1. The story of Premier Zhou’s tolerance
Once, when the barber was shaving Premier Zhou’s beard, the Prime Minister suddenly coughed, and the knife immediately scratched his face. The barber was very nervous and at a loss, but to his surprise, Premier Zhou did not blame him, but said to him kindly: It's not your fault. I didn't say hello to you before I coughed. How did you know that I wanted to What about moving? Although this is a small thing, it allows us to see the virtue of Premier Zhou - tolerance.
2. Mr. Tao Xingzhi’s Four Candies
More than half a century ago, Mr. Tao Xingzhi infiltrated the ideas of democracy and tolerance into his educational practice , let them play a wonderful role.
When Mr. Tao Xingzhi was the principal, one day he saw a boy hitting his classmate with a brick, so he stopped him and asked him to go to the principal's office. When Principal Tao returned to the office, the boy was already waiting there. Tao Xingzhi took out a candy and gave it to this classmate: "This is to reward you, because you arrived at the office before me." Then he took out another candy and said: "This is for you too. I won't let you hit your classmate. If you stop immediately, it shows that you respect me."
The boy took the second candy doubtfully, and Mr. Tao said: As far as I know, you hit your classmate because he bullied girls, which shows that you have a sense of justice. I will reward you with another candy.
At this time, the boy was so moved that he cried and said: Principal, I was wrong. No matter how wrong my classmates are, I cannot take this approach.
Mr. Tao took out another candy and said: "You have admitted your mistake. I will reward you with another candy." My candy was finished and our conversation was over.
Mr. Tao Xingzhi’s story of four candies embodies the charm of tolerance and shines with the wisdom of educators. Tolerance is a beautiful educational emotion. Education requires tolerance, and it also needs to give tolerance a space to survive and resurrect tolerance. As the saying goes: Too much is not enough. Sometimes there are too many restrictions and too tight constraints, which is not conducive to development.
3. Tolerance is a kind of wisdom and strength. Tolerance is a kind of kindness
Picasso didn’t care about the fake paintings that pretended to be his works, and he never paid attention to them. When I see forgeries of his paintings, the most I can do is black out the forged signatures.
Why should I make such a fuss? Picasso said that people who make fake paintings are either poor painters or old friends. I am Spanish and cannot quarrel with old friends. Moreover, those experts who authenticate the authenticity also have to eat, and I don’t suffer much.
A gentleman is magnanimous. Tolerance is sometimes the greatest favor to others. A small inadvertent or intentional tolerance can make people happy, why not?
4. Napoleon's tolerance
Napoleon developed the virtue of tolerance for others during his long military career. As the commander-in-chief of the army, he often criticized soldiers, but every time he was not domineering and could take good care of the soldiers' emotions. Soldiers often accepted his criticism readily and were full of love and gratitude for him, which greatly enhanced the combat effectiveness and cohesion of his army and became a powerful force on the European continent.
In a battle to conquer Italy, the soldiers worked very hard. Napoleon patrolled the sentry at night. During the patrol, he found a patrol soldier asleep leaning against a big tree. He did not wake up the soldier, but picked up his gun and stood guard for him. About half an hour later, the sentry woke up from his sleep. He recognized his supreme commander and was very frightened.
Napoleon was not angry. He said to him kindly: Friend, this is your gun. You fought hard and walked such a long way. It is understandable and tolerable that you fell asleep, but At present, a moment's negligence may ruin the entire army. I happened not to be sleepy, so I stood for you for a while. Be careful next time.
Napoleon did not curse, did not reprimand loudly, and did not put on the airs of a marshal. Instead, he criticized the soldiers' mistakes in a serious and gentle manner. With such a generous marshal, how could the soldiers not fight bravely? If Napoleon did not tolerate the soldiers, it would only increase the soldiers' sense of resistance, lose his own prestige among the soldiers, and weaken the combat effectiveness of the army.
5. There is a story in "The Romance of the Three Kingdoms" in which Zhuge Liang captured Meng Huo seven times.
After Liu Bei's death, Zhuge Liang, the Prime Minister of Shu, prepared for the Northern Expedition to the Central Plains. At that time, in the southern part of the Shu Kingdom, at the junction of Yunnan and Guizhou, Meng Huo, the chief of the ethnic minority, launched a rebellion. Zhuge Liang decided to personally lead the troops to quell the rebellion and relieve this worry first. Some people suggested that sending a general south would be enough to destroy Meng Huo, and the prime minister would not have to go deep into that barren land. But Zhuge Liang had a longer-term consideration. He wanted to treat Meng Huo with kindness and power in order to win over people's hearts.
Meng Huo was brave and heroic, and he was very prestigious among the ethnic minorities. Zhuge Liang ordered his men not to hurt Meng Huo but to capture him alive.
In the first battle, the Shu army captured Meng Huo under the command of Zhuge Liang. When the soldiers escorted Meng Huo into the camp, Zhuge Liang personally untied him and asked people to prepare a banquet in his honor.
The next day, after Zhuge Liang accompanied him to visit the Shu army camp, he asked Meng Huo: How is our military camp? Meng Huo not only did not praise it, but said: It's just that. I didn't know your reality before, so I was defeated. Now I have seen your deployment. If you let me go back, I will definitely defeat you in another fight.
Zhuge Liang smiled and let Meng Huo go. A few days later, Meng Huo led his troops to challenge, but was defeated and captured again. How to behave? Meng Huo still refused to admit defeat, so Zhuge Liang let him go again.
Meng Huo fought Zhuge Liang again and again, fighting seven times in a row and being captured seven times. For the last time, Meng Huo was escorted to the Shu army camp. The soldiers passed down Zhuge Liang's general order and said: The prime minister did not want to see Meng Huo again, so he ordered Meng Huo to be sent back so that he could reorganize his troops and come back to decide the outcome.
Meng Huo thought for a long time and said: Seven captures and seven attempts have never happened since ancient times. The prime minister has given me a lot of respect. Although I don’t have much knowledge, I still understand the principles of life. How could you not give the Prime Minister face like that! After speaking, he knelt on the ground and said with tears: Prime Minister Tianwei, we will never rebel again!
Zhuge Liang was very happy and quickly helped Meng Huo up. Please He entered the camp, hosted a banquet, and finally politely sent Meng Huo out of the camp and asked him to go back.
After that, Meng Huo surrendered to the Shu Han wholeheartedly, and he did not rebel until Zhuge Liang's death. This objectively cleared away worries for the Shu Han to send troops to the Central Plains, and greatly promoted the stability of life and economic development of the ethnic minorities in southwest China. The wisdom of tolerance:
Zhuge Liang captured Meng Huo seven times, fully demonstrating his wisdom and tolerance, and won long-term peace and stability.
Tolerance is acceptance, accepting all rivers, regardless of past grudges, and embracing everything with a broad mind. Only those who can accept the world can gain the world. The reason why successful people can achieve great things is that they know how to tolerate .
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Quotes about tolerance
A great person has two hearts: one heart that bleeds and the other that is tolerant. ——(Lebanon) Kahlil Gibran
Those who love others will always be loved by others; those who respect others will always be respected by others. ——"Mencius Li Lou Xia"
Tolerance is the only test of civilization. (Helpers)
The art of wisdom is the art of knowing what to tolerate. ——William James
A generous spirit is the greatest of all things. ——Irving
There are many occasions in life when what you intend to achieve with resentment may be achieved through forgiveness. ——Sidney Smith
Forgive sincerely and then forget. (UK)
Tolerance is human, but forgetfulness is divine. ——James Grann
Tolerant people are the most impatient, and tolerant people are the least tolerant. ——Bernay
The noblest revenge is tolerance. ——Hugo
The vastest thing in the world is the ocean, wider than the ocean is the sky, and wider than the sky is the human mind. ——Hugo
God of justice, tolerance is the most perfect thing we can do. ——Wordsworth
Only brave people know how to tolerate; a coward will never tolerate, it is not his nature. ——Stern
The banyan tree in full bloom can accommodate people to enjoy the shade, and it will naturally remain green for thousands of years. If you are tolerant of others, your blessings will be great and long-lasting.
——Fang Haiquan
Tolerance is either good for people or harmful to people. ——Burke
Don’t get close to those who harm others but oppose retaliation and advocate tolerance. ——Lu Xun
Desire to be gentle and smooth, do not want to observe and understand clearly - "Book of Jin"
Reference: Baidu Encyclopedia - Tolerance