Many people's first impression is "unsociable"

Zhuangzi said.

Loneliness means being unique.

Unique people are the most expensive.

So, it's nice to be alone.

Not gregarious.

In fact, on the other hand,

It is the behavior of the strong.

Observe the people around you and you will find that

The weaker the person.

The more I like to get together with others.

Instead, it is those who are really strong in heart and strength.

Always like a person.

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Powerful people have long given up ineffective social interaction.

The following scenario is very common.

Run to the party

Be caring and attentive to a group of strangers

Smiling all the way, we exchanged pleasantries.

Toast, scan WeChat, and leave your phone number.

But after three days, I can't remember who it is. ...

Put this low-quality social interaction

This is called "ineffective social interaction"

It's perfect.

People who always spend their energy on "ineffective social interaction"

Not to fill the loneliness inside.

Just to cover up my incompetence

They seem to be friends all over the world.

Wechat friends added thousands.

There is no one to talk to when you are depressed.

They seem to have a good relationship.

Know all kinds of awesome people.

No one will lend a helping hand when you need it.

Zhou's words hit the nail on the head.

Socialists often boast that they have many friends.

In fact, they know it.

Friendship is definitely not the dominant factor in social life.

But fashion, profit or boredom.

True friendship is not noisy.

Powerful people really understand this truth.

So I gave up "ineffective social interaction" a long time ago.

Ren Zhengfei, founder of Huawei, once revealed that

He has no personal relationship with any government official.

In addition to Liu Chuanzhi and Wang Shi, they had two contacts.

I have no contact with other entrepreneurs in China.

Many people are always afraid of "being unsociable"

Thought that "more friends make the road easier"

So I fit in for the sake of fitting in.

Non-stop running towards a lively and prosperous.

Powerful people understand

The world is your own,

Nothing to do with others.

Instead of spending time and energy on the wine table.

Make some harmless "friends"

It is better to learn to get along with yourself.

The world is fair.

How strong is your ability

How wide the network will be.

Instead of indulging in junk social intercourse,

Fantasize about others helping themselves.

It is better to learn to stand up by yourself.

Mr. Lu Xun said

"Beasts always walk alone, and cattle and sheep flock together."

Give up those useless social activities.

Improve yourself, and your world will be bigger.

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Being alone is to live your true self.

Solitary, not unruly.

Not arrogant.

But in the life of people coming and going.

Can always stay awake.

Listen to your inner voice.

Follow your inner choice.

At the turn of the Song and Yuan Dynasties, the world was in chaos.

It was a hot and dry day.

Xu Heng is out and thirsty.

There is a pear tree by the roadside.

Passers-by went to pick pears.

Only Xu Heng was unmoved.

Someone asked

"Why not pick pears to quench your thirst?"

Xu Heng replied.

"If it's not your own pear, how can you pick it indiscriminately?"

The man smiled.

"It's troubled times now, no matter whose pear it is."

Xu Heng Zhengse Avenue

"Pears are ownerless, and my heart is ownerless?"

Being alone is a gesture.

It is the gesture of some people walking in a complicated world.

Don't worry, don't slow down and enjoy the beautiful flowers in one season.

Waiting for a pure snow season.

Don't be fooled by floating names.

Don't let hypocrisy cover your heart.

Being alone is a kind of courage.

If you don't go with the flow, you won't follow the trend.

In the chaotic real life

keep oneself clear-headed

Face the reality with loneliness and loneliness

They just know better.

What do you want?

Not gregarious.

Humble, Wen Ya, keep your distance.

But they are proud and keen.

I always know my direction and keep moving forward.

For us ordinary people,

You don't have to fit in.

Of course, you don't have to be special to be different.

And deliberately unsociable

The correct way is to blend in with others.

If you can't blend in, you will disperse, and you can't go with the flow.

And don't be pretentious.

Traveling back and forth without companions is unsociable.

This is just a manifestation of life.

It has nothing to do with personality.

It is better to be alone than vulgar with others.

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Being alone is not as good as being gregarious.

In fact, being excluded and isolated by the group

It's just the survival worry of the weak.

The weak can't face the risk of being excluded from the group.

In ancient times of hunting and gathering.

Our ancestors faced a severe test of survival.

Nature is full of poisonous snakes and beasts.

Without group cooperation, individuals fight alone.

It is easy to die under the fangs of wild animals.

So, the weaker you are,

The more you try to be together.

This is the way of life handed down by our ancestors.

The same is true of people today.

The weaker people are, the more afraid they are of being abandoned by the group.

Lin said to him, really calm.

Not to avoid the noise of cars and horses

Instead, trim the fence and plant chrysanthemums in your heart

If you want to measure how strong a person's heart is

See if he can be alone.

Being with someone else

We are always in a state of society.

When you're alone.

To really find yourself.

Recognize yourself and return to your true self.

Solitude is a person's best appreciation period.

The peak of a person's life

Often depends on the quality of solitude.

If you are alone,

Just listening to songs and playing games.

But didn't do anything meaningful.

Then such loneliness is meaningless.

Really meaningful solitude

We should improve and enrich ourselves through continuous learning.

It should be to look back and think seriously.

Look back at the road you have traveled.

And seriously think about the lessons it brings you.

What makes you strong?

It is the accumulation and progress in thinking and learning alone.

In the entertainment circle

Chen is a person who likes to be alone.

In his spare time, he seldom takes part in social activities.

But will sit in front of a window that can only see the sky and play the piano.

Think about your own filming experience.

Painting quietly, such a life

He feels comfortable and quiet.

In an interview with Yang Lan, he said

"Being alone is a virtue that can purify people's hearts."

Enriching yourself is far more meaningful than pleasing others.