As a friend, you should learn to listen. When your friend encounters setbacks and troubles, he will find someone to vent his emotions. As a friend, you can listen to each other sincerely and patiently, which opens an emotional outlet for your friend. When a friend tells you something, you not only listen patiently, but also insert a word or two full of emotional comfort from time to time, or give advice and find ways for his friend, so that his feelings will get out of the swamp because of balance, and he will feel that having a friend like you is the real reliance. In this way, the feelings between friends will deepen and the friendship will increase day by day. A lady was extremely depressed because of her marriage, so she called her girlfriend to pour out her troubles. However, in those days, just as this girlfriend was busy with her work, she couldn't spare time to listen to her friends' dumping: as a result, the girl finally ended her life angrily because she couldn't bear the emotional repression for a while. If I could listen to that friend's story and comfort him a little, my friend wouldn't hit a wall.
2. Friends should also be divided into relatives and friends.
Although friends are the friendliest or most reliable communication objects in social circles, human nature is complicated. When communicating with friends, you should also think carefully and distinguish between relatives and friends. By nature, most people who become friends have similar interests and personalities, similar aspirations, similar educational level, lofty personality and strong empathy. In terms of communication reasons, there are embarrassing friends, friends who never turn their faces, friends who are in need, friends who are friends of gentlemen, friends who have forgotten the past, friends who have met once, friends who live in the market, friends who live in the past and friends who have old friends. No matter what reason you are friends, after a period of communication, you should have a choice, and you should have relatives and friends. For example, some friends are sincere and pure, and naturally they can be sincere and caring; But some of them are invested in you for some utilitarian purpose. When certain interests can't be achieved or you are too poor to be of use to him, he will leave you and make such a friend. What's more, it is better to keep a certain distance.
3. it should be enough to ask for human feelings. It is natural for people who have no human relations to make friends.
However, people can never ask for more. You ask for help once, and people help you. If you don't know much about it and push your luck again and again, your friends will be bored and disgusted with people like you, and the relationship between friends will be unsustainable. Others engage in friendship coercion in order to meet their own needs, regardless of each other's tolerance, which is also an act that makes friends disgusted. Xiao Liu's income is not much. Apart from normal expenses, his monthly salary is very small, so his savings are limited. But his friend Xiao Zhang wanted to buy a house, so he had to let Xiao Liu lend him 30 thousand yuan. Xiao Liu can do nothing. Not only did he fail to meet Xiao Zhang's demands, but he was also disgusted with Xiao Zhang's friendship intimidation.
4. Show up when friends need it most.
Facing the mixed society and changeable nature, no one can guarantee that everything will be fine, Dont Ask For Help, and no one boasts that he will never be in danger. Therefore, people are always eager for help when they encounter difficulties. Therefore, as a friend, when others need your help, you must show up in time and sincerely lend a helping hand to help your friend tide over the difficulties. As long as you master this communication principle, the friendship between friends and you will deepen day by day.
5. There must be a "degree" in communication and residence.
China has a very philosophical saying that "extremes meet". In life, anything that goes too far will go to the opposite side. The same is true of communication between friends. The past is very close and prone to cracks. Only by grasping a moderate degree can the friendship between friends become eternal. This is because everyone's culture, morality, personality, attitude towards life, work potential and family situation are different. The size of this difference is sometimes proportional to the frequency of communication between friends, that is, the more frequent and intimate the communication, the greater the pull. Therefore, communication between friends, regardless of time, distance, etc. Should be kept apart from each other, in order to achieve the artistic conception of "wanting more, feeling deeply", to be happy with the arrival of friends and miss them because of their departure.
6. Don't idealize your friends.
There are no two identical leaves in the world. Although friends have similar temperament, similar interests and similar temperament, after all, a friend is a living person, and there will always be some differences with you, some shortcomings and secrets that you don't want people to know. Therefore, when communicating with friends, don't idealize your friends, and don't take "I" as a reference for all your words and deeds. First of all, tolerate your friends' shortcomings, so once you find your friends' shortcomings ... >>
Question 2: How to get along with friends? A friend is a cup of hot tea in his hand while standing at the window and enjoying the falling snow in winter. A friend is a glass of wine intoxicated by the whispers of autumn in the harvest season; A friend is an umbrella in his hand when walking in the summer rain; Friends are the spring breeze that blows away the gloomy winter in my heart when spring comes; Friends are the hope and sustenance when we are happy or sad in our life. In this world, one cannot live without parents or friends. Yes, parents have private parts, and friends grow up for this reason.
Because of loneliness, because of unbearable, life will become no fun and no style. Life without friends is like a cup of coffee without sugar, which is bitter and a little sad.
People's emotions are sometimes elusive. A person often becomes friends with an unexpected person in the most accidental time and strange place, and even they don't know how this emotion comes from. Therefore, in a world where the eyes are mixed with the fish, there is a story that two unrelated people become friends. In fact, this is a necessity given by heaven, and we call it fate. Fate is the best catalyst for strangers to become friends, and it is also the only answer to pursue the other half in life. Maybe there are too many things that are predestined friends and inseparable in this world. It has already made us forget the existence of fate, and even ignored that the true feelings are around us. Society is simple, but laity disturbs it. We all care too much about what we want, but forget to give our true feelings. Without input, there will naturally be no output, and if you don't treat others sincerely, you will naturally not get the true feelings of others. The society is fair and people's hearts are kind. If you treat everyone you know with sincerity and sincerity, you will find that life is really beautiful.
Some friends came, so happy: some friends came, pretending to be happy. Happiness is only superficial, only you know who your friends are. There is a steelyard between heaven and earth, and there is a steelyard in people's hearts, but the weight is ourselves.
People often say to make friends, but I say this idea is not correct. Actually, you don't have to make friends, do you? Some people want to make friends with you, and try their best to make friends with you, climb relatives, make friends, treat each other with wine and meat, and bridge the gap with money. This time often makes you feel embarrassed, but it is often because these friends have sent you to the point of no return.
Honor and money are just fleeting, and there is only a trace of true feelings in my heart to remind me that this world is full of too many human feelings, and this world is desolate. Only when we have experienced it with our own eyes can we really understand it.
This society was originally sincere, but it became hypocritical for man-made reasons. People who live in it also wear masks. With the change of time, people have changed.
We should be careful to make friends in this society, but we can't be afraid to make friends just because someone has been an unclean person and suspects that there are no good people in this world. To believe that not all people are hypocrites, there are always constant people, depending on whether we are friends with pigs and dogs or with mentors. It also depends on whether we have the ability to distinguish right from wrong.
Friends are lifelong things, and people's understanding is increasing day by day. Friendship is like a glass of wine. The longer it is preserved, the stronger it is and the more fragrant it is. Sometimes friendship is like a cup of boiled water, which will become clearer, brighter and purer without any impurities. A friend is someone who drinks a glass of wine and a glass of water with us, and also someone who reminds you of his warmth when you freeze in the cold.
In this world, one can't be friends with everyone he knows. True friends can't be forced, and God doesn't stipulate who must be friends with whom. Everything must follow fate, and everything in life can be forced, except "love", and friendship is the same.
Distance produces beauty. Friends are not people who get together every day. In the corner of the sea, there is a bosom friend to miss, which is the most wonderful feeling.
Through the wind, through the rain, through the invisible years Maybe we will never forget that long-term yearning in our life, and only true friends will understand it. It is a heartfelt affection and an unforgettable attachment. True friends are missed with your heart, not with your eyes every day. People thousands of miles away may be the people we want to see most, perhaps the farthest friends, and our recent thoughts. When people are in Jianghu, what we need is * * * and joy after reunion, not indifference and dullness when we meet every day.
Days will flow from one flower to another ... >>
Question 3: I don't know how to get along with my friends with a famous saying. I am not poor if I have a wizard. I know that I am in Zheng Banqiao, and heaven is still our neighbor. -(Don), neither of us is happy-forever, we meet. We understand. What is the relationship between acquaintances? . -(Tang) Bai Juyi, Mochow, I don't know the way forward, and no one in the world knows you. -(Tang) It is better to be friends than not to be friends. When people know each other, it is very important to know each other. -(Spring and Autumn Period) The friendship between Mencius and the gentleman is indifferent, and the friendship with the villain is bitter. A gentleman is indifferent to his relatives, but a villain is willing to give up. -(Warring States) Zhuangzi was black when he was near the ink, and black when he was near the ink. -(Western Jin Dynasty) Fu Xuan's life is expensive to know each other. Why use gold and money? -(Tang Dynasty) Li Bai made friends and kept his word. Villains and villains are like-minded friends. -(Song) Ouyang Xiu likes to know each other. -(Song) Wang Anshi's enemies should be reconciled, not married, and everyone should turn back. -(Ming) Feng Menglong is a hero in adversity. -(Qing) Wei's two thousand gold is easy to get, but a bosom friend is hard to find. -(Qing) Cao Xueqin changed my heart and knew each other for your heart. Boya will never play drums again in her life. -Hanshu is not heavy enough, but it is important to meet each other late. -Bao Rong, a gentleman, should be a hero in the world when he was alive. -gentlemen in the history of the Three Kingdoms, Shu Shu and Liu Ba Chuan should not worship him, and making friends with him should not blaspheme his friends. -If Zhouyi knows that all countries are brothers, where can we meet old friends? -Chen is a friend. Consistent. -(Song) Ouyang Xiu didn't know friendship until he died. When he is poor and rich, he knows friendship. Friendship was seen when he was expensive and cheap. -historical records didn't say he was ecstatic, so he didn't take a glass of wine. -(Jin) Tao Yuanming is suitable for all ages in his life. Why should he be in tune first? -(Tang) Du Fu had a heart-to-heart relationship and broke up with him. Don't forget each other after parting. -(Three Kingdoms) Cao Zhi knows friends all over the world, and how many people can know friends? —— (Ming) Feng Menglong knew each other well and missed his old friend when he was dying. -(Tang) Han Yu is a bosom friend and a modest friend. -(Tang) When you are in trouble, you know each other, but when you are alone, it is good. -(Tang) Li Bai voted for papaya and praised it as Qiong Yao ... Four seas meet flesh and blood relatives. -Yanmen set friends came full of love, and intimate people chatted and speculated. -(Ming) Feng Menglong United, breaking the gold. -In the Book of Changes, he longed for his friendly voice. The Book of Songs Xiaoya is full of joy and new acquaintance. -(Warring States) Qu Yuan's awkward friendship. People who pay attention to color love Chongqing. -the warring States policy, the husband cold frost and snow fall, just know pines and cypresses. -In Huai Nan Zi, the right is combined and the right is sparse. -historical records look at horsepower from a distance and see people's hearts for a long time. -Yuan Qu Xuan Li, far and near acquaintance, Wan Li is still a neighbor. -not as good as Wang Lun. -(Tang) Li Bai's friendship is old and closer. -(Tang) Although Du Fu has brothers, he is not as good as a friend. -a gentleman is as light as water, and his feelings are more true when he is old. The population is as small as honey, and he is like an enemy in the blink of an eye. -Friendship among friends should not be mixed. Friendship between friends is hard to cross. When poor people make friends, they become bosom friends. -(Tang Dynasty) Gao Shi was born as a brother, and there was no need for a blind date. The taste of Tao Qian is sweet, but it goes bad easily. When he is old, he knows that a friend of a gentleman is as light as water. -(Southern Song Dynasty) Xin Qiji made friends with gentlemen, and his voice was not bad. It is enough to know one thing in life and treat it with the same mind. -Lu Xun might as well find a friend who praises you. I help others, don't forget. Those who praise us behind our backs are our good friends. -(West) Cervantes In fact, everyone's friends have advanced and backward ... >>
Question 4: How to get along with friends, how to get along with family and respect them, especially the elderly. Sweet words are good, but people often don't pay attention to what you usually say. Ask your girlfriend what a family lacks and what you need to help, big or small, depending on whether you are willing to contribute. Do you have any hobbies? Since we are a close family, we should work harder.
Communicate with them often.
Not knowing how to appreciate others and not treating others well is an important reason why friends can't make good friends. There is less cooperation and more calculation, and everyone is unhappy as a result. In most cases, cooperation between the two sides is better than betrayal. The key to success is not to conquer each other, but to guide cooperation. In a word, cooperation is better than betrayal. Between people, vagueness is good for aesthetics, and clarity is good for cooperation.
The basis of cooperation is resources, and what you care about will attract you. In order to cooperate well with others and give ourselves more opportunities, we must clearly show our resources and let others know your principles of being a man. If you have information that is useful to others, if you don't communicate with others, others will not tell you the information that is useful to you. What you can't accept, what you can't support and what you can't lose, the clearer your principles, the more others will know how to associate with you.
The first step to success is gratitude. Always be grateful for your present situation, and at the same time be respectful and grateful for what others have done for you. Repaying others' kindness in time without being jealous of their success can not only win the necessary strong support, but also avoid getting into unnecessary trouble. As you treat others, others will treat you. Behavior breeds behavior. You are friendly to me, and I am friendly to you. I can't be friendly to you if you are not friendly. This is the law of reciprocal relationship in psychology. Interpersonal relationships are goodwill relationships, and people are animals with three points of reason and seven points of emotion. A scholar dies for a confidant, and a practitioner can do his best for a boss who recognizes his own existence value. Give will be given, deprive will be deprived, doubt will be suspected, love will be loved, hate will be hated, and helping others is also helping yourself. The most beautiful compensation in life is that people help themselves after sincerely helping others. A person who is kind to others and works wholeheartedly may shed some blood, but the final victory belongs to him.
Adhere to principles and cooperation will last for a long time. We advocate cooperation, but we are not afraid of conflicts, and we will often further improve in conflicts. In the era of change, conflicts are inevitable, and people should learn to mature and grow in conflicts. Tolerance is the result, not the premise. The result of blindly accommodating provocateurs and violators is often that the villain wins and the gentleman suffers. Don't be too wishful thinking. Wishful thinking is a subjective practice, arrogance in modesty. It is not a bad thing to show the tough and uncompromising side of your personality, which is more conducive to long-term cooperation and more fair and transparent.
Interpersonal relationships need some endurance. In this sense, tolerance means patience and giving each other a second chance. Even if you have betrayed and offended, as long as it is not a dead resentment, you should focus on your future mentality and give the other party a chance to correct it. So as to promote the resumption of cooperation. Learn to treat things and people differently. Before you give others a second chance, you must warn yourself that it is the wrong thing, not the wrong person, so that the second chance you give him is the real opportunity for tolerance. But the same mistake can only be made once, and it can be confirmed unintentionally once but not unintentionally twice. The second time at least shows that he doesn't care what you say, doesn't care what you say, and shows that he doesn't care about you. In fact, this kind of opportunity is often for yourself, just like thinking that you will be absurd, short-sighted, and unintentionally offended others, and others can forgive you. The spiritual path and destiny of human beings have to go through everyone, and what everyone does not absorb rarely has a chance to survive. Tolerance has a subtle power, which makes people unconsciously absorb each other's nutrition and grow together. The weak will be cruel, but the strong will know how to change others gently and considerate. Getting along with people they don't like is a kind of thinking art, and only the strong will be tolerant. Tolerance is based on strength, self-confidence and not easy to get hurt.
Never confront anyone! Never say anything hurtful. Leave room for both sides, and the room you leave for others is for yourself.
Looking to the future is good for motivation. Making the future more important than the present is also conducive to promoting cooperation. Without hope, there is no effort, and without dreams, there is no livelihood. In order to make people happy to cooperate with you, you also need to use the word "before cooperation" >>
Question 5: How to get along better with friends? When he speaks, you should listen carefully and don't look indifferent. Furthermore, you should learn to talk and communicate with him. Language is the best tonic in life, especially in the world of two people, 70% depends on language, so you should strengthen your speaking ability. I suggest you read more articles, popular novels, philosophical novels and narrative novels, which are of great help to the logical thinking of language. I just didn't like talking before, but after reading a book for a while, some languages came out of my mouth unconsciously. More importantly, you can write more things. Maybe you can write something you can't say. This is not written for you as a task. I just write something when I'm free.
Question 6: How to get along with friends? The so-called friends are similar in character. Many people have the same language and hobbies, so they are closer than the average person. Can help each other in difficulties. Friends don't always get along with each other. No matter how good a friend is, he may be separated for many years because he is not at school or at work, and there is no news. Friends sometimes change. As time went on, I made new friends and alienated old friends.
Regarding the number and distance of friends, we should let nature take its course and don't have to force it deliberately. As long as you are decent, good moral character, helpful and confident, there will be many people who like you wherever you go.
The most important thing for you now is to study hard. You must devote all your energy to your study and strive to improve your academic performance. Try to get into a good school. I advise you to stop worrying about unnecessary things! If you do that again, you will be stupid.
Question 7: How should we get along with our friends? Don't expect everyone to be your friend, that's what friendship should be. Love friends, like friends, treat friends sincerely, but don't rely on friends, let alone demand friends. Only by doing these things can you enjoy making friends. Another key to maintaining friendship is "keeping your distance". No matter how close two people are, it is always necessary to have a little respect for each other. .
Question 8: How to get along with others? I read a few words in my friend's diary:
1. See through but don't say through. A lot of things, as long as you know, there is no need to say.
If you are happy, just smile and let everyone know. Sadness, as if nothing had happened.
3. Be tolerant of others, help if you can, don't push people to the wall, and leave a way out. ...
Happiness is the most important thing. You should be with anyone, anything, anything that makes you happy. What makes you unhappy, you leave him. Without conditions, you should leave him if you create conditions.
Don't always pour out your difficulties in front of others and expose your vulnerability.
6. There is no perfect thing, and there is no perfect person. The key is to know what you want. If you get what you want, you will definitely lose another part. If you want everything, you will get nothing.
7. I like what a friend said, "Forgetting is a good thing."
8. When two people make mistakes at the same time, the one who stands up and bears is called tolerance, and the debt owed by the other party will be paid back sooner or later.
9. People who don't like it can respond with a silent smile; The person you like, that's casual, because your love will be unstoppable, unstoppable.
10. Don't be a hedgehog. If you don't make enemies with others, you won't make enemies with others. No one will stay with anyone for a lifetime. Some things don't need to be remembered.
1 1. While learning to compromise, we should also adhere to our most basic principles.
Don't stop learning. No matter what you learn, language, cooking, all kinds of skills.
13. Money is very important, but you can't rely on men or parents. You must maintain a certain ability to make money. ...
14. Don't overestimate your strength in the collective, because when you choose to leave, you will find that the sun will rise even without you. ....
15. You can forget the past, but you must let go.
16. Even if you lose everything, don't lose your smile. ...
17. No matter what choice you make, don't regret it, because regret won't help.
18. Don't say anything radical because of impulse.
19. Don't make promises easily. A promise you can't make is more hateful than not making a promise.
20. If you don't understand, don't think there will be love. When we don't understand, we just like it, but we can't reach love. When each other's shortcomings are exposed, many times this love will end.
2 1. It's better to speak directly and be frank than to be hypocritical.
22. Be nice to yourself. Don't think about anything when you are in a bad mood. Go eat what you like. But don't drink.
These words are for people who understand.
1 Don't hit women at all. If you have, you have no reason.
Don't hurt your lover's heart. If you get hurt, you really have no chance.
Don't show your charm by the number of girlfriends. You can show your Excellence with your career and a good man who cares about your family.
Learn to help women do housework. When a man comes home, he just lies on the sofa and waits for his wife to eat, which will make his marriage life more boring than boiled water.
If you love someone, please take care of her gently; If you don't love it, just say so. Women are stupid. From the moment she fell in love with you, she paid physically and mentally.
Buy gifts for the people you love. What do you make money for? Besides, a person who really loves you won't waste your money.
Don't really think that what you can't get is the best. It is better to cherish what you have now.
No matter how busy you are at work, remember to call the person you love. It won't cost you too much time and money. Because she is waiting, don't let her down.
Women are used for pain. If you are not sure to make a woman happy, but keep hurting her, please remember that you are not loving her.
10 Don't think that every woman loves money like life. It is difficult for you to make money, but there are many women in the world who can support themselves.
1 1 Remember to call her home instead of her urging you to call. It is a great blessing for you that the old man will marry his daughter who has been raised for decades.
12 remember her birthday, otherwise it is possible that she will leave with someone else on the next birthday.
13 Don't feel bored sending flowers on Valentine's Day. It's not every day. Why are you looking for such a boring excuse?
14 spend a fixed time with her. You work for a living, so she should be the most important part of your life.
15 Take her hand for a walk. Two people are walking ... >>
Question 9: How should friends get along better? How should friends get along? Sometimes I really don't understand the word "friend". In my mind, friends can help each other, talk to each other, understand each other and tolerate each other. Friends may have some little secrets that they don't want to know, but it's nothing. Everyone has secrets in his heart, which is not selfish or hidden from friends. Perhaps at some point, there will be friction and disputes between friends, which will hurt feelings, but this can not easily cut off friendship. No matter what the content of the quarrel is and what makes you unhappy, let's talk it over and get to know each other's thoughts. No matter who is right or wrong, it will always be understood and things will be much simpler. Shandong cable bridge, but if you don't even say anything but keep silent, things won't be so easy to solve. No one is perfect, there will always be mistakes in some places, but mistakes can be corrected. It's not that there is no chance to make up for them, but who will benefit if this opportunity is not given? Saying so much is just my understanding of getting along with people. You can talk about anything, and everything is absolute. If you make a mistake, you can't make it, and there is no chance to correct it. Is it not good to understand and tolerate each other? Maybe I didn't do everything I understood when I wrote this, but at least I can say that I won't hurt anyone, I would rather be wronged than really hate someone, and some just complain to my friends around me. I know it's not good to say too much about some things, but there will always be times when I say something wrong, and I may hurt others unintentionally, but not intentionally. I am a careless person, and I will make mistakes unintentionally, but I care about my friends very much. I have been trying to maintain the friendship between friends, because it is not easy to meet and become friends in this world. It's not that 500 times of looking back in my last life can get me a brush in this life, so how many times of looking back in my last life can get me a friend in this life? This opportunity is rare. Since it is hard-won, why not cherish it? If a little contradiction can easily make a friendship go up in smoke, then was there a friendship? I always hope that my friends can understand and tolerate me, don't be angry with me when I do something wrong, and don't be angry for too long, because I can't stand the feeling of being abandoned by my friends. When I do something wrong, I will apologize and admit my mistake. I have such friends. Of course, some friends don't know me, so they can't treat me as I hope. I don't complain, because this society has no eternal friends and enemies. Everyone is selfish. My selfishness is that when I admit and correct my mistakes after I have done something wrong, I hope my friends can forgive me and understand me. If you love to give me a smile, I will be very happy and satisfied. Even if I can't be friends anymore, at least I know that when I am separated from others, I am still a good boy, just a friend who is going to towards the distant, not a heroine who is hated and resented.
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