First, when a man chooses a girlfriend, the first thing he pays attention to is natural characteristics. Most natural features are related to genetic factors, such as appearance and figure, manners and even skin color and hairstyle. We often say that love at first sight is a special manifestation of natural characteristics, so the famous saying "My Fair Lady, My Fair Gentleman" will be passed down to this day. In fact, most men's first impression when they meet is to look at a woman's figure and appearance. As for women's fat, thin, beautiful and ugly, it is not the standard that ordinary people say, but the standard in the eyes of individuals. If they are in a man's heart and feel better, they will send out a man. So we often find that some handsome men, their wives are not beautiful, but this man loves his wife very much.

Second, men pay more attention to women's personality characteristics when choosing girlfriends. Personality characteristics represent a person's accomplishment and moral character. "Who likes gentle girls?" All the men said they liked it in unison. It can be seen that gentle and kind girls have a future. In fact, the woman who controls her husband has no choice but to be considerate. Of course, this understanding has many meanings, which can be understood as obedient, considerate, humorous and naughty. I know a middle-aged lady who proposed on a blind date. She is not young in age, but she looks average, but she has found a very good man. I used to be curious and asked her about it. She sent me a paragraph: "I came neither early nor late, neither beautiful nor ugly." But I am elegant, naughty, temperamental and have many seeds of understanding. Of course, there are women's self-esteem, women's self-confidence, and women's. "

Of course, there are many factors that restrict a person's tendency to choose a spouse, such as whether they have the same or similar status, occupation, knowledge level, values and hobbies. For another example, we will know whether the two sides have interchangeable equal resources, economic status, family background and so on. And will consider whether to meet the deep psychological needs of individuals, and so on.

Third, before and after bed is also the key to their communication. Nowadays, the communication between men and women is very realistic. Basically, sex comes before love. This is what people often say that men have sex before they have love. He tried his best before going to bed, because in order to achieve his goal, he had to feel and appreciate the comfort of sex before deciding whether to spend his life with this woman who fascinated him in bed. Of course, this does not rule out other situations. Why do some men change their minds after going to bed? Because he didn't realize what he needed, he naturally played a game out of thin air after the initial expectation turned into disappointment. So why are there so many couples? The handsome man is like Pan An, and the woman is like "Contemporary Xifeng". Moreover, if there is no way to sit down at a certain point in the relationship between men and women, it will soon cool down.

Of course, whether the appearance is pleasing or not can not be ignored. Young people usually pay attention to appearance, while older people tend to ignore their appearance and think that living with their eyes is enough. It can be seen that men not only pay attention to appearance, but also have sex in bed, and it is indispensable.

Third, men and women fall in love at first sight and love each other for a long time. Now when people meet, they soon feel fit to live together. In fact, cohabitation has entered a "running-in period", and it is easy to fall into contradictions and frictions in real life. Running-in is whether two people will live together in the future. With the deepening of cohabitation and the passage of time, the weaknesses of both sides are exposed one by one, which is easy to cause emotional friction. Different living habits and hobbies of men and women are abstract, which makes them forget each other's living habits and easily causes emotional friction. Especially when the views are inconsistent, if it is not handled properly, it will easily lead to contradictions and conflicts. Secondly, lack of sexual experience and disharmony in sexual life are also likely to cause emotional friction between husband and wife. As can be seen from the above, only after a period of running-in after marriage will the relationship between husband and wife enter a relatively stable stage.

Don't expect too much from each other during cohabitation, but understand and tolerate each other. When two people are together, as time goes by, you will gradually discover some weaknesses and shortcomings of each other. Everyone will have them. There is nothing to make a fuss about. If these weaknesses and shortcomings don't hinder the overall situation, then you should turn a blind eye, don't look or look less, and don't ask each other. For the unexpected difficulties and problems encountered in life, we should consult each other and solve them properly, and harmony is the most important thing. Don't let cohabitation give up halfway, but take cohabitation as the cornerstone of a solid marriage. After a short period of time, we should enter the marriage well and remember that "a hundred flowers blossom."