The truth behind "it is better to spread the sand than to hold it" is: have the courage to give up those things that we cannot keep. Only by learning to let go and learn to look away from everything can you push away the dark clouds and see the blue sky, and you may gain something else. Only then can we have the indifference of "Looking back to the lonely place, when we return, there will be neither wind, rain nor sunshine". Similar famous sayings include:
Everything is temporary and everything will pass away; everything that passes away will become a beautiful memory. ——Pushkin
In the storms of life, we often imitate the captain and throw away heavy cargo in the storm to reduce the weight of the ship. ——Balzac
There are no fragrant grasses anywhere in the world - Su Shi's "Butterflies in Love with Flowers"
Only by letting go can you gain. After you have gained, you will know how to let go, and when you let go, you will regain.
Let go of your stubbornness and insistence, and look away from reality and the world of mortals. The so-called dissatisfaction is just obsession. Excessive obsession is like holding a lamp against the wind. In the end, it can only set yourself on fire and burn yourself. Forget about the heights that cannot be described, and don’t look at the mirage hanging above your head. All the illusions of obsession are nothing more than worries that cannot be let go and cannot be let go.
When you clench your hands, there is nothing inside; when you open your hands, the world is in your hands.
The most difficult thing in life is not how to possess but how to learn to give up. This is not necessarily the end, a new beginning will come.
There are many difficult and confusing trivial matters in human life. What is needed at this time is decisive abandonment and wise choices. The only thing that can limit us is determination.
If you give up what you should give up, you will get what you should get. Giving up does not mean giving up the ideal you are pursuing, but giving up temporarily for your ideal.