As the saying goes, "those who are near the ink are black, and those who are near the ink are black." When you are alive, what kind of people you get along with, what kind of circles you enter and what kind of people you are influenced by will affect your thoughts and behaviors. Beggar your neighbor, be kind, be evil, and be evil. They made the right friends, benefited for a lifetime, and staggered friends, regretting for a lifetime. Therefore, when dealing with people, we must keep our eyes open, make friends and put morality first. Don't pay people with bad character. Let's analyze which types of people should not pay.

First, I am incompetent, lazy and enterprising. All I know is that people who complain all day can't make friends. This kind of people are used to complaining about life, blaming everything on the unfairness of fate, just wanting to get something for nothing, and waiting for the pie to fall from the sky to be satisfied, but how can there be such a good thing in the world? Such people are lazy, incompetent and lack of self-motivation, and are doomed to have no future. Get along with it, it will be affected by its negative thoughts, destroy their emotions and make them depressed, so such people can't make friends.

Second, people who are not filial to their parents and disobedient are not allowed to pay. As the saying goes, "Zhu Dexiao comes first". A person who is not filial to his parents is definitely not a good person. Such a person is ungrateful and heartless. Crows know how to feed back, and lambs know how to kneel and nurse, not to mention people. Treating parents is still the case, and it is conceivable to treat others. Such people must not be handed over.

Third, promiscuity, debauchery and debauchery are not allowed. As the saying goes, "the head of all evils", it is immoral and morally bankrupt for promiscuous people to destroy other people's families and hurt their loved ones. It should be noted that there is a knife on the color prefix, and the pomegranate skirt is doomed! Evil and fornication violate human relations, so don't make friends with such people.

Fourth, you can't make friends with hypocritical people. This kind of person often hides the knife in his smile. He is a person to his face and a ghost behind his back. It is impossible to get along with people who are hypocritical and shrewd. If you don't pay attention, you will be cheated, so such people can't pay.

In addition, there are people who like to gossip and sow discord for fear that the world will not be chaotic. Self-righteous, eyes above the top, look down on others; Miserable and stingy, love to take advantage of others, take care of everything, can not pay; You can't make friends with people who gloat, hit people when they are down, and are sinister and sinister; Flatterers, sycophants and spineless people don't pay. ...

People are over 100, all kinds, meet to see the character, make friends carefully, in a word: pro-gentleman, far from villain! People in this world will inevitably associate with some people, which is the so-called "birds of a feather flock together". But some "circles" may not be suitable for you, and some people don't have to associate with him. Didn't you say that "Ma Quan is far-sighted, and people have seen him for a long time"? There are really five kinds of people who can't be intimate with him.

People who don't return to WeChat can't be close friends. Wechat is also the hottest communication platform. Even a three-year-old child knows the logo of WeChat, and just send some words, that is, voice and video chat, not to mention us adults. Some words can't be said on the phone sometimes, but they can be sent on WeChat. Anyway, it doesn't matter if you can't see anyone. It's been a whole day since I sent people WeChat. I can't believe he didn't open it. Why don't I call you back? Said he was busy? Not even a gap at night? Did you say you didn't receive WeChat? Almost at the same time, I still have a sense of existence in my circle of friends. In fact, I don't want to talk to you, and I don't want to say goodbye for the first time. If you are in love, the problem is big. You have become a spare tire. Why be a "light bulb" for others? Don't hurry, "the car takes the road and the horse takes the road."

Don't be intimate with people who eat at home and choose outside. Have you ever met someone who put in a good word in front of you and didn't forget to be attentive? Their purpose is to please you and get some benefits. He will take advantage of what you have given him, and he will curry favor with others to please him. What's more, I always try my best to get your business methods, or a few customers come and give them to the person who wants to win the hearts of the people and walk with you. I will also go to your customers to slander you and rob your customers. Your reputation is damaged and your interests are damaged. It was all his fault. You should keep your eyes open and forget the past. If you die, you will suffer.

Ungrateful people should not make friends with each other. Living in the world, you will always meet a few like-minded people and make some friends. Or bosom friends, or close friends, or bosom friends, just feel the wonderful world. Everyone's road is not smooth and bumpy? It is inevitable to have troubles. I really need help at this time, and I need the help of my friends; At this time, because of our feelings, we still have friends to help us. At this time, I shed tears of gratitude, and even said that I should repay your kindness. Unexpectedly, you are depressed and even facing bankruptcy. Your "support" saved that friend, and his friend "changed his luck" but failed to keep his promise. When you "visit" and hope to get help, you encounter a series of "bitter water". I just don't help, and I still go around so much. There is no need for such an ungrateful person to associate any more.

People who have no ambition should not make friends. This kind of person complains all day that life is not satisfactory, does not make progress, and only cares about immediate interests; No matter how strong others are to him, they will always ridicule and insult him behind his back; Let yourself go, muddle along, and live in resignation; His thinking has never had a fixed direction, and he has no intention of being a good person. In short, they are all negative energy, and they are all manifestations of "poor heart".

People who are "poor in heart" will not get up by themselves when they fall, let alone think about the reasons for the fall, but always want to find an objective reason to free themselves. If you have been in contact with such people for a long time, you will really hear about it and become ambitious. This is what people often say, who to learn from. If you continue to associate, it will be even more terrible. The sooner you break up, the better for yourself.

The world is colorful and strange. Everyone will have their own life skills and abilities, and these five kinds of people mentioned above are all "losers" in life, either self-harming or being near the ink. Try to make a clean break with them in order to live a sunny life. Sun Zengyan, a volunteer expert in psychological question and answer invited by WoC:

The ancients restrained people's behavior in the way of "five permanents", that is, "benevolence, righteousness, courtesy, wisdom and faith", expecting the society to reach a harmonious and stable state. According to the ethical principles of the five permanent members, people can communicate directly with each other, with few barriers, mutual induction and harmonious coexistence. On the other hand, it is "more than half a sentence". Based on this basic principle, I think the following people can't pay:

1. Don't make friends with unfriendly people.

"Benevolent" refers to a person with virtue and conscience. Unfriendly people have no social morality and do not know how to be grateful. For example, others queue for a long time, so as long as there is a gap, they will jump in line and disturb public order; Not filial to parents, not fulfilling the obligation of support; No gratitude to those who help themselves; Disrespect the team that provides the growth platform.

People who have this kind of behavior will ignore the existence of others in the face of personal interests, just want to make profits, and will not want to return. However, if there are suitable opportunities and conditions, it will be driven by maximizing personal interests and cause harm to people around it.

2. Don't pay unjust people.

The meaning of "gang" is appropriate, and it should be tailored to local conditions and people. The performance of injustice is that they do things for profit, do not talk about principles, and have no bottom line. For example, I try my best to hide myself from others, but I like to pry into other people's privacy. Once I have the opportunity, I will spread information to form rumors, or use this information to exchange with people who give me their own interests, so as to restrict and intimidate others; In order to seek personal interests, you can curry favor with authoritative people, condescending, and show indifference and contempt for unprofitable people.

People who behave in this way will do anything to please anyone in order to achieve their goals. When you need his help, even if you have helped him, he will not lend a helping hand, because the benefits will be exhausted. Such people turn their faces faster than turning over books, which will inevitably cause harm to people they have interacted with.

Don't make friends with rude people.

The Book of Rites is a classic of heaven, and the trip of the people is also; It is used to keep a clear head. Rude people are impolite, have no basic knowledge of seniority and order, and behave in an orderly way. For example, if people love to answer, they are indifferent to others; Speaking regardless of the occasion, I don't know the weight, I swear, and I hurt others' self-esteem without knowing it; Rude, excessive and uncontrollable behavior; No plan, no rules, no team spirit.

People who act like this are arrogant. It is difficult to communicate with such people, and people who associate with them will not get basic respect, which will bring negative emotional experience to people around them.

No intelligent person can make friends with him.

The "wise man", knowing also, is a person who can distinguish right from wrong and twists and turns. No wise man is narrow-minded and opinionated. For example, we can't talk about things, because we can't let go of unintentional contradictions caused by a small matter and make enemies everywhere; Without common sense, the manner of daring to say and do makes people believe it, and the so-called ignorant are fearless; People who are smart, talk to people and talk nonsense are unreliable on important issues, and they may even provoke each other, but both sides with them are kept in the dark.

This kind of person's behavior is self-centered and the pattern is small. You can't objectively evaluate things, and sometimes you will impose your own wrong cognition on others, forming joint responsibility.

5. If you don't believe me, you don't have to hand it in.

Believers are honest. Unbelievers lie, hide and cheat. For example, two-faced people praise you in front of others and scold you behind your back; Hide some information and mislead you to make a correct judgment on one thing; In order to achieve personal goals, use your trust and take deception to induce people you associate to be deceived. In the process of growing up, these people have different bad life experiences. After adjusting your behavior, you will benefit from it and enjoy it, and continue to bring harm to others.

At this point, you will say: how can I judge the behavior of the people I associate with, which are true and which are false? People's behavior is not achieved overnight, and the performance in the unconscious state (not deliberately shown to you) is generally more real.

1. See how a person treats others (not in a state of deliberately showing you), not your own attitude.

See how a person treats the weak, not his attitude towards the strong.

3. See if a person's evaluation is objective in dealing with other people's affairs.