"I really want to live like Gu Jia!"

This is the voice of many housewives since "Thirty Only" became popular.

Gu Jia in the play claims to be a full-time wife.

Her dedication, sacrifice and foresight to the family satisfy all men’s requirements for a full-time wife;

Her status in the family, exquisite pursuit of life, and intelligence , pattern and courage satisfy all women's fantasies about housewives.

Husband Xu Huanshan obeyed Gu Jiayan's advice, whether it was quitting his job to start a business, buying a house and raising children, or developing the company; whether it was as small as home decoration or fasting for dinner, Xu Huanshan always cooperated with "I listen to you".

Husband Xu Huanshan respects Gu Jia very much and often expresses his recognition and gratitude for Gu Jia's careful dedication and care for the family. Gu Jia fired Li Ke, a female subordinate who had evil intentions and intended to seduce Xu Huanshan, and Xu Huanshan obeyed the arrangement; in the face of Lin Youyou's temptation, Xu Huanshan hesitated and refused many times, trembling with fear.

What makes many housewives even more envious is that the handsome, talented and courageous Gu Jia has zero tolerance for her husband's cheating, and her life is even more exciting after the divorce.

But in real life, "We are also full-time wives, Gu Jia is in heaven, and I am in hell."

This is the complaint of many housewives after watching "Thirty Only" .

01. After being a housewife for 4 years, he said that I only deserve a 19.9 yuan bag.

Li Ling (pseudonym), 31 years old, has been married for 6 years. She quit her job and became a housewife 4 years ago due to childbirth.

During these four years, Li Ling took care of her children alone and was responsible for buying firewood, rice, oil and salt for the family; washing and sweeping the pots and pans; taking care of the elderly and children when they were sick...

" During these four years, I got up at 6:00 every day and went to bed after 11:00 at night. I never took a lunch break and had no holidays throughout the year. Especially when my children were sick or the elderly had something to do, I would only take two or three hours of rest a day. It's an extravagant hope. I can't guarantee three meals a day. My mouth is blistered and my eyes are red and swollen. In the past four years, my hair has fallen out a lot. I'm a woman in my early thirties and I'm almost bald." Wet.

What makes Li Ling even more tired and sad than these sacrifices and efforts is that her husband never gave her any respect or gratitude. ”

Li Ling recalled that one time her child was sick and was causing trouble day and night. She didn’t sleep a wink for 16 hours in a row. After her husband got off work, she wanted her husband to take care of the child for a while while she could rest. The husband opened his mouth and said: "This is your job, I don't know how to take care of the children. "

After dinner, Li Ling just lay down to rest with her children, and her husband formed a group to play games with others next to her.

Li Ling asked her husband to lower her voice and said Since giving birth, I have suffered from neurasthenia and often suffer from insomnia, but my husband replied: “Treat your illness if you are sick, don’t be pretentious and use this as an excuse to affect my entertainment. ”

Another time, Li Ling was on her period. After washing the adults’ underwear and the children’s clothes, her stomach and waist started to hurt. The pain was unbearable. She asked her husband, who was using his cell phone, to make a cup of brown sugar water Her husband, however, had a sneer on his face and said mockingly: “You really have a young lady’s body and a maid’s life. "In the end, his butt didn't even move.

What makes Li Ling even more chilling is that since she became a full-time housewife, she has no income, and every penny she spends depends on her husband's face.

“Once, I wanted to buy a bag, so I discussed it with him, but he asked me: ‘Why are you buying a bag? Diapers or bottles? There are so many canvas bags and advertising bags at home, but they are not enough for you? ’ I was angry after hearing this, so I took my child back to my parents’ home. Three days later, he picked me up carrying a 19.9 yuan bag bought from Pinduoduo. "Li Ling let out a long sigh.

After returning home, Li Ling quarreled with her husband, and her husband even said hurtfully: "You don't earn a penny, you only want to spend money, and the 19.9 yuan package is for you. That's enough. "

"Actually, in his eyes, I no longer deserve to use cosmetics or wear jewelry. Losing weight is redundant, resting is laziness, and being sick is pretentious... The days are really like years." Li Ling lowered her head and sobbed. .

When asked about her future plans, Li Ling said frankly that she would go out to work after her children are in kindergarten.

If she never gets what she deserves in her marriage. With recognition and respect, she will stop her losses and consider divorce in time.

02. After being a housewife for 11 years, he said that I am not as good as other people’s nannies.

Wang Ping (pseudonym), 37. After giving birth to her second child at the age of 26 and quitting her job, she has been a housewife for 11 years.

“If I could exchange it with my husband, I would rather work day and night every day to be with him. Even if she earns the same amount, she doesn’t want to be a housewife for even a day. "This has been Wang Ping's wish for many years.

Wang Ping said that as soon as her husband opens his eyes every day, he has to reach out and put on her washed and matched clothes; he eats her cooked food that is warm and just right , a meal that suits his appetite, and then goes out to get off work. After returning home from work, he either sits on the sofa and browses his mobile phone, watches TV, or plays games.

However, Wang Ping has to deal with the daily necessities of food, rice, oil, salt, washing, and sweeping for a family of 6. At the same time, his father-in-law suffered a cerebral hemorrhage two years ago and has difficulty moving and needs constant care; his mother-in-law has rheumatism and varicose veins. She has to bring a wheelchair with her every time she goes out; the eldest daughter is facing high school age, and the younger son has reached an age that even a dog would dislike...

At this time, the husband and wife should be united, but the husband dislikes and treats Wang Ping in every possible way. Picky.

Once, when Wang Ping was cooking, he beat eggs in a bowl and neglected to serve them, so he used this bowl to serve his husband a bowl of rice. Unexpectedly, his husband got angry and threw the bowl on the ground. , roared: "This fishy bowl looks like it has been used by a butcher, how can you eat?"

My husband has a bad habit. After coming home every day, he will lie down on the sofa and take off his socks. Throw it away and stuff it somewhere.

Sometimes it’s under the coffee table, sometimes it’s in the cracks of the sofa, sometimes it’s under the sofa.

One morning, my husband wanted to put on socks, but he couldn't find clean socks anywhere, so he asked Wang Ping, and Wang Ping said he didn't see them.

The husband immediately knocked over the shoe cabinet and angrily said: "You can't look for it if you don't see it? If you don't work every day, you can't provide food, clothing, housing and transportation for the whole family. What's the use of you? Are you just eating free food?" ?”

Wang Ping’s husband also has an older brother. The conventional way of providing for the elderly is that the eldest brother contributes the money, the second brother contributes, and the old man lives with Wang Ping and the others.

It is obvious that the two children have grown up and are of different genders. It is no longer suitable to live in the same room with bunk beds, and Wang Ping also wants to go out to work and increase his income.

So at a Chinese New Year dinner, Wang Ping proposed a fairer way of providing care for the elderly: the money would be shared equally, the efforts would be shared equally, and the elderly would take turns living there.

This opinion made everyone unhappy.

The husband even waved his hand and slapped her: "When will it be your turn to take charge of my family's affairs?"

Wang Ping cried to her husband that for the past 11 years, she has been Cows and horses, caring for the old and supporting the young, why can't we say a word?

But the husband replied: "Your cooking, cleaning, filial piety to the elderly, and education of children are not as good as the nanny of XXX's family. It's okay if we don't dislike you. You still have merit." ?”

“Yes, of course I am not as good as XXX’s nanny. At least she only works 8 hours a day, has weekends off, has days off and benefits during holidays, and is greeted by the whole family with smiles and respect. , I just cook, clean the floor, and pick up one child every day. What’s more, my monthly salary is more than 4,000, and what about me? Incompetent, the parents' association would rather ask for leave than let me go." Wang Ping lowered his head and sobbed.

"The only way out is to end the life of a housewife." Wang Ping said firmly.

03. Having been a full-time housewife for 17 years, he said that I was the third party between him and his mistress.

Zhang Juan (pseudonym), 40 years old, became a housewife after getting pregnant after marriage. Later, due to reasons such as raising children and taking care of the elderly, she has been unemployed for 17 years.

“What I envy Gu Jia most is that she has zero tolerance for her husband’s cheating and can live a better life after divorce. However, I have exhausted my ability and capital to divorce in these 17 years. "In these 17 years, although I have been the first wife, for 14 years, I have been the third party between my husband and his mistress," Zhang Juan sighed.

The first time her husband cheated on her was when Zhang Juan was pregnant with her second child.

A woman came to her door to extort money, claiming that she was pregnant with her husband's child.

While spending money to ward off the disaster, the husband used the new-born child as an excuse to appease Zhang Juan and vowed to make things right.

“But this kind of thing happened for the first time and countless times. As my children grow up, I get older, and every time he cheats on me, I cry and make trouble incompetently. Hanging himself has made him even worse. Cheating has become a common occurrence, and he has been living with a woman outside for more than two years." Zhang Juan lowered his head.

Zhang Juan said that when she first learned about this, she came to beat and scold her, called and sent WeChat messages to attack her mistress, but her husband always had a big quarrel with her afterward, and the separation lasted longer. , living outside for longer periods of time.

“One day, my mistress @@ed an article of mine, which meant that in the world of love, marriage without love is immoral, and the person sandwiched between two people in love is the third party. I forwarded this article to my husband, who replied to me after reading it: 'The article is absolutely correct, you are the third party between us.'" Li Ling burst into tears.

When asked why she did not divorce, Zhang Juan said:

After the divorce, she could not raise the two children at the same time and was reluctant to let go;

After the divorce, she entered In the workplace, given her age, ability, education and other comprehensive conditions, the money she earns is estimated to be a problem for rent and food;

Also, she is not willing to pay for her 17-year marriage, so she is Humiliated, reviled, and exited as a third party.

Yes, how many 17 years are left in life?

So, whether it is Gu Jia in the TV series or Li Ling, Wang Ping, and Zhang Juan in reality, it has sounded the alarm to all women.

Don’t choose to be a housewife easily, unless you retain the ability to make money and be independent physically and mentally while being a housewife;

Even at home, your heart must be with your husband* **Advance and retreat, don’t be brainwashed by traditional concepts such as men as outsiders and women as inside;

If you find signs of being disliked, concealed, or denied, you must stop or stop losses in time.

Every woman deserves to be respected and loved. Even if no one gives you respect and love, you must be self-sufficient.

I hope the above words will encourage my readers.

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