No one trains us how to be a parent, but it is the most important role we will play in our lives. We all want to do our best, we just don’t know what is the best way.

Montessori teaching is based on the fact that children have the talent for self-education and the belief that IQ can be changed. Through this teaching method, children can often show their amazing talents. Although Montessori education is not an aristocratic education, it is often included in the education system of their children by aristocrats and elites.

Every word an adult says must express respect for the child. Using appropriate words can encourage the child to become an independent thinking person. Montessori education also attaches great importance to the guidance of children's language by parents and teachers. These five sentences are very classic and can be introduced into the daily education of children. Parents may wish to try to apply the following five Montessori teacher's speech methods at home. Stable emotions and gentle words can give children tremendous power.

01

"I see you work very hard."

< p> Praising children for their efforts can help them build confidence in themselves and believe that there is unlimited room for improvement through their own efforts.

The result is second, the process is the most important.

For example: the child has finished writing a word. Instead of praising him for "well written", great writing! ”

Instead of praising the child, “I saw you worked hard to focus for a long time,” and praising the child, “Write the words carefully and clearly.” "

For example: Between two children in the classroom, the child is very good to his sister. Instead of praising him "You are such a good child", it is better to praise the child "I saw you share your beloved doll with your sister" .

02

"What do you think you did?"

Children need to know how to analyze what they do in order to explore own abilities.

For example: When a child asks you: "Look! Do you like the painting I painted?" Instead of answering "You painted it very beautifully", it is better to ask the child "Why did you choose this color? What do you think?" Which part is the best painted? "? Help children learn to evaluate what they do instead of blindly seeking approval from adults.

03

"Where can you get the answer? ? ”

Letting children solve problems on their own is a way to help children become independent.

When children ask questions, the easiest thing is of course to tell them the answer directly, but inducing them to think about how to solve the problem is the response that adults should give.

For example: when a child forgets where he puts his shoes, he will ask "Where are my shoes?" Instead of telling the child the answer, it is better to induce the child to think about "Where were you standing when you took off your shoes?" ? Have you checked your location?"

04

"How do you want me to help you?"

When When a child needs to do something beyond his or her ability, adults can ask the child how he or she would like us to assist. We don’t want our children to feel that they can’t do something because they are incompetent, but we also don’t want our children to feel helpless, so it’s best to ask for their opinions before providing assistance.

For example: a child needs to put away Lego toys (not to mention children, even adults will find it very difficult to put away Lego toys). The child may want adults to help. At this time, you can suggest "Why don't I put away the yellow ones?" , would you please pack the red Lego?" This can make the child feel that he is not alone and helpless.

05

"In the classroom, at home and in the park, we should..."

Children need to understand that every community There are their own rules, and everyone is responsible for abiding by the rules to maintain order in the community.

School is a community, so teachers will say, "In the classroom, we should walk slowly..." Home is also a community.

For example: Adults want their children to sit on a chair and eat well. Instead of saying "Sit tight!" in the form of a command, it is better to say "At home, each of us will sit down to eat."

This statement will be more useful to children, because every child wants to be the leader of the family. part of. The phrase "in our home" actually reminds children of the behavioral norms in this family, emphasizing where the norms apply. When children are in this environment, they are more likely to spontaneously remind themselves what behaviors they should show.

For example, saying to a child during mealtime: "In our family, we don't watch TV during mealtime." is more emphatic than directly saying "No TV is allowed" to the child.

Through this discourse, we not only convey family rules to the children, but also create a "sense of belonging" for the children.

Everyone hopes to belong to a "group". For children, the most important "group" is the family. Complying with the rules of this group is also confirming that you belong to it.

These 5 sentences are very simple, I hope everyone can use them.