I think that a person living in this society must have his or her own opinion. No matter how good a person’s grades are, without an opinion of one’s own, it is like a car without wheels; without an opinion of one’s own, people will treat you like a car without wheels. Buried, time will make you disappear, and society will ignore your existence. A person with an opinion is a person with connotation and knowledge, and a person with connotation and knowledge does not necessarily have his own opinion. There are many famous quotes from famous people in history about their own opinions:

●You can’t have prejudices, you can’t live without them

●Listen to what others say and you will blame yourself

●Think independently and don’t follow what others say (Ai Xiansheng)

●Those who use their own brains for everything are the most commendable (Hesiod)

●We Never be swayed by blindness, everyone has his own opinion----(Denham)

●People who borrow other people's opinions can never repay this debt (Halifax Si)

●Be careful! Don't let your mind become other people's racecourse (Germany)

●It is not good for a person not to listen to advice, but it is a thousand times worse to listen to any advice----(UK )

●An ounce of your own wisdom is worth a ton of other people’s wisdom (Stern)

●If we preserve other people’s knowledge and insights, is that enough? ? We must make them our own (Montaigne)

●Thousands of opinions, thousands of opinions, gold is hard to buy. It is the master's and the guest's.

●The master and the guest come to work

●There are many hospitable hosts

●When the guests come, they will leave the piano and write books

●The guests will do as they please

●One guest will not bother two hosts

●It’s easy to treat guests but hard to treat them

●If you are not familiar with the guests, you should respect those who come

●Is the guest happy? It depends on whether the host is sincere

●Force the guest but not the host

●The host will not invite the guest and the guest will not drink

●If you cannot welcome guests at home, you will not be able to go out. Know the young master

●Ignore people at home, but no one when out

●Uninvited guests are most welcome only after they say goodbye

●Happy guests never tire of coming. , intimate people talk to each other

●Frequent guests will not be welcome

First of all, you must expand your knowledge, so that what you say will have weight and win the trust of others. Recognition. The second is to build up your own self-confidence and be able to face problems bravely. The third is to insist on solving your own problems yourself.

For example, when buying clothes, buy them as long as you like them; when you are hungry, you can eat whatever you want. Eat whatever you want; do whatever you want. As long as you feel it’s right, don’t always ask for other people’s opinions. Start with small things first and slowly develop your own sense of independence. I believe you will become confident and independent in the future!

People who are independent-minded are mentally mature. But age does not completely represent a person's maturity.

Maturity is the accumulation of experience. Once a person has accumulated a certain degree of experience, he will look at problems from multiple aspects when dealing with others, which will naturally reflect his maturity.

Accumulating experience does not mean that a person’s experience increases as he grows older. It requires long-term contact with society, communication with people of different personalities, and a certain amount of brains. Only when you mature can you become independent! ! !

Be able to make decisions and stand up when it’s critical, but never show off;

Be soft when you need to be soft in front of your lover, and don’t be confused when you need to be tough. ;

Being assertive does not mean that you have to shoulder the responsibility all the time, nor does it mean that you have to act like a man all the time, as that would appear to be too chauvinistic;

Being assertive does not mean that To be successful, you must have your own opinions and opinions when facing problems, but it does not mean never listening to other people's suggestions;

You can be ordinary, you can have no car, no car You don’t even have money, but you must have your own position on everything, but you will never stick to your position unswervingly. You have strong flexibility in different situations...

Actually, you don’t have to have an opinion. If your boyfriend makes the right decision, then why wouldn’t you do it? But if it’s controversial, you should think twice. People in love sometimes don’t Rational, so the decision you may make may not be correct, so it depends on the situation, but no matter what, you can't rely too much on one person. I'm not doubting your feelings. It's better to take the initiative at any time, but You can't centralize power too much. It's a matter of degree. You can agree with your BF, but you need to let him know that you have thought about it and agreed, rather than just reacting casually. Whatever he wants, After discussing with you, it is best to wish you happiness!

Being assertive does not mean doing what you say or think, but not doing what others say. Opinion means having a correct idea about anything, which may or may not be the same as other people's ideas. If you want to be an assertive person, you must understand in your heart: Being assertive can also mean doing the same thing as others. Some people think that simply doing what you want and doing differently from others means being independent. In this case, I can only say that their opinions are immature.