What is the toe for the gusset? Seats: Nanxiang and Beixiang, with the west as the top; Dongxiang and Xixiang, with the south as the top.

If the guests are not eating or drinking, the table will be laid out and letters will be sent to the guests between the tables. The host kneels down at the banquet, while the guests kneel down and caress the banquet before saying goodbye. The guests returned to the banquet, but the host said goodbye. When guests practice the mat, they sit down. The host doesn't ask, the guest doesn't show up first. It's about to happen, don't hesitate. He picked up his clothes with both hands and pulled them up to his feet. Don’t pull back your clothes, don’t kick your feet.

The teacher writes the harp and harp in front of you, sit down and move it, and be careful not to cross it. After all the empty sitting, sit before all the food. You will be safe when you sit down, and you will look good on your face. If you are not as good as the elders, don’t say anything. If you look upright, you will listen respectfully. Don't suppress the theory, don't be the same. It must be the past, and he will be called the former king. Sitting in front of the gentleman: Sir, if you ask me, you will be right in the end. If you ask for karma, you will start, if you ask for benefits, you will start. The father's call has no promise, the husband's call has no promise, but he rises. There is no room left to sit in the place of respect. I can't bear to see you. The candles are lit, the meal is lit, and the guests are served. The candle is gone and the postscript is missing. Don't scold the dog before honoring the guest. Don't eat without spitting.

I am sitting with a gentleman. The gentleman is stretched out and has his staff stretched out. He looks at the sun and does not have fleas. Please come out. When you are sitting with a gentleman, when the gentleman asks more questions, he will stand up and answer questions. When you are sitting with a gentleman, if there is someone who complains and says, "I have a little time," I hope you will be heard again. Then you will wait with your left and right screens. Don't listen, don't respond, don't look lewdly, don't be idle. Don't be arrogant when traveling, don't be lame when standing, don't sit on a dustpan, and don't lie down when sleeping. No need to trim your hair, no need to remove your crown, no need to expose your hair when you are tired, and no need to wear your underwear in the summer.

When I sit with an elder, I cannot go to the hall, and I dare not step on the steps. Just kneel down and hold it up, holding it to your side. The elders of the village come to look after you; they kneel down to move you, and you bow down to accept them.

When you leave sitting or standing, don’t go to the center; when you leave standing, don’t go out of the middle.

Men and women do not sit together, have different yongs and turbans, and do not teach in person. My sister-in-law and uncle don't know how to ask questions, and my mothers don't wash their clothes. External speech does not enter the bundle, and inner speech does not come out of the bundle.

A woman is allowed to marry and wear a tassel; unless there is a serious reason, she will not enter the house. My aunt is a woman, but she is married. My brother cannot sit at the same table with me, nor eat with me from the same utensil. Father and son do not sit at the same table.

Without a matchmaker, men and women are not known to each other; unless they receive money, they have no friendship or intimacy. Therefore, the sun and the moon are used to report to the king, and the warnings are used to report to the ghosts and gods. They are invited to invite fellow villagers and party members for wine and food, so as to treat them well.

Don’t take a wife with the same surname; so when you buy a concubine and don’t know her surname, you will have to divine it. A widow's son cannot be his friend unless he has some knowledge.

To congratulate the man who took his wife, he said: "My son has made me ashamed when I heard that he has a guest."

The poor do not use money as a gift, and the old do not use their strength as a gift. present.

The person named Zi is not named after the country, nor the sun and the moon, nor the hidden diseases, nor the mountains and rivers.

Men and women have different lengths. Men in their twenties, crowned with a Chinese character. In front of the father, the name of the son; in front of the king, the name of the minister. When a woman is promised to marry, she has a hairpin.

In the etiquette of eating, the food is on the left and the food is on the right. The food is on the left of the person and the soup is on the right of the person. The zucchini is on the outside, the fermented sauce is on the inside, the green onions are on the bottom, and the wine pulp is on the right. Those who build it with breasts are left and right. If a guest lowers his rank, eats and speaks, the host will greet the guest and then sit down. The host invites guests to offer sacrifices: offering food and offering sacrifices in advance. The order of the dishes is followed by sacrifices. After three meals, the host invites the guests to eat, and then debates the food. The host did not argue, but the guest did not speak empty words.

When serving food to an elder, if the master personally feeds him, he will worship and eat; if the master does not personally feed him, he will eat without worshiping.

*** is not full, *** is not satisfied with rice. Do not knead the rice, do not put the rice in, do not drain it, do not eat it, do not chew the bones, do not eat fish meat, and do not throw in the dog bones. Don't hold on to your gains, don't give away your rice. Don’t eat rice with chopsticks